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Can Prayer Save Your Marriage?

You Only Have a 50% Chance of Succeeding in Marriage.

Divorce is the scourge of modern Western society. Dealing with broken marriages has become the norm for many of our modern-day children, leading to a seemingly unbreakable cycle of break-ups and divorce that carry over from generation to generation.

According to the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, the divorce rates in America are as follows: 50% for first marriages, 67% for second marriages, 74% for third marriages.

What is the national divorce rate in the United States? Based on many sources and surveys, it ranges between 40% to 50%. That figure is indeed a shocking one. Only half of all marriages in the United States succeed.

The children are the hardest hit by today’s society of break-ups: approximately one out of two kids will have to deal with the painful, shattering loss of a happily-married mother and father.

Marriage nowadays, at least in the United States, is basically a coin toss: either you will end up on the right side of the coin, or on the wrong side.

The Divorce Society Has Created an Entire New Industry for Psychologists

Our society of break-ups has led to the creation of a wealth of opportunity for psychologists and counselors who have made a killing out of simply listening to a couple’s troubles, and offering advice. Marriage counseling is the default solution many resort to in order to save the marriage.

Has counseling helped stem the tide of divorce? If we simply look at the empirical data, the answer is simply NO. Divorce rates continue at high rates, with no signs of slowing down.

There is a Better Way.

What then is the solution to this problem of divorce?

The key is something very basic, something often ignored, something branded as “unfashionable” by modern media: prayer.

Instead of spending hours with a marriage counselor – and spending hundreds of dollars in the process – why not just spend time in the chapel, soaking in the peace and silence offered by Christ? Why not just unload your difficulties and challenges in life to the best possible counselor?

Marriage, after all, is not just a simple contract between two people. It is a sacrament. It is a sacred vow undertaken by two people, together with God.

Marriage is a partnership with God. We must never forget that while reciting our wedding vows, we are not just professing our love for each other: we are inviting God to be at the center of our lives as a couple.

Keeping God at the center of our relationships is the best insurance we can get to ensure a happy marriage. God is the best counselor, the best psychologist any couple can possibly get. The added bonus? It’s free!

What is the Catholic solution?

The rosary is next only to the Catholic Mass in terms of power and efficacy. To keep families together, it is imperative to spend time together every day: not just in family dinners, but more importantly, in family time spent praying the rosary.

It will take strong determination and discipline on the part of the father and the mother to instill this as a daily family habit. But if achieved, it will be well worth the effort.

Our Lord Himself has promised us: “Ask and you shall receive.” If we ask Jesus to give us the gift of a happy family, He will grant it! But we ourselves must ask for it, every day, all together as a family.

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Eye Opening Marriage Statistics

Marriage statistics are very vital to any country. This is because they will help judge the actual situation on the ground as we analyze what people have been up to in this regard. They will help the government recognize potential problems and society will know where to improve on. Marriage statistics in the United states are done by several groups or organisations. The most popular sources of the statistics include, The US Census Bureau and The National Center for Health and Statistics. Marriage statistics will contain several things. The first thing is the number of marriages in the country or state. The other thing is the number of divorces. From this, the rate of divorce will be known as well as the rate of marriage. Statistics will also inform you on the number of the unmarried population. Those men and women who are are living together without being married will also be known. Statistics will also show the married population in both men and women. This means that, you will get to know how many females are unmarried as well as numbers for the bachelors.

Marriage statistics will also not exclude children. You will get the number of children living with parents and those who are not. These statistics are fairly accurate because an effective mechanism has been put to work to ensure accuracy of the highest level. Let us begin with the number of marriages in the US. Since 1960, marriages have been seen to increase. In 2005, approximately 2,230,000 marriages were recorded, this was a slight drop form the previous year which had recorded 2,279,000 marriages. Many people are aware that the divorce rate has increased. This is an alarming truth that all people should observe. The number of divorce cases started increasing in the early 1970s and, they continued to shoot up. Today, almost half of all marriages end in divorce. Those people who choose to marry again in the United States, 70% will file for divorce again.

