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How Parents can Ease Childrens Psychological Burdens from Divorce

Children are more often than not affected by the divorce of their parents; however, the negative effects can be reduced by having divorcing parents follow these tips.

~ Talk to your child communication is the key when big changes are taking place. Changing a routine that has been ingrained in your child’s life from the moment they were born can often leave them feeling insecure about themselves, their futures, and the features of their family. Make sure you both sit down and talk to your child both individually and together and reassure them the decision to divorce was not based on anything they did.

Explaining to children the complicated nature of relationships can seem like an overwhelming, if not awkward, task, but honesty is always the best policy in situations like this. Immature and emotionally underdeveloped children often cling to the most ridiculous reasons in order to explain an unexplained divorce, often blaming themselves, so be sure you are straightforward and offer concrete reasons why your marriage has not worked, is not salvageable, and will benefit from divorce. Explain the consequences of divorce and try to elaborate on the beneficial and positive aspects, such as “Mommy is going to be so happy that she can finally do this” etcetera.

~ Make a new routine A huge change such as the divorce of parents can often lead to circumstances, which leave kids lost or confused, searching for a new routine in order to give them the sense of security that they have now lost. Right away establish a new routine. With younger children, the security of a routine will certainly take the focus away from negative aspects of divorce, and they may not even notice that anything has changed until they grow older. With older kids, it’s probably better if they are involved in the decision-making over new routines. When and where they will be with which parents should be discussed together as a family. Simply, because your marriage has dissolved, does not mean that you no longer have a role or responsibility in the family (this applies to all members) and thus the establishment of a new routine should certainly remain a family activity as well.

~ Do not fight in front of the kids. No matter how ugly or nasty it gets between the divorcing parties; it is essential  that adults take the responsibility of not arguing in front of their children. Children need to learn how to solve problems without bickering and all out emotional fighting, and the stress of being in a situation where parents are pitted against each other is enough to cause long-lasting psychological damage. Be cautious of how you refer to each other when discussing your divorcing partner. It is essential that you reassure children that you are the adults and have things under control.

Fighting with your soon to be former spouse only creates tension between “family” members and instills in children the idea that verbal abuse or unhealthy expressions of anger are “okay” which they simply are not. You do not want to end up in a situation where your children are constantly putting you and your former spouse together in battle over the most trivial of all circumstances. Children are smart, and they will play you against each other, so nip it in the bud and remind them that you are teammates as parents, if not husband and wife, so you will be making decisions together regardless of marital status.

~ Get them help – Even in the best situations, there are some more sensitive children who may benefit from talking to a professional about the events surrounding and leading to your divorce. Do not hesitate to make an appointment with a family counselor who will most likely talk to you and your child both together and alone.

Divorce is never easy, but its effects certainly do not have to be negative if parents take the proper measures to ensure that their children are aware of the reasons behind their separation and that their children have realistic expectations of their futures and the future of their families.

 

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Should I Give Up On My Marriage If My Husband Has Feelings For Someone Else?

I often hear from wives who are well aware that their marriage is only hanging by a thread. Many feel as if they are barely hanging on. Sometimes, it’s pretty clear that the husband’s heart isn’t fully in it, although perhaps he has made a commitment to you and your marriage. Sometimes, this eventually evolves a little further to where he develops or admits feelings for someone else.

I recently heard from a wife who was struggling with this issue in her own marriage. She said: “my marriage has been in trouble for about 7 months now. But my husband knows that I’m not going anywhere. I would never break up my family and I’m in it forever because of my children. My husband agrees with this in theory but it’s clear that although he’s here physically, his head and his heart are a million miles away. This is a very depressing way to live and there are times when I’ll try to reach out to him or attempt to connect with him only to be overtly rejected. The other day I got frustrated with this and asked him why we were living this way and he finally admitted that he had developed feelings for a woman at work. He assures me that he remains committed to our kids so he would never act on these feelings. But what am I supposed to do with this information? And how awful to know that he’s only here by default. At this point, I feel like I’m holding onto him against his will. I feel as if he’s no longer mine. So part of me thinks I just let him and the marriage go, but the other part of me can not stand this idea because I think what if we eventually could have made things work? And I worry about making one hasty decision that means our marriage is over. For how long do you hold on to your marriage when you suspect that it’s over for your husband, especially if he has feelings for someone else?”

