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Preventing an Ex From Controlling You After Divorce

When an ex-husband is angry, bitter or not fully accepting that a marriage has ended, he may attempt to control his former wife as a way of preventing her from moving on without him. Like an attention-starved child exhibiting unruly behavior in search of attention, it does not matter to a controlling ex-husband that he is furthering the wedge between he and his former wife. Even if he can temporarily satisfy his anger or receive bitter attention, he is willing to continue his controlling behavior at any cost. However, there are effective ways of preventing him from doing so and continuing with your life despite his upsetting efforts.

Recognize Your Right to Life

Before your ex-husband’s behavior can be stopped, however, you must realize that you have a right to live in peace. Your marriage and subsequent divorce may have been a chaotic experience, but you survived both because you wanted a better life. Allowing him to control you now serves no good purpose, as it prevents both of you from moving forward and toward happiness. Your decision to stop his behavior should be guilt-free and you must be firm in your efforts to stop it.

Here are a few problems you may face and their solutions:

PROBLEM: He uses your children as a tool to control you.

SOLUTION: Affirm that you owe it to yourself and your children to immediately stop this unhealthy behavior. Therefore, flat out refuse to allow yourself to be manipulated to conform to his wishes. Know that this kind of manipulation is not about your children’s well being, but is all about his unwillingness to accept reality and move on.

PROBLEM: He will not pay child support unless you do what he wants.

SOLUTION: File a petition in court requesting support. If he has already been ordered to pay support and still refuses, return to court and ask the judge to enforce the order. Do not play into his hand by giving in to his demands, nor should you repeatedly ask him for support on your own. The reason why you were required to go to court in order to resolve your marriage is because, legally, the court has jurisdiction over the terms of its dissolution. When an order has been made (or needs to be made), rely on the courts to enforce it. Your ex wants to unnerve you until you conform to his wishes, but if you show him that he will need to answer to the courts if he doesn’t do what is right, he will get the message that you are serious and unafraid to pursue yours and your children’s interests.

PROBLEM: He second-guesses everything you do and openly criticizes you.

SOLUTION: This is an obvious attempt to make you feel weak and incapable of living on your own. The simple solution to this is to strengthen your own self-confidence and trust your own instincts. Also, though you may have relied on him as your life partner in major decisions while you were married, you must realize that you are now single and that his approval is not needed. To that same point, practice relying solely on yourself and not even discussing your plans with him. Whether you succeed or fail, it is your life to do with it as you please. Find the inner strength to live on your own terms and stop giving your power to your ex instead.

Take Control!

When you are in control of your life, there is no room for anyone else to do so. Stopping your ex’s control means that you must step up to the plate and be strong in determining to manage your own life. Do not get into the practice of doing things to spite him because that is still allowing him to control you in a roundabout way. Instead, be confident in who you are and your ability to make quality decisions.

Vanaja Ghose (http://www.divorcedtodazzling.com) is a

Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or

long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives.

Download your FREE mp3 audio on “Nine Steps to Building a New Life After

Divorce” and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session athttp://www.divorcedtodazzling.com

J. M. Barrie, the Man With The Fatal Touch.

 If you are familiar with the rather ‘twee’ Disney, version of  Peter Pan, based on the famous book by J.M. Barrie, or the 2004 film, Finding Neverland, which portrayed Barrie as a charming yet eccentric fellow, your surprise will be evident, as was mine, when I heard the ‘real’ story. Yet it is difficult to really know what is truly ‘real’ and what is manufactured. Was Barrie misunderstood, as some claim, or was he malevolent as others emphatically counter.

Born in Scotland

The man, who would become Sir James Matthew Barrie, 1st Baronet , was born in Scotland to a father who was a weaver. As to Barrie’s mother, well this is where the tale becomes twisted and strange. His mother apparently idolised Barrie’s brother, David, however David died two days before he turned 14, from an ice skating accident. A pall settled over the household, as the devastated and depressed mother took to her bed.Young Barrie, who was six a the time, began wearing his dead brothers clothes and whistling the tunes that David had whistled before his death. It is understandable that the young, confused child, who stood for hours outside his mothers darkened room, would try to fill the hole in his mothers affections, but this was not to be.

http://www.infobarrel.com/J_M_Barrie_The_Man_With_The_Fatal_Touch

A Marriage Saving Wager

There you are, trying to decide whether your marriage can be saved, or if you even want to save it! Many times, we find ourselves struggling and struggling, ready to just give up. We tell ourselves that it just isn’t worth it, but then find ourselves looking for information.