This is a trend that is disastrous and, it is vital to look into some of the things that have made the situation like this. Clearly, more and more couples are running out of patience when it comes to marriage. They have many options and, they are liberated in this sense. Modernity is one of the things that has led to increased cases of divorce. Women are finding good jobs and dependency on men is on the decrease. Traditionally, a woman was the one to hold a marriage. This has not changed and, more women are opting for greener pastures. The blame does not fall squarely on women, men are also to blame. Cases of infidelity by men are some of the leading causes of divorce world wide. To curb this problem, singles who are about to get married should weigh their options, if they are not ready to commit totally, it is better a broken relationship than a broken marriage. Re evaluate your life and see what you can change to make your life and that of your spouse better.

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The Divorce Culture: How Divorce Became an Entitlement and How It is Blighting the Lives of Our Children.

Anyone who even occasionally tunes into television and radio talk shows, skims a newspaper editorial page or an opinion magazine, or browses the nonfiction aisles at a bookstore is familiar with some variation on the following theme: “The family, in its old sense…is disappearing from our land, and not only our free institutions are threatened but the very existence of our society is endangered.” This formulation of the problems facing “the family” is interesting for at least three reasons. First, as is often the case in such discussions, it invokes the family as a wholly self-evident, unitary phenomenon with no possible variation. Second, it captures the lure of traditional social arrangements and articulates the centrality of the family to society at large. Third, the statement is well over a century old, having originally appeared in an 1859 issue of the Boston Quarterly Review. That it sounds so current is worth pausing over.

Americans have long worried that “the family” is an wringing wring  

v. wrung , wring·ing, wrings

v.tr.

1. To twist, squeeze, or compress, especially so as to extract liquid. Often used with out.

2. . If anything, arguments like the one in the Boston Quarterly Review convey an important – if partial – truth: The family in its “old sense” is always breaking down and being reformulated, as are other institutions in a society still at least loosely based on classical liberal notions of choice and competition. Indeed, such a process is central to any social order in which people, to quote F.A. Hayek, gain “the opportunity of knowing and choosing different forms of life.”

Recognizing change as continuous helps place the anxiety it creates in better perspective. And given the anxiety over “the family,” the more perspective, the better. Discussions of family life are almost always conducted in highly apocalyptic terms; they also often suffer from a United States United States, officially United States of America, republic (2005 est. pop. 295,734,000), 3,539,227 sq mi (9,166,598 sq km), North America. The United States is the world’s third largest country in population and the fourth largest country in area.  involve minor children). The Divorce Culture seeks to explain how divorce went from a rare event to a common one: In 1920, there were about 8 divorces per 1,000 married females; in 1985 the number reached 21.7. Despite some peaks and valleys – rates were sharply elevated from 1941 to 1948, because of hasty wartime marriages; rates declined slightly from 1950 through 1958, for reasons that remain unclear – the divorce rate increased relatively steadily until the late ’80s. Since 1987, it has held constant at 20 to 21 per 1,000.

On the most basic level, Whitehead’s plea that any discussion of divorce acknowledge the effect on children is unobjectionable and commonsensical, as is the implication that, in general, an intact, relatively happy family is preferable to a broken, relatively unhappy one. However, she overstates the consequences of divorce for children and the linkage between divorce and developmental problems. And while she correctly points to the “logic of capitalism” as the coincidental co·in·ci·den·tal  

adj.

1. Occurring as or resulting from coincidence.

2. Happening or existing at the same time.

co·in  with the psychologization of American society, we entered an era of what Whitehead calls “expressive divorce,” in which a person’s self-defined happiness and satisfaction reign supreme. Casting divorce as an “inner journey of the self” reduced “the number of legitimate Remarriage Re`mar´riage   

n. 1. A second or repeated marriage.

Noun 1. remarriage – the act of marrying again  – about two-thirds of women and three-quarters of men stepfamily step·fam·i·ly  

n. pl. step·fam·i·lies

A family with one or more stepchildren.  is usually equivalent to that of a first marriage, children are “two to three times more likely to suffer emotional and behavior problems and nearly twice as likely to have developmental or learning problems as children in intact families”; stepchildren are also more likely to drop out of school, become unwed teen mothers, and have difficulty holding steady jobs as young adults.

While she grants that it is better that some marriages dissolve and that some children benefit from divorce, Whitehead almost exclusively stresses its negatives, relying heavily on the controversial work of Judith Wallerstein. Beginning in the 1970s, Wallerstein conducted a San Francisco San Francisco (săn frănsĭs`kō), city (1990 pop. 723,959), coextensive with San Francisco co., W Calif., on the tip of a peninsula between the Pacific Ocean and San Francisco Bay, which are connected by the strait known as the Golden  Bay-area divorce clinic. Wallerstein’s research, says Whitehead, demonstrates that “the experience of parental divorce damaged many young adults’ ability to forge strong attachments of their own, in both their work and their family lives.”