This is not a question that I can answer for anyone. It really is an individual question (and a serious and long term one) that you will need to answer for yourself. However, I can and will give you some things to think about that might help you to decide on your own.

How Real Are His Feelings For The Other Person?: This should be your first question because very often, the “feelings” that he thinks he has are in direct response to the issues and frustrations with your marriage. It’s very common for people to look for the validation, connection, and support that they feel that they aren’t getting, even if they are not aware that they are doing this.

This is key because if you can set it up where your marriage improves and your husband is once again getting this support for you and your marriage, it’s not uncommon for these phantom feelings to be shown for they are and they just fizzle out or your husband realizes that he was mistaken about them.

Of course, this is more difficult if he has already acted on his feelings or is actively involved in a relationship. It’s also more difficult if you are wavering on your own feelings about the marriage or him. But if he’s only just begun to have feelings outside of your marriage, this often isn’t yet the point of no return, and many times, if you revive your marriage the feelings will naturally fade or go away.

How Determined Are You To Hang On To Your Marriage At All Costs?: I know first hand that it can be very difficult to continue to hang on when you’re not getting any positive feedback or reinforcement from your husband. It’s very hard when people are telling you that you’re naive or not living in reality. Or when people tell you that you need to look around and realize that there’s just no hope.

I was in this situation and there were times when I felt like I was being impossibly stupid. There were days when I thought that holding on must be more painful than giving up. But every time I was very close to just giving up, I’d think about how final a divorce often is and how I wasn’t yet ready to walk away. I guess I felt like as long as I had some hope, I could keep going. And I never came to a point where I was willing to give up hope.

This ended up working to my advantage because if I had given up, I would undoubtedly be divorced today, which wasn’t what I wanted. I know the “holding on” method doesn’t work for every one. To me it comes down to 3 things: how deep the feelings for the other woman truly are; whether your marital problems are ones that can eventually be worked through so that your marriage is again satisfying for both of you; and your own fierce determination that you’re willing to hang on for as long as it takes even when the going gets very rough.

My own husband had begin talking about going out with other people, but I don’t think there are any deep feelings yet, which probably worked to my advantage. I’m glad today that I hung in there, but I concede that it was extremely difficult at the time. If it helps, you can read the whole story of how how this played out on my blog at http://isavedmymarriage.com

Leslie Cane is the webmaster of “I Saved My Marriage” at http://isavedmymarriage.com

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Love Is A Commitment – How To Make Your Relationship Last

Commitment in some circles is seen as this big bad evil ugly word. You’d think it had four letters if you didn’t struggle to count them. For some people commitment is something that’s more frightening than reading a Stephen King novel home alone in the middle of the night. These are the people who get that dear in the headlights look whenever the word drifts into casual conversation with anyone who could become more than a casual romantic interest. It’s just a hard word for them to even consider much less work into their own vocabulary.

Sadly enough, the time comes in every life and romance when this word needs to be discussed to some degree. At least, if you want your relationship to last it will. Love, in and of itself is a commitment. It’s a commitment you make to that other person, whether you realize it at the time, to share at least part of your life with them. It isn’t always permanent. You’re not signing on the dotted line in blood or anything. But that doesn’t make it any less profound. It also doesn’t mean that the impact of the other person on your life and in your heart will never leave scars on your heart either. But the rewards, for most people, are well worth the scars you bear when love goes wrong. It might take a little time to gather up the will and, yes, courage, to love again but when you do, be aware that the love you feel is a commitment by itself.

If you want to make the relationship last you’re going to have to take that commitment to the next level. This isn’t an optional step for you to take. It’s absolutely necessary. If you fail to do that you will likely find yourself looking for ways to get your ex back after you’ve lost the love of your life.

These are just a few of the things you can do that will make your relationship be one of the few that are built to last.

1) Talk to each other rather than at each other. You have to really listen to what your partner has to say and say what’s on your mind. When you start bottling things up they fester and become deep problems in the relationship. Talk about your commitment issues, wants, and needs honestly and openly and you’ll see an amazing difference in your relationship. On the flipside, you must be willing to hear what your partner has to say in return.