That usually means you aren’t quite ready to “throw in your towel.” So, why not take what I am calling “Baucom’s Wager?”

What is Baucom’s wager? Glad you asked. But first, you get a short history/philosophy lesson. I promise it won’t be painful.

Back in the 1600’s, philosopher Blaise Pascal was struggling with the many topics that could not, at that time, be proven. He was pushing for people to use reason. Into that fray he stepped, trying to address belief in God. The obvious then is still the obvious: God remains unprovable (and undisprovable) by science. So, Pascal saw it as a matter of faith.

He proposed a wager that is now know as Pascal’s Wager. The wager is this “People should believe in God, as it makes reasonable sense. If you believe in God, and there is no God, you have lost nothing. If you believe in God, and there is God, you have gained everything. If you don’t believe in God, and there is God, you lose everything.” In essence, the only losing position was not believing in God, and finding that there is God. For Pascal, it was clear that it only made sense to believe in God.

Now, here is Baucom’s Wager. I apply it to whether or not you should work to save your marriage. Don’t worry, it is not about God, merely that I am borrowing Pascal’s frame. So, here is my Wager:

* If you work on your marriage, and it cannot be saved, you have lost nothing.

* If you work on your marriage and save it, you have gained your relationship.

* If you do not work on your marriage, you have lost the relationship.

In essence, it is reasonable to work on the relationship. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! In fact, if you look at the wager, it is obvious that you should work on your marriage. Until the marriage is over, or until you are truly ready to stop, keep up the resuscitation!

During my first-aid training, I remember one fact drilled into our heads: once you start resuscitation, don’t stop until the doctor says stop. The reason is simple: no matter how dead the person may look, you don’t know when he or she may resuscitate. In other words, no matter how dead your relationship may look or feel, you don’t know what you might do or say in your efforts that may revive it.

Sometimes, the difference between failure and success in anything is the willingness to keep trying. This is absolutely true for this circumstance! I have seen marriages that everyone thought were dead and buried suddenly become powerful relationships, full of love and future.

Ready to take the wager? Ready to save your marriage? Grab the information you need, including a FREE e-course by going to Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has assisted many couples, most on the edge of divorce, to restore their marriage. He can help you resuscitate your marriage, too!

The Lack of Communication and Divorce

When people get married, they think that they are the perfect couple until they find themselves to be getting a divorce. There are many reasons for a divorce, but communication seems to be a big one. When a couple has poor communications between them, they can be suddenly wondering who the other person is. When there are no lines of communication in a relationship there, is little doubt that the relationship will eventually end in divorce. People have more free resources and the ability to make a marriage stronger. There are several different ways to learn how effectively to communicate with each other.

The rate of divorce yet still seems to increase due to the lack of communication between the partners. Divorce has become something that in the past was not acceptable, yet it is now an everyday occurrence. When there is a lack of communication relationships seem to fall apart. The partners in a healthy marriage seem to have a more open way of talking with each other than others do. They discuss everything to be sure that they are on the same page, so to speak. Divorce is commonly done because of this lack of being able to talk openly to each other, and express their feelings and emotions.

Some areas that a good communication between the couple include:

* What their personal interests are

* What they expect from each other

* Future goals and someplace they want to be in a certain period

* Children to have them or not

* Pets

* Buying or renting a house

* Careers or jobs

* Being a homemaker or not

These are only some things that should be talked about openly to help make sure that both partners know what the other feels and thinks. These topics can have an extremely large impact on how day to day live with each other can be. If they do not agree on some simple things, they may not agree later on much bigger areas of their lives or changes that occur over time. This can result in a communication difference and can feel stuck in a relationship that is no longer what they want.

Knowing and talking about how they want their lives to be is only one part of whether a marriage will make it or end in a divorce. Having children can sometimes bring a couple that might be on the verge of splitting up, back together. If a marriage, is unplanned or based on a teen pregnancy, or pregnancy at all that might not be planned could cause resentment with the couple. There can be times that the lack of communication will tear what seems to be a strong couple apart.