Wallerstein’s work, however, is far from definitive. Beyond the lack of a control group of similar, nondivorced families, she has been criticized for including parents with histories of psychiatric problems. Indeed, Wallerstein herself classified half the men and almost half the women as “moderately disturbed or frequently disabling dis·a·ble  

tr.v. dis·a·bled, dis·a·bling, dis·a·bles

1. To deprive of capability or effectiveness, especially to impair the physical abilities of.

2. Law To render legally disqualified.  neuroses and addictions.” Additionally, 15 percent of the men and 20 percent of the women were “severely disturbed,” with long histories of mental problems; only a third, hyperactive hy·per·ac·tive

adj.

1. Highly or excessively active, as a gland.

2. Having behavior characterized by constant overactivity.

3. Afflicted with attention deficit disorder. , and children of divorce Children of Divorce is a 1927 Frank Lloyd silent film, from an adaptation of Owen Johnson’s novel, written by Adela Rogers St. Johns, Hope Loring and Louis D. Lighton. Plot

Kitty, Jean and Ted are all children of divorce.  often run higher risks for problems, that doesn’t mean that problems are in any way a dropout (1) On magnetic media, a bit that has lost its strength due to a surface defect or recording malfunction. If the bit is in an audio or video file, it might be detected by the error correction circuitry and either corrected or not, but if not, it is often not noticed by the human  rate as high as 22 percent, compared to 11 percent for those from two-parent households. The single-parent figures are sharply higher, but they also suggest a wide range of response to parental breakup. While there is no question that divorce causes pain, suffering, and difficult adjustments for children (and parents), it’s far from clear that it constitutes a “blight.”

Whitehead’s analysis of the roots of contemporary divorce rates is similarly cliched cli·chéd also cliched  

adj.

Having become stale or commonplace through overuse; hackneyed: “In the States, it might seem a little clichéd; in Paris, it seems fresh and original”   and unsupported broadside against contemporary society: “The entire ethos of the American workplace has shifted toward a short-term, performance-based, limited-benefits, ten-career-changes-in-a-lifetime model,” she writes. “Increasingly…the workplace rewards individuals who are mobile, unattached, unrestricted by family commitments.”

Beyond wildly exaggerating the “ethos” of the contemporary workplace – and ignoring the fact that the workplace has always rewarded people who put their jobs first – such an interpretation fails to engage a much more complicated relationship between marriage and large social and economic shifts over the past century. As looking for Looking for

In the context of general equities, this describing a buy interest in which a dealer is asked to offer stock, often involving a capital commitment. Antithesis of in touch with.  work. Fifty years later, the figure was closer to 70 percent. Perhaps the most dramatic increase occurred among women with children under 6: While less than 10 percent of such women worked in 1940, about 60 percent were on the job in 1990. As widowhood Widowhood

Douglas, Widow

adopted Huck Finn and took care of him. [Am. Lit.: Mark Twain Huckleberry Finn]

Gummidge, Mrs

. “a lone lorn creetur,” the Pegotty’s house-keeper. [Br. Lit. .

Our society’s relative wealth and its emphasis on mutually fulfilling marriages make it likely that divorce will remain a prevalent phenomenon. The “logic of capitalism” turns out to be a tough little folkways folkways, term coined by William Graham Sumner in his treatise Folkways (1906) to denote those group habits that are common to a society or culture and are usually called customs.  generally precede laws. For instance, contrary to the blame heaped on no-fault divorce laws, the surge in divorce began before no-fault statutes were on the books. Whatever The Divorce Culture’s failings, it doesn’t compound them by unveiling a federally mandated 12-step plan to succor a particular version of the family.

The same cannot be said for Dana Mack’s The Assault on Parenthood. If Whitehead proposes solutions largely rooted in civil society, Mack wants to bring in the Marines to enforce her version of marital law. Mack, who is affiliated with the Institute for American Values, is no fan of “rampant divorce,” but she issues a broader indictment than Whitehead. Citing juvenile crime rates, declining SAT scores, and feelings of parental impotence, Mack stresses “the sudden and rapid decay of those stable social values that once fostered a protective culture of childhood.” That most indicators of children’s well-being suggest things are getting better for most kids does not trouble her analysis. (See “Child-Proofing the World,” June.)