2) Be liberal with compliments and encouragement. No one wants to be surrounded by negativity. Find positive ways to view your relationship and the world around you. Become the eternal optimist and you’ll see the bright future ahead of you that you’ve envisioned. There is no better way you’ll find to make your relationship work than by being positive about the prospect.

3) Remember the little things that bring light to your partner’s eyes. You want to be the one who puts that light in your partner’s eyes day in and day out. Take note of the things that make your lover smile, laugh out loud, and even cry. In fact, make it a point to find new ways to bring a little light into your relationship each and every day.

4) Touch often. Casual touch and physical intimacy are important in relationships. Back rubs, cuddling, and just holding hands are as important for the longevity of your relationship as long nights of sheet twisting passion.

5) Remember that your relationship is a partnership and that there are two voices that need to be heard in all major decisions. There are times when decisions are very important to you or your partner. You always need to hear both sides and listen with an open mind before making a decision that could drive a wedge between you. If it’s really important you need to ask yourself just how important it is. Is it important enough to risk losing the person you love more than anyone else in the world over?

6) Find a better way to fight. Into every relationship a few fights will fall. Some will be minor tiffs because one of you just isn’t feeling well and at other times they will be heated wars that seem to wage on for days. Those are the fights you need to learn to manage soon and manage well. Fights are to be expected in marriage and relationships. Disagreements happen. Fighting to win though is when the problems arise. When you’re fighting to win you aren’t trying to solve anything. You’re only trying to hurt the person you love so you can win the fight. Nothing good can come of that. Learn to fight to get results to improve your relationship and to figure out where the problem really is instead of fighting to win.

These are small steps you can take that will have huge results when it comes deepening your commitment and strengthening your love. Do these things and you’ll never have to ask how to make your relationship last again.

http://www.streetarticles.com/commitment/love-is-a-commitment-how-to-make-your-relationship-last

Ways to Stop Divorce

There are many ways to stop divorce. Divorce is one thing that is feared by most couples. No matter the age of a marriage, they will try as far as possible to avoid the divorce. Do not make the divorce as a major option when facing a problem in marriage without trying to fix it first.

In marriage, we can not run away from a problem. However, not all couples can overcome the problems in their marriage. Just who worked hard to save the marriage will succeed. There are several ways to stop divorce. I hope this sharing can help you avoid divorce.

Communication

Communication is important element in creating a harmonious relationship. Lack of communication can cause small problems turn into worse. Being open in communication will prevent the hidden feelings in yourself and your partner.

Improve weaknesses

You and your partner should find the weaknesses inside both of you and try to improve it as much as possible. Do not make your partner’s weakness as an excuse to put all the blame on him. You have to use your strength to help improve the weaknesses of your partner.

Listen to your spouse

Another ways to stop divorce is try to listen to your spouse. Do not try to fight back, but give a chance to your partner to put the explanation so that you can understand what is really going on. Although there are things you do not agree, it is important to understand the feelings of your partner. Show your partner that you really ready to hear from him.

Give some space

When there is any conflict, each spouse must give space to their spouses to cool down. Let your partner do the favored either on vacation, hang out with friends or doing his or her favorite outdoor activities. When your partner is ready to talk, then you and your partner should try to find the solutions together.

Get help

Getting help is the last possible ways to stop divorce. You and your partner can get help either from your parents, close friends or marriage counselors. Getting help from a professional marriage counselor is the best when all your actions to improve the marriage failed. There is nothing wrong if seeking help from outsiders to save our marriage.

Although there are many ways to stop divorce, it all depends on your decision. Correct decision will cheerful you and your partner. You should remember, marriage is a partnership which requires the cooperation of both parties. Make the decisions agreed upon by you and your partner. If you need help in your efforts to save your marriage, please visit the blog quoted below.

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How Divorce Affects Your Children

Recently I spoke with a woman whose coaching practice revolves around the issue of children and divorce. She had many useful strategies for dealing with this challenge but what it all seemed to come down to is this: if you love your children more than you might hate, resent or simply dislike your ex, then you are called upon to act with their well-being first and foremost instead of any hard feelings you may harbor against your former spouse. You must be a bigger person that the issues surrounding your divorce.