Having a decent communication from the beginning and working on it could very well save a marriage, yet if there is none it can end in divorce. The lack of understanding how each other feels and what they are concerned with will only produce a wedge between any couple. Divorce because of this has become extremely common in the past.

The Lack of Communication and Divorce” is an article of StateDivorce, a database of Irvine vicinity lawyers.

Children And The Big "D's": Death, Divorce And Deployment

Children are often the unintended victims of life crisis. Parents don’t always think how their decisions will affect the children in their family before making them. If a marriage has become irreparable each may be focusing on their feelings only. The parents may forget that they, NOT the children, are the ones with feeling of hate and hurt. Too often an angry parent tries to inflict pain on the other spouse by using the children in a cruel game.

If a loved one dies, the parent(s) may be involved in their own mourning and forget that there is still a child at home worth “going on for”. They overlook that the life of the children has changed dramatically as well, and the family, as a whole, now has a “new normal” to adjust to.

Children of deployed parents are often overlooked in the arena of grief and loss. When a spouse is deployed, the parent left behind may be so overwhelmed with new responsibilities of raising a family alone they over look the feelings of the children left behind too. Society also gives conflicting messages from, “soldiers are heroes and serving our country is a noble thing”, to “We shouldn’t be at war! We should keep our noses out of other’s business.” Should the child be proud of their parent, angry that they left, or fearful that they will never see them again?

Grief is an emotional reaction to a loss; Mourning is the expression of that grief. Listed below are a few symptoms and suggestions to help your child cope with their grief and mourn in a more productive manner. Death is final, divorce can be very ugly and deployment of a parent is often wrought with fear, pride and confusion. Remember, it takes time and each person/child will adjust according to their own time clock. There are no easy or fast answers, these are just suggestions to ease the life adjustment back to a new reality.

Feelings: Sadness, disbelief, sorrow, guilt and regret, depression, fear, anger, overwhelmed, numb, relief, confusion, emptiness.

Behaviors: Withdrawal, isolation, crying, regression, clinging, acting out, search for identity, risky behavior, excessive sleeping, talking about dying, lowered grades or school may become “safe haven”, erratic sleep patterns, nightmares, fear of causing further pain or adding burden to parent, parenting the parent.

Coping Skills: Listen to them when they talk and let them cry, give age appropriate information, be honest but NOT belittling, explain what death/divorce/deployment means, involve child in planning of funeral/move/new family routine, assure them they are NOT responsible for the loss, provide a journal for the child to write (or draw) their feelings and thoughts, help to create a memory box, write letters or draw pictures for the person who left, offer your love and understanding, tell them that you also have feelings of (sadness, loss, grief, anger, fear) so they don’t think they are alone, tell them you will be there for them, take extra time for them, create rituals of memories.

http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/Children_and_the_Big_D_s_Death_Divorce_and_Deployment.html

The Pain of Divorce- What to Expect and How to Move Forward

Divorce can cause a lot of unwanted stress, unwanted pain and unwanted disappointment. However, one of the best ways to overcome this pain is to identify the feelings and work past them. Whether you are the one who did the leaving, or whether your husband left, you will experience pain, anger, anxiety, and sadness. Below we have outlined three of the common painful feelings that may creep into your life before, during and after a divorce, and how to push them out the door for good.

Anger – Of course you are angry. You are angry at yourself for letting the marriage spiral out of control; you are angry at your husband for not giving more to the relationship; and, if someone else is involved, you are most certainly angry at her for ruining your life. If you got involved with someone, then you are angry with yourself for allowing it to happen. Although some anger is healthy, you need to know how to control this anger before it spirals out of control. See a therapist or a coach who can help you get to the root cause of the anger and channel this anger in healthy ways such as exercise, meditation and stress relief activities. One of the best ways to get over this anger is to get together with your girlfriends, order takeout and some wine, and vent it all out. The anger will not go away overnight. In fact, it may take years, but, in time and with plenty of long chats with your girlfriends, it eventually will.