For Mack, the family is being undermined simultaneously by marketplace values and government intervention. Indeed, government at all levels is the main villain in Mack’s analysis, a Kafkaesque unintended consequences For the “Law of unintended consequences”, see Unintended consequence

Unintended Consequences is a novel by author John Ross, first published in 1996 by Accurate Press. . Few of these stories are original with Mack: She repeats, for instance, part of Hannah Lapp’s February 1994 REASON story, “Child Abuse,” which details how child-protective services can run IRS An abbreviation for the Internal Revenue Service, a federal agency charged with the responsibility of administering and enforcing internal revenue laws.  would countenance little opposition from “free-riders” such as retirees and childless workers. “If childless working people resent a larger tax burden, they should consider who will be working to pay their Social Security…and medical bills in the coming decades,” she writes. Curious logic in a book that touts personal responsibility as a virtue: Why exactly should someone who chooses not to have children be forced to pay for someone else’s family? (And, while we’re at it, why should the government, rather than families, take care of people in their old age?) Mack ignores the school taxes childless couples and retirees pay and has no comment on the marriage penalty on two-income households.

“Work relief” also looms large in Mack’s proposals, and represents another way of pushing the cost of children onto others. She favors grandchildren GRANDCHILDREN, domestic relations. The children of one’s children. Sometimes these may claim bequests given in a will to children, though in general they can make no such claim. 6 Co. 16. ) have already been there and done that.

Her policy prescriptions – such as allowing the government to “blunt instrument Blunt instrument is a legal description of a weapon used to hit someone, which does not have a sharp or penetrating point or edge. Their effect is usually blunt force trauma, to stun, or to break bones. They sometimes kill.  used to club psychotherapist psy·cho·ther·a·pist

n.

An individual, such as a psychiatrist, psychologist, psychiatric nurse, or psychiatric social worker, who practices psychotherapy.  affiliated with Boston University Boston University, at Boston, Mass.; coeducational; founded 1839, chartered 1869, first baccalaureate granted 1871. It is composed of 16 schools and colleges. , stumps for a particular vision of “the family.” Hence the subtitle: How Two-Income Families Are Happier, Healthier, and Better Off. Better off than whom? Single-income families, especially those with a stay-at-home mother. The authors are convinced that their family model is self-evidently superior to any other, and they marshal an array of data to support their rebuttal rebuttal n. evidence introduced to counter, disprove or contradict the opposition’s evidence or a presumption, or responsive legal argument.  to Mack’s claim that women don’t really want to work and that parents “say that…pressures on women to work are killing family life.” For instance, research from a variety of sources, including a national longitudinal study, shows mothers who work outside the home report better physical and emotional health than their nonemployed counterparts. Apparently, such gains do not come at the expense of children. A meta-analysis of 14 studies of maternal bonding in children attending day care (the normal situation, one assumes, for kids with working mothers) and children reared at home found no difference between the two groups. As interesting, studies consistently show that working mothers spend as much time as their nonworking counterparts in direct interaction with their kids.

The second notable aspect of She Works/He Works is its refusal to indulge in even implicit Nick Gillespie Nick Gillespie has been the editor-in-chief of Reason magazine since 2000. He has written articles or been a commentator for many media outlets. Gillespie is known for frequently appearing in his trademark leather jacket. He has two sons, Jack and Neal.[1].  (ngilles123@aol.com) is a senior editor of REASON.

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Economic Problems in the United States

No doubt the market has improved to a certain extent, but things have still not stabilized as desired. There were several signs which indicated that things were not what it used to be in the glory days, but we didn’t pay heed. And this responsibility falls right at our doorsteps. We have taken loans to maintain the kind of lifestyle which we can’t afford, which in turn has put tremendous pressure on the financial institutions in the form of unpaid debts.

Due to this reason even sustaining oneself has become very difficult, and therefore banks have gone bankrupt. The number of items imported from other countries has increased over the years and the exports have dwindled. The following paragraphs will give you an idea of the causes of economic problems in the United States in detail.

Economic Troubles Faced by the United States

Problems with the world economy started long before they actually began in the United States. There are several countries in Europe and Asia which faced severe economic recession and depression, which has affected the economy of the United States.