This brought to mind a line from a song by the artist Sting from the 80’s when we were still immersed in the cold war. Sting brings the song to an end with the following stanza:

We share the same biology?Regardless of ideology?What might save us, me, and you?Is if the Russians love their children too

We are our children’s role models. How we handle this divorce will have the greatest impact on their future. When your children are grown, how will they look back on how you and your ex chose to handle this situation? Will they be proud of you? Will they thank you for placing their welfare above all else? Will they learn the all important life lessons of compassion, mutual respect, acceptance and letting go of grudges and hurt? You truly need to consider these questions now.

If your ex loves your children then work from that premise. We cannot control our former partner’s every action or their thought processes. Perhaps the support check doesn’t come on time. Perhaps your ex doesn’t show up to pickup the kids on a timely basis. If we can acknowledge the fact that our ex does indeed love the children and treats them accordingly, we will be able to let go of all the little stuff.

If we are divorced with children, we will be in some sort of a relationship with our ex’s forever. To that end, we must do whatever we can to create a relationship that will nurture and support our children. We must learn to let go of grudges that get in the way of co-parenting. A toxic relationship leaks all over the place. Our children are incredibly perceptive. They know what is going on between the two of you even if you do your best to hide it.

What happens if your ex doesn’t see it that way? What if he or she cannot let go of blame and resentment and anger? What do you do if you have done everything you know how to create a mutually respectful relationship and your ex still is extremely difficult and confrontational? In the end you cannot control someone else but you can control yourself. Be the bigger person. Show your children how to do the right thing. Accept the fact that your ex is who they are and figure out the most effective ways to deal with that fact.

Let me give you an example. For years I railed against my ex because he could never be on time to pick up the kids on his one weekday night with them. Our agreement said he should pick them up by 7pm at the latest so I made plans for myself based on that agreement. Never happened and I now understand that it probably never will. Sometimes he is on time but usually not. I tried to control the situation but all it did was make me angry and frustrated. Worse still, my daughter revealed that she felt like a burden because I was always complaining about not being able to adhere to my night out’s schedule.

So I accepted reality and instead always made certain that I had coverage should he be late. I also attempted to have my plans start as late as possible just in case. It was so much easier than fighting a lost cause and it protected my daughter’s feelings and self-esteem. In the end, it was not such a big deal. I gave up being right because the price to pay was far too high.

Here’s another challenge for you when dealing with your ex: thank them when they do what’s right. Apologize if you make say something hurtful or don’t honor an agreement. Everyone wants to feel respected. It goes against how we may be feeling but this has to do with creating an environment that will gift your children with peace.

There are indeed strategies that you can adopt in dealing with your children. Always ensure that your kids know that the divorce has nothing to do with them and isn’t their fault. To do so you must be honest to a certain degree in an age appropriate manner. Confide in them but stay away from any adult themed moral issues. Remind them that Mom and Dad are still Mom and Dad and that will never change. Always ensure that they feel loved and safe and secure. Don’t criticize your ex in front of the kids because then they will feel guilt about loving their parent. Don’t force them to make choices and decisions that will put them in a position of choosing between one or the other parent.

Did I do all this? I am sorry to say I did not. I was very angry and resentful and all too often I let those emotions run the show. I have lived and learned. It is a never- ending process. Just recently I called my ex to see if we could repair a misunderstanding for the sake of our wonderful kids. What I have learned is that our emotions hijack us and we say and do things that we know are wrong, albeit after the explosion. If I could do anything differently, it would be to use the skills I now impart to my clients on controlling emotional reactive behavior.

Start becoming more aware of your body’s cues as to when you are heading into your danger zone of emotional reactivity. Catch yourself before you react and walk away. Take a few minutes to do some deep breathing and get your body and mind back into a rational mode. Perhaps you need to go take a ten-minute walk. Walk away when you become emotional because you are only heading for trouble. When you have returned to a state of equilibrium then and only then decide on the best way to handle the situation.

