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Tips on how to ask a Girl out

Whether you are a guy or a girl; asking someone out is intimidating, nerve wracking, and often scary. That is usually because of a little thing we like to call fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is a fear that you create in your mind that; others will not accept you for who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in and how you act. Fear of rejection causes many people to miss out on things they desire or want to do. It is behind many problems in and out of relationships.

The first step in asking a girl out is to overcome that fear of rejection. Here is a great article from on how to handle fear of rejection. Getting over this takes time and some soul searching. In the world of dating you may have already met someone you want to ask out but your fear of rejection is holding you back. Try some positive affirmation to help you get over that fear long enough to pop the, can I take you out to coffee question. Things you should remind yourself are:

I am a great person. I am a catch any girl would be happy to have me. If she doesn’t say yes it isn’t always because of me. (if you are a girl asking a girl out) she may not have the same sexual preference.

Use some of these phrases to help you get over that irrational fear that is holding you back. Generally there are two different scenarios that you will have in asking a girl out; on the spot (you just met and she is leaving never to be heard of again) or you know her from work (things to consider before dating a co -worker), through a mutual friend, or even online and you have time to get to know her.

On the spot:

Be confident and brave. Remember if she says no you really haven’t lost anything, but if she says yes you may have gained a doorway into a new relationship. Take that chance and see what happens. Be charming, considerate of her needs, and chivalrous. Women love being treated like princesses even when they deny it. There is something in us that draws us like moths to the flame when it comes to being treated like a princess. Make an excuse to get her alone. Flattery is helpful. But make sure the flattery is real. I once told someone I liked their shirt it was a good color for their eyes. While she became a friend we still laugh at how stupid I sounded. Don’t him and haw around what you want to say. Come out and ask the question. It can be disheartening when a person wants to ask someone but they can’t get the words out. Now is not the time to show you are not confident. Again remember, it doesn’t matter if she says no or yes. What matters is that you put it out there and let crumbs fall where they may. Be casual in your approach, don’t come on to intense. This can be a major turn off and also make the girl feel threatened.

You have time:

Email her and get to know her. Let her get to know you. Don’t give up but don’t stalk either. If the girl is not showing interest moving down a dating road with you, it might be better to become friends. Perhaps you might lose interest as well and enjoy the friendship. Remember there is a danger in being friends too long so make sure you let your intentions be known early on. Otherwise you may never get out of that friend category. Be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone you think she will like. Women can generally see right through that and are not impressed. Also when you do finally ask her out make sure you are familiar with the tips in the first scenario as they can be beneficial as well.

The biggest thing is to not let your fear of rejection keep you from doing what you want to do. That fear can rob you of having something that is right in front of you. So many times you hear stories of people that knew each other for a long time but were afraid to ask. Sometimes fate brought them together and sometimes it doesn’t. You need to put yourself out there once in a while to truly enjoy the dating world and all the wonderful things it has to offer.

5 Dating Lessons from 280 Failed Marriages

Chicago, IL (PRWEB) August 21, 2007

On a mission to make divorce and domestic violence plagues of the past, the Family Love Teacher is requesting every Single person to study these unique dating lessons from 280 failed marriages.

The Family Love Teacher believes that sharing this missing knowledge will persuade more people to learn how these 280 marriages failed, why they failed, and how Singles can use their unpleasant experiences to learn how to foresee and manage the root causes of marital failure:

1.    At the time of tying the knot, each of those 280 adults believed that their marriage was going to last forever, but that did not happen! They all learned this hard lesson; that being good and wanting to be successfully married is not enough on its own, because the success of your marriage truly depends on your husband or your wife. They proved that you cannot sustain a love relationship single handedly; it takes two to succeed. Advice to Singles: You must learn how to choose a lover who is right for you, and also finds you ideal for them, and the best time to learn is before making the costly marital mistakes.

2.    They all rushed to fall in love, and failed to see the red flags that were right in their faces from the time they started dating. They confessed that they were emotionally attached, and hoped they would be able to change their former fiancée(s) habits after wedlock. They learned this hard lesson, that you cannot successfully change another person if that person is not willing to change on their own. They also learned that even with a prenup, it is not smart to force a mismatch, because it always leads to domestic violence and a future breakup.

3.    They all regretted not knowing what they should have known in time, to make the right marital decisions. They were instead consumed by the excitement of the new relationship, the sweet gifts, the new places to visit, and planning their wedding, before truly knowing or evaluating the person they were committing their love to. They learned that regardless of your feelings, it is vital to learn how to control your love emotions and target your decisions towards meeting your long term needs.

4.    They all confessed that it was a costly experience; and wished someone had taught them how to guard their hearts from the wrong person! They would not have followed the wrong way that wrecked their love relationships. But the other sad discovery was that, many of those whose hearts had been repeatedly bruised, had lost confidence and were afraid of trusting or loving anyone again.

5.    They were all pained not by the divorce itself, but the fact that their divorce was preventable, had they learned how-to interpret the advance warning signs they saw during the pre-wedlock period. They learned that making choices unthinkingly; and then hoping for the best, is being reckless with life. Passionate singles need to invest time to learn how to foresee and manage these premarital risks and uncertainties. Loving is an important lifetime decision, and you have to know what you are doing every step of the way in choosing the right spouse who also finds you right to them.

Now the good news: The Family Love Teacher studied 1,064 successfully and unsuccessfully married adults, and developed a decision-making tool that helps Singles to visualize their marital future. This tool is helping more Singles to minimize the influence of guesswork in making this important decision. "This decision-making tool gives the Single person instant feedback to prevent a mismatch. More Singles are getting in total control and making the right decision the first time," says the Family Love Teacher.

He says that "This study revealed the existence of a clear path to a successful and lasting love relationship, and every Single person needs to invest quality time to learn how to unlock these consequential secrets in dating and relationship building. With this essential dating knowledge, there is no excuse for wasting time loving and marrying the wrong person and then divorcing later." He has recorded this prerequisite base knowledge and all the answers Single have always wanted to know on a on audio program titled "How to Choose Your True Lifetime Lover". Priced at $29.95 this audio book is available at , and at

For those interested in reading, this invaluable dating and relationship knowledge is taught in a new workbook titled, 10 Steps to Success in Love and Marriage; Self-Help Secrets for the Smart Lover", by the