When the economy of the United States was at its peak during the 1990s and early part of this decade, some major economies of the world were facing problems with their economy. This resulted in people from these countries investing in several sectors of the US economy like the real estate. At that time, the lending rates were low and inflow of foreign funds were quite high, which made the credit condition of financial institutions easy.

Since lot of funds were infused into the real estate sector, there was a boom in real estate, resulting in the prices of houses increasing. Due to the low interest rates, banks started financing people to buy such high-priced houses, even though a person did not have good credit history.

Over a period, there was a decline in the prices of houses, and as such foreign investors accumulated huge losses. The prices of houses fell to such an extent that they were less than the borrowed amount. This lead people to opt for foreclosures, rather than paying off the loan, which left the banks accumulating significant losses. This can be said to be one of the main starting points of economic problems in the United States. There are several other causes of economic recession in the United States, which has caused a rippling effect of several major economies of the world.

Due to the effects of economic recession, unemployment has increased, which has led to decrease in demand of several products. Due to the decreasing demand, manufacturers have started producing less, so as to sustain their profits. And to sustain profits, they had to reduce the number of people working in their plants, leading to further reduction in demand.

Decreasing demand meant that the profit margins of companies reduced to a great extent due to which they had to downsize their workforce, leading to loss of jobs. Today, the federal government has taken steps to boost production so as to help organizations to create jobs, and in the process increase consumption.

In the recent past, the amount of commodities exported by United States has lessened considerably. Not only in the United States but also in several major European and Asian countries, the number of baby boomers have increased, and as such there has been an increase in the social security benefits for such people and decrease in consumption. This has decreased demand, and because of that US economic crises aggravated.

The Obama administration has proposed, and in some cases has also implemented certain changes in the legal, economic and fiscal systems of the United States. The prominent example is that of ‘Credit Card Reform Act 2009′, which was passed in order to implement certain accountability related changes in the working of credit card companies and their billing cycles.

In addition, sub-prime lending and property rate appraisals are also being discouraged and proper, mature mortgage and loan underwriting process is being implemented. The labor policies are also being changed in order to cover up distortions in the systems such as lay-offs and merciless ‘firings’.

The Obama administration has further advocated different policies regarding outsourcing of work. As of today, the aim of the government is to reduce the total debts that are owed by public at large, and rectify the distortions in the economy. Increasing the GDP and exports, encouraging small businesses and reducing debt-based production are some ambitious motives that are being put into force. As per Bush it may seem that ‘capitalism rocks’ but by the grace of President Obama we can say that ‘accountability and improvements rock even more’.

http://www.buzzle.com/articles/economic-problems-in-the-united-states.html

How to Catch Trophy Walleyes

Walleye is one of the most sought after game fishes in the United States. While not as common as largemouth bass, walleye live in most of the United States giving anglers nationwide the opportunity to fish for these prized fish. Of course what constitutes a trophy will vary depending upon your state or region, but here are some tips to catch bigger walleye no matter where you fish.

To catch trophy walleye, you need to fish where the trophy walleye are. I prefer to fish smaller waters due to the fact that they are generally less pressured than big rivers and lakes. But if you are looking for big walleye you need to head for large water and if possible large water that is not well fished. This of course is a tall order! One idea is to look for large rivers and lakes that are known for largemouth bass or other species. While of course bass fisherman will catch walleye, the fact that they are not targeting walleye might leave a big trophy walleye for you to catch.

Once you have selected your trophy walleye water it is time to get fishing. Catching walleye in numbers is a good way to provide a good meal, but not the best way to catch a trophy. Larger walleye will often be near, but not in the same place as the normal sized walleye. Look for the larger walleye to be in deeper water than where most walleye are being caught. However, if there is a cool water inlet in water that is not receiving a lot of sun light, the large walleye might be right up there with the smaller ones. Shaded breaks from a current behind boulders or other large structure in a river are a great place to catch walleye for eating as well as trophy walleye.

Another tip for trophy walleye, and most any other trophy fishing, is to use larger than normal baits and lures. Big fish are more likely to hit big lures. Big fish eating large baitfish get a better return on the energy expended to catch their meal. Larger baits and lures will help to reduce hits from smaller walleye as well. While you need to be certain to use a big enough hook, don’t go overboard and present a non enticing lure.

Trophy walleye didn’t get to that size by being dumb. Be careful with boat noise, obvious fishing line, and other small things that might make little difference when fishing for average sized fish. Do everything well and don’t give up, that next cast might be the one that sets the state record!

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