Parenting is life long process. You may not see the rewards of your sacrifices today or even in the next few years but they will come sooner or later. Usually later. If you think that you have made some mistakes, clean up the mess. Let your kids know that you have learned a great deal and are the wiser for it today. They will come to know in their own time that life does not always go as planned and our experiences hold hidden treasures.

Shelley Stile is an ACC certified Divorce Recovery Life Coach and author. Shelley guides her clients to let go and move on after divorce. Read her new book 95 Tips to Transform Your Life After Divorce at www.divorcesupportbook.com. For more information and the new tele-seminar series, go to www.lifeafteryourdivorce.com.

Name Change After Divorce Tips

It is possible to legally change the name of a woman after a divorce. However many people do not worry much about changing their names as there are many other things to consider. But if a woman really wants to change her name it is possible.

Also it is true that changing your name to your maiden name helps a woman to return to her former self. Generally women find it difficult to adjust with the divorce at least for some time. The name change is a good step towards the acceptance and recovery from divorce. So the name change after divorce is a positive thing for many women. These are the benefits attached to the name change after divorce.

A woman can include the request for changing her name in the divorce papers. This is convenient compared to going for a change later. Name change after divorce is up to the woman. Although it is not necessary, if a woman wants it, it is easily possible. If this is not done as above you will have to file another request for it. This will be difficult and so it is better to finish everything in one step.

Once you have changed your name you will have to change your name on your driving license. It is also necessary to change the name of an employee legally. You will have to change the name in other documents like bank documents etc. The copy of the judgement will include the change of name also. This has to be collected from the office of the court’s clerk.

Do not forget to inform everybody you know about the change. One important thing regarding name change after divorce is answering to different people. Those people who know you only by the name you used before the divorce may take sometime to get familiarised with the change. You have to be well- prepared to answer those questions.

Another thing regarding name change after divorce is to convince your children. This is not a big task but you have to do it carefully. Just tell them about the change as simply as you can. If you tell them directly it will avoid many problems.

It is better to stick to your old name after divorce as this may avoid a lot of complications that can arise if you wish to adapt a new name. Nowadays it is possible to change the name of the children also but this is possible only if the court realises that it will not have negative effects on the child. Name change after divorce for a child is easier nowadays compared to old times.

Generally the judges consider several facts before deciding on a name change for children when their parents are granted divorce. These facts include the time period when the name of the father was used by the child, the relationship between mother and child etc. This is to ensure that the change of name will not affect the child.

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Reflections: How marriage and divorce affect children

It is widely known that divorce is hard on everyone involved, including children of divorcees. There is some disagreement, however, on the degree of harm that divorce does to children. Today, I want to discuss two opposing views on the effects of divorce on children. First, I will give a brief summary of the two views. Then I will highlight the differences. Finally, I will talk about their similarities.

The first viewpoint I would like to discuss is that of Judith S. Wallerstein. Wallerstein wrote a book titled “The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A Twenty-Five Year Landmark Study. In it, she claims divorce is “devastating to most children and that the effects are long lasting.” According to Wallerstein, children with divorced parents suffer more depression, more substance abuse, lower grades, and are more likely to need psychological help than children from intact families. She says that the real impact, however, hits them when they become adults. Without a model of a loving, stable relationship, they don’t have the background to find or maintain one themselves. Wallerstein argues that we as a society need to examine our views on divorce and change them to benefit the children. She does concede that sometimes divorce may be necessary, such as in instances with abuse. But she also claims that “even a bad marriage might be better for kids than divorce.” (Atlas, pp.1-2) Countering this opinion is research conducted by E. Mavis Heatherington. In her book, “For Better or Worse: Divorce Reconsidered,” She found that most children of divorce do not have significant long-term damage and function well as adults. She does concede that 20-25% of children of divorce do have serious problems, but we tend to focus on this small amount of negativity when we should be focusing on the overwhelming majority of cases that are positive. (Corliss, pp. 1-2) Other than their obvious difference of opinion, the research methods of Wallerstein and Heatherington were also vastly different. Wallerstein studied 60 children for 25 years in Marin County, California. Her methods involved thousands of hours of interviews with the children throughout their lives. This is a very subjective look at the subjects, but gives us an in-depth look at the emotional impact of divorce on children. (Saposnek, p. 1) Heatherington, on the other hand, took at objective look at more than 2,500 children over a span of thirty years. She never talked to any of the kids. Instead, she looked at their records and

