“My wife wants divorce, and I don’t…I still have no idea why. I have no idea how I can get my wife back…What should I do?”
If your wife has told you that she wants a divorce, but you still don’t really understand why or you’re totally lost as to what you can do about it, then this article was written for you.
As you continue reading, I’m going to walk you through several of the common reasons why your wife wants a divorce, and then once were done with that, I’m going to explain to you what you can do to change your wife’s mind.
In other words, I’m going to walk you through some of the most powerful tips and techniques that you can use to stop your divorce and get your wife to want to stay in the marriage.
I’m not talking about psychological games or Jedi mind tricks, just a good old fashioned understanding of relationships and women.
But enough talk, let’s get to the meat and potatoes, shall we? If your wife wants to divorce, then just keep on reading.
First Things First; Understanding Why My Wife Wants Divorce
There are a number of reasons that could explain why your wife wants divorce. Many women have different standards of what constitutes grounds for divorce.
What I’d like to do in this section is talk with you about a few of the most common thoughts that enter a forlorn wife’s head when she is unhappy in a marriage. Many times these little seeds of thought will turn into big poisonous weeds in her mind, and undermine your relationship and your marriage.
Reason #1. Boredom
Let’s face it, marriage gets boring.
It’s just a fact of life… Doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong or that you’re doing something wrong, it’s just the way the world goes.
However, with sitcoms and reality TV and dare we say it – porn? – Our society has become very fast-paced and gratification based.
In other words, we want to feel good and we want to feel good all the time.
Furthermore, if we don’t feel good and we don’t feel good all the time, then we feel like there’s something wrong… We feel like were entitled to this constant gratuity and fast-paced, hyper exciting fantasy lifestyle.
Especially in new marriages and in a couple where one or the other spouse is going through a midlife crisis, sometimes the boredom can be a little bit overwhelming.
* In a new marriage, the newlywed wife suddenly realizes her mistake, and in a fit of ‘desperately taking action’ she decides to get a divorce.
* The mid-life crisis wife is suddenly reminiscing about her dreams and former aspirations, and wondering what life would’ve been like if she hadn’t married you.
Yeah I know it sounds mean, but that’s just the way it is. If she feels bored, then it’s much more likely for her to have these thoughts around this time in her life. I’m just telling you this so that you understand what your wife might be thinking.
Of course, no matter what chapter of life you’re in, boredom is always a possibility, so don’t feel like this problem is restricted only to certain age groups or even certain genders… Men/husbands certainly get bored just as often as women/wives.
Reason #2. A Negative Outside Influence
If your wife’s mother or sister isn’t too fond of you, then over time that negative pressure can become overwhelming and burdensome.
When faced with even the slightest marriage problems, a negative outside influence can have a magnified power over your wife.
So, if you’ve been having recent problems in your marriage and you know that one of your wife’s close friends or relatives doesn’t really care for you, then that could explain why.
“So you’re telling me that my wife filed for divorce because of one of her friends?”
Again, chances are that something is going on in her head that you’re not aware of. If your wife is being impatient and acting emotionally then this isn’t necessarily the way she always feels (although I’m not making any promises).
Reason #3. You Have Failed to Keep Your Word
Have you promised your wife that you would be more present at home?
Maybe you’ve promised that you would break that porn habit that you’ve had for so long?
Maybe you promised to take her on date nights or give her more time away from the house or be better with the kids or even to start doing basic household chores?
The fact of the matter is that you made a commitment and promised something to your wife and you didn’t follow through.
And then you probably did it again, and again, and then again.
If this doesn’t describe you at all, then feel free to skip this point, but I think most of us can empathize with this image… A lazy husband who has become – let’s admit it – a little bit bored in the marriage; he just isn’t putting as much energy into the marriage anymore, and it shows.
Sound familiar? If it doesn’t, then obviously ignore this tip!
But if you’ve been flaky with your commitments and your husbandly duties, then it could be that your wife has just had enough.
Again, women can be emotional sometimes. If you let this kind of stuff build up too long it will definitely become a problem.
Reason #4. Infidelity
This one probably doesn’t need too much explaining – If you cheated on your wife, then that explains why she wants a divorce.
If your wife is cheating on you, then unfortunately, that also probably explains why she wants a divorce.
Either way, it’s still possible to save your marriage (as I will discuss further down in the article) but you need to make sure that you really want to.
* If you’re the cheater, then you need to make a firm unyielding commitment to never betray your wife in that way again.
* If you’re the cheated on, then you need to consider the saying “once a cheater always a cheater” and make sure that you really want to stay with a woman who’s willing to leave for another man.
Cheating is borderline mental cruelty, so whichever side of the fence you’re on, keep that in mind.
Reason #5. She Has Fallen Out of Love with You…
Or she thinks you have fallen out of love with her.
Either way, it doesn’t really matter, in her mind they could both become grounds for her to want to file for divorce.
* Have you and your wife been having problems for a while?
* Could it be that your wife is frustrated because she feels like you haven’t seen any progress with your marriage for so long?
* How long have you and your wife been having problems for?
* Have you tried marriage counseling?
* Did it do any good at all, or did things eventually turn right back to the way they were before counseling?
It may be that your wife is finally frustrated enough with the lack of progress to give up and ask for divorce.
How long do you think your wife could have conceivably been thinking about divorce? Do you think that it is a recent decision, or one that she’s been stewing on for a long time?
But really, all of these reasons come down to one easy-to-understand major reason that lies behind all decisions to get divorced…
Are you ready?
Do you want to know what it is…the answer to “why my wife wants divorce”?
Here it goes…
Your wife has decided that divorce would bring her more net-happiness than continuing to stay in the marriage with you (even if you don’t want a divorce).
She honestly feels like happiness is either too difficult or too far away from the way things stand right now, and that getting a divorce would allow her to freely pursue their own happiness to a greater height than she can right now.
In other words, she has finally decided to pursue her own happiness individually instead of as a couple.
So, the real question is what can you do about your wife’s desire to divorce? What is the secret to getting your wife back?
Well, honestly that something that you will have to figure to some degree on your own. I wish I could be there to hold your hand through this process, but I can’t. What I can do, however, is give you this free report:
Free Download: Essential Traits of a Good Husband
I hope that helps. Whatever you do, thanks for reading!
With much manly love,