Anxiety – The feeling of anxiety can be the most painful of all. It affects your ability to function properly during the day, to sleep well at night, and to get on with the regular activities. Most anxiety is centered on moving forward and sorting out the past things you shared, such as children, finances and property. Take it one step at a time. Hire a divorce lawyer to help you through it and always remember that it’s going to work out fine- just because you are getting divorced does not mean it is the end of lose your life. If the anxious feeling in your stomach and the stress is becoming too much, try to practice stress relieving activities. Exercise, warm baths, visits to the spa and time alone can all help relieve the daily pressures and the added pressure of the impending divorce.

Sadness – Regardless of whether or not you instigated the divorce, you most likely are feeling quite sad about the whole situation. After all, he was the love of your life. You can’t just put those feelings in a bottle and forget they ever existed. Although you may not be in love with your husband after the divorce, you most likely will always love him for the memories he gave you. It’s okay to be sad, to cry, and to wish it never happened. A divorce is a loss that takes time to heal. Try to remember that the happiness that you shared will always be a part of you- although perhaps you will not find that happiness with your husband again, there is always hope for an even stronger love in the future.

©Vanaja Ghose 2009

Vanaja Ghose (http://www.leavingyourmarriage.com/?page_id=5) is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Download your FREE mp3 audio on “Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce” and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at http://www.LeavingYourMarriage.com/

Divorce. Why Do Middle-Aged Men End Their Marriages and Leave Their Wives and Children?

Marriage breakdown and divorce are all too common and nothing suggests the trend is likely to reverse any time soon. While the majority of partners filing for divorce are wives, it’s usually following discovery of an affair and/or the husband’s departure from the family home. Statistics are inevitably difficult to interpret when it comes to divorce but it’s safe to say that it’s more common for a man to have an affair, then up and leave, than for a woman. Often, the ex-husband loses no time in marrying his mistress.

Here one man explains why he left, one explains why he left and returned and one why he’s thinking of leaving.

Ben and Claire had been married for 11 years when he left. They have three children. The youngest was a baby when Claire discovered Ben was having an affair with a younger, married colleague.

“Our marriage was pretty good. Claire was very into having babies. She loved little kids. After our son and daughter were born I didn’t want more children. I wanted to get out of that whole dealing with toddlers phase. For a while she seemed to accept that. But when our daughter was seven and our son was three she started grieving that he wasn’t a baby any more. He was starting to grow up and she really wanted a third child. I was dead against it. We were just finally emerging from years of nappies, no sleep and no time for ourselves. Our life was dominated for months by this discussion. In the end I gave in and she got pregnant. But I was hugely resentful. The first two children had been our project. The third, I’m sorry to say, felt like it was hers. I was seething really that she’d got her way. We were heading back into nappy territory. There’d be financial strain and I’d be relegated yet again to husband in the corner while Claire focused on the kids.

I met Tessa when Claire was pregnant. She saw me, not ‘a father’. She had an open marriage and seemed to offer me a life much wider than the ‘nursery’ I had at home. At the start of the affair she gave me a book of poetry. It meant so much. She wanted to talk about it with me. Claire mostly spoke to me about the children. I wasn’t planning to leave home but when Claire found out about Tessa she said ‘Get out’ on impulse – understandable – it was terrible for her – Amy was only a few weeks old – and I went. I was glad to escape at that point. For two years I saw my kids at weekends, on Christmas Eve and during the holidays. Claire hated me. My daughter did too. My son missed me. The baby needed a dad. Tessa was with her husband and sleeping with me too. The strain of it all was nightmarish. I began to realize I’d made really insane choices. Tessa was pretty worthless – she was so selfish, she thought nothing of breaking up a family. And I’d been just as selfish. I was confused and miserable. I’d say I was going through a pretty severe midlife crisis. Eventually I asked Claire if I could come home. She agreed, mostly for the children at that point. We saved our marriage – all that was 19 years ago. But it hasn’t been straightforward. She still sometimes has a go at me. I still deserve it.”

Tom and Carole were married for 40 years. They were renovating a large house in Italy when Tom announced he was leaving.

“The thing about my ex-wife is that she was always right. She just had to be right all the time. She’d argue and argue till I agreed with her. It wore me out. When we first met I thought she was really spirited and I liked it. But it’s that thing Woody Allen once said isn’t it? You end up hating the things you first loved about your partner. She became more and more controlling. We had two kids and family life kind of rolled along even if I became fed up with it. I love my kids and I never would have wanted to lose them. Also, I never really met anyone else I wanted to have a relationship with either. Just one married woman who wasn’t going to leave her family. So I stayed in the marriage. When the kids were grown up we went to live in Italy. I’m an academic, in art history. I continued to work; my ex stopped. We had this huge project to renovate the house and, as usual, she was taking all the decisions. I’d long ago stopped trying to negotiate with her; there was no point.