http://www.helium.com/items/438579-how-marriage-and-divorce-effect-children

10 Tips to Get Through Your Contested Divorce

Cool it

Keep your cool and do not over react. Even if you feel like the world is coming to an end, many people have gotten through, survived and even flourished after a divorce. Losing your temper is a bad thing to do when you’re in the middle of a divorce. Do not file false orders of protection to further your case, and do not cause someone to be able to file an order of protection against you.

Get Counseling

Even if your marriage is over, get counseling for yourself. Counseling will help you deal with the emotional issues you’re experiencing as well as help you with keeping your cool.

Silence is golden

If you can’t say something nice, just say nothing. Your mom was right. Now that you’re getting a divorce rehashing old wounds is over. Let it go, be quiet, and move on. On this note, if you both have attorneys, do not speak to the opposing counsel yourself. Let your attorney do it. If your spouse is representing himself, refer him to your attorney. Allow the lawyers to discuss the legal issues so that you both can concentrate on parenting.

Act with integrity

No matter what reason you’re getting a divorce, try to act with the highest amount of integrity that you have. Lying, sneaking, and illegal activities will get you no where. Now that you’re involved in a divorce you will have to answer to everything you say or do. Assume everything you say is being recorded, and everything you do is being noted.

Honesty is the best policy

Always tell your attorney everything even if it puts you in a bad light. Do not make up stories about your ex to make him look worse. Just tell the truth. Most states have no fault divorce now so the why of divorce is not going to matter much anyway. So, even if the divorce is your fault, just tell the truth. Your attorney cannot represent you well if she isn’t aware of the circumstances. The truth will come out, so she may as well know it going in.

Keep children out of it

Do not talk to your children about your divorce case. Do not show your children divorce documents, or in any way talk badly about the other parent within their ear shot. Don’t so much as roll your eyes or grimace at the mention of his name. This is your child’s parent. If asked, you tell the children that you both love them and that this is an adult issue, between the two of you. You say this no matter how you feel. In this matter, your feelings are irrelevant.

Record everything

Create a notebook, or use a calendar to notate every visitation, parenting time, phone call, or conflict . Notate things without emotion or commentary. Keep any correspondence, emails, letters, phone records. Realize that it depends on what state you live in whether you can actually record phone conversations or not. If it is illegal, it would be best not to do that. If you chose to go this route, please do keep it from your children. Do not forget the tip above.

Digitize it

Take digital photos of everything you own and organize it by his, mine and ours. Provide this to your attorney. Include your cars, jewelry, home, even your washer and dryer.

Prove it

If you make an accusation about something make sure you can back this up with third party evidence. Otherwise there is no point in making the accusation. If you cannot prove it, just let it go.

Be real

Sometimes it is easy to get carried away with demands during a divorce. Be realistic in your demands. If you are asking for a lot of money each month, or all the property, consider the other side’s view for a moment. Your ex spouse has a right to live a good life after divorce just as you do. Divorce court is not the place to act out your revenge fantasies. You’re not going to get even in court. More than likely if you’re unrealistic you will get a lot less in court than what you would have gotten in an agreed settlement.

Stephanie Watson is a friend, sister, daughter, mom, step-mom, and wife. She lives, loves and laughs and works as a content strategist, and virtual assistant in beautiful Huntsville Alabama.  View profile

Rock-‘n-Roll, Drugs, Divorce and Diversity — Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing Spring 2012 Releases

Deadwood, OR (PRWEB) May 01, 2012

Independent publisher Wyatt-MacKenzie is all sex, drugs, rock-‘n-roll, and race relations this Spring with a richly diverse crop of books, awards, and eBooks for May 2012.

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THE CHALK CIRCLE, Tara L. Masih’s collection of intercultural prizewinning essays launches Friday, May 4, 7:00pm, at Books Inc. on Van Ness in San Francisco. Masih will lead a reading with essayists Li Miao Lovett, Toshi Washizu, Lyzette Wanzer, Samuel Autman, Tilia Klebenov Jacobs, and Gretchen Brown Wright. Tori Grant-Welhouse reviews in Her Circle magazine, “THE CHALK CIRCLE is intelligently and thoughtfully compiled, unified by a belief in writing to further our comprehension of what can (or should) define us, as individuals and as a global culture.” Read more of this comprehensive review: bit

New York Times bestselling author and political comedian Lewis Black called DEAR DAD, IT’S OVER "A must-read for any divorced parent or any child who has had to go through it.” Touring across the country in clubs and colleges, comedian and actor M Dickson opened last month for Kathleen Madigan who wrote about M’s book, “It made me think.” ForeWord Reviews states, “Her ability to articulate her feelings will be helpful for teens or young adults going through similar circumstances, but the book would also be a good choice for divorced parents of young children. As Dickson’s experiences prove, sometimes the emotions surrounding a divorce cloud the judgment of those involved, and the book could offer some reminders to parents and caretakers.” Read this review: bit

When acquisitions editor Lisa Pliscou saw Matt Bellace’s book, A BETTER HIGH, she knew it would fit perfectly on Wyatt-MacKenzie’s roster (the publishing company celebrates its 14th year in 2012 and Wyatt, MacKenzie, and Lisa’s son Max, have all become teenagers!). Bellace speaks to over a hundred thousand students a year on how to pursue natural highs and make healthy choices. A recurring comedian on truTV’s "The World’s Dumbest," his stand up can be heard on Sirius XM’s Comedy Channels.

“THIS ROCK IN MY HEART is chick lit for rocker moms, not soccer moms!” reviews Sandy King Carpenter, a writer and film producer. Every girl who ever went to Hollywood with stars in her eyes will wish she were walking in Tommie Vaughn’s character’s shoes, or more precisely, her turquoise snakeskin cowboy boots, as she pursues her dream. Rock-‘n-Roll journalist Lonn Friend describes, “deeply heartfelt, invites the audience into the sacred space of an artist, it gives you a laugh, a tear, a wise crack and a woody.” Vaughn’s indie band, Wall of Tom, is also releasing a new album alongside the book. Legendary singer/songwriter, author/publisher Henry Rollins says of the first single, “a well written, performed and meant song, free of cynicism. Rare in these times."

All new titles are available in paperback, and on iBook, Kindle and Nook.

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A SUBURBAN MOM: Notes from the Asylum (2007) by journalist Meredith O’Brien was re-released on Kindle, Nook and iBook — called "refreshingly honest, hilarious, poignant, and searingly true" by MomCentral.com founder Stacy DeBroff. Also available digitally for Mother’s Day is SPECIAL GIFTS: Women Writers on the Heartache, the Happiness and the Hope of Raising a Special Needs Child (2007) edited by Arlene Schusteff. The New York Times Sunday edition ran an excerpt five years ago of one of the essays by talented writer Lisa Romeo (nyti).

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Book Award Season has begun! Suzanne Kamata’s short story collection THE BEAUTIFUL ONE HAS COME (2011) won a 2012 Nautilus Award for books which “promote spiritual growth, conscious living & positive social change.” The Holocaust memoir by Marika Roth, ALL THE PRETTY SHOES (2011), is a ForeWord Magazine Book-of-the-Year finalist. THE CHALK CIRCLE is a winner of the 19th Annual Skipping Stones Honor Awards for “promoting an understanding of cultures, cultivate cooperation and encourage a deeper understanding of the world’s diversity.”

Wyatt-MacKenzie Publishing, Inc. in Deadwood, Oregon has been providing an unparalleled author experience since 1998. Highlights of Wyatt-MacKenzie’s recent media include: a national TV appearance by author Laurie A. Couture on Anderson Cooper’s daytime talk show discussing her book INSTEAD OF MEDICATING (2008); and publisher Nancy Cleary is profiled in Oregon Business Magazine (June 2012 Issue) among Oregon’s multi-million dollar mom-centric businesses, with two books appearing on the cover — MOM  # and POWER MOMS (2011) both by media expert Maria Bailey.