Then a new secretary joined our department at the university. She was eighteen years younger than me, attractive, and divorced. It was just inevitable we would get together. My ex didn’t even notice I was having an affair. She probably thought I’d never dare. But Aurelia is completely the opposite of her – gentle, accommodating – she listens to me and respects what I say. She was a classic mistress I suppose. I realized quite quickly that I didn’t want to live in the finished house with Carole. I wanted to leave her. When I told her, she couldn’t believe it. She never dreamed she’d face competition from an “other woman”. She couldn’t believe I would do something without her permission! But I did. I told her I had a mistress and I wanted a divorce, I walked out, I went to Aurelia’s place and I’m still there. Not a single regret.”

Craig and Diane have been married for 26 years:

“Our sex drives were always completely incompatible. When Diane was young it wasn’t so noticeable but after we had the kids she more or less switched off. She’s through the pre-menopause now, actually in menopause, and it’s worse – she’s totally disinterested. It’s like I have to beg her for sex and then when she agrees it seems like a chore for her. I know it’s not her fault; we’re just too different on that level. I love her and I like our life together most of the time. She’s a good friend as well as my wife. But I want sex every day and I want to have passionate, adventurous sex at least sometimes. It’s difficult for her, too, because she doesn’t want to be bothered with me pestering her. I really really tried to avoid having an affair but it was impossible. I had a fling with a woman I met through the internet and it was incredible. The physical side of things was amazing. We stopped after three months because we’re both married but having a lover really showed me what I’m missing. I’m going to be 50 this year and I’m pretty sure I’ll want sex for years and years. So what do I do? Suppress my sex drive for another ten or twenty years? I can’t. Have affairs? Potentially disastrous. I don’t like the idea of infidelity; I hate the idea of cheating on Diane. But we’ve discussed this libido question over and over again. She won’t take HRT because she’s scared of side-effects – breast cancer and so on – and we’ve tried alternative medicine. Nothing helped. She doesn’t want a sex life and I do. In the end I think we’ll have to divorce but it’s not the first solution I’d choose.”

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How To Save Your Marriage By Creating Intimacy

When your marriage is on unsteady ground and all seems lost, you must continue to believe that you can save the marriage if you truly love your wife or husband. You have gone through many wonderful times together and it is important to take stock of that. Even though your marriage is struggling at the moment, you must have hope and believe that it is possible for you to save your marriage.

After years of marriage, it is commonly known that marriages in trouble often have lost intimacy. In order for any marriage to be happy, there must be a certain level of intimacy that goes beyond just the physical elements. This is what is known as emotional intimacy. Think about your answer to this question, “is my marriage affected from a lack of intimate moments?”

Are you open and honest with your wife or husband? Do you share your emotional needs with your wife or husband? Or do you keep your partner in the dark, hiding your emotions and emotional requirements inside? Do you try to deal with issues by yourself? By excluding your wife or husband emotionally, the chances are that your marriage lacks intimacy. Now is the time to spice up your marriage so that it can be saved.

You should ensure that you are making plenty of effort to share your problems and concerns with your spouse. Far too often many people find themselves concerned and thinking constantly about all kinds of different situations. Rather than talking about their issues with their spouse, they choose to try to deal with it by themselves. This can be the wrong thing to do. Instead of distancing yourself from your spouse, you should be keeping them close and including them so you can work through the situation together.

Importantly, you should know that spouses can very easily feel when something is not right. By excluding them, they quickly begin to feel left out and that they are no longer needed. This is when hurt and even lack of respect can quickly work its way into a marriage.

You must make time to work together on your marriage. By making your marriage a priority, intimacy will follow naturally. Life is extremely busy these days and every minute seems to be filled with too many things to do. But you must make an effort to concentrate on making your marriage intimate. By not making time for your marriage, it can be almost certain that it will come into hard times. It would not be good to discover that when you were busy working yourself ragged to build your career, that your marriage has been pushed to the side and is no longer healthy.

Ensuring that you are actively making time for your spouse and your marriage, will be a big step in saving your marriage. Why not take an afternoon off together spontaneously and spend that time having fun with your wife or husband. You can even make it a surprise. Once your spouse realizes that you value them so much that they have rearranged their schedule to spend precious time with you, you will start to see an improvement in your marriage.

Creating and developing the intimacy back in your marriage will take time and is a continuous process. Do not ever leave your marriage to become stagnant or stale. You love your spouse and they need to know this. Achieving a healthy and an intimate marriage regularly needs attention in order for it to develop and thrive.

http://www.streetarticles.com/conflict/how-to-save-your-marriage-by-creating-intimacy

The True Cost of Autism: It’s Not Just Money

Then there are utilities. One interesting sensory need of our child is a need for showers, regularly. He loves the feel of the water on his whole body, and needs that feeling of being encompassed. If we lived by the ocean, he would spend all his time at the beach. But here in the Rockies, we have showers. Of course, living in a desert, all that water is not cheap, and we have resorted to planting low-water plants in order to save as much as we can for our son. Other children may need constant music or massagers working on their whole body, and that uses a lot of power.

Then, of course, there is emotional toll. Putting aside a "judging" public and their need to judge other’s parenting skills, it’s emotionally draining to chase down a child that doesn’t look you in the eye, doesn’t want to be touched, and try to get them to perform their tasks. This constant wearing down takes it’s toll emotionally on parents, and at one point it was believed that Autism in the family raises the risk of divorce by 80% (I question that personally). While I don’t believe it is a threat for marriages as much (particularly since both parents feel needed), it can cause stress with extended family. Add to that the Holidays, and you have quite a stressful situation for parents on the Spectrum.

This isn’t a cry for pity, or a call for social "justice" by making other people give money to support the few. It’s simply a call to the realities of having a child with Autism. Add to that the satisfaction of seeing your child perform feats worthy of a child twice their age mentally, those fleeting moments of having a child focus on you and smile, and the visions of a child who improves at school every day eventually becoming a successful contributor to society. All these things bring joy to the family, and I wouldn’t change it for the world.

 

Scothoser is a Scottish-American, having grown up in the Rocky Mountains, now moved to San Diego. Having been raised by a farmer’s daughter and a rancher’s son, he has a love for the land, and a desire for self-sufficiency. …

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What Are the Causes of Divorce?

Marriage is meant to be enjoyed; a heaven on earth but this is hardly the truth with many marriages today. Many are in much tumult and the number of divorces is increasing everyday. What could be responsible? The causes of divorce can be many. The signs of divorce show up most times much earlier than it happens. If observed on time, it could be effectively handled. But many people ignore them until it become too late.

Researches shows that the common causes of divorces are;

  • Lack of commitment to the marriage.
  • Communication breakdown between spouses.
  • Infidelity and deceit and lies.
  • Neglect of spouse feeling.
  • Alcohol and drug addiction.
  • Physical Abuse.
  • Sexual Abuse.
  • Inability to manage or resolve conflict.
  • Personality or irreconcilable differences.
  • Differences in life and career goals.
  • Financial problems.
  • Problems of children upbringing.
  • Interference from parents, in-laws and other loved ones.
  • Lack of maturity.
  • Incompatibility.
  • Falling out of love.
  • Change in Religious beliefs.
  • Cultural and lifestyle differences.
  • Mental Instability or Mental Illness.
  • Criminal behavior and incarceration for crime.

Most of these issues don’t just crop up overnight. They are character threats that were there before the marriage took place. Most times these character traits are ignored by courting partners until they go into marriage, with the hope it would fizzle out on its own. Even when they complain, the complaints don’t carry the seriousness it should. I advice that any observed character in your courting partner you can not live with in marriage should make you reconsider going into a marriage with the fellow.

You must decide from the first moment to make sure that your marriage works. This will make you give everything it would take to ensure it works.

Whenever you observe any changes in your relationship with your spouse, it is wise that you tackle it immediately. Discuss it understandably with your spouse.

Always ensure that you maintain a good communication with your spouse. Discuss your feelings and concerns. Ask for explanations on issues you don’t understand. Don’t operate in assumptions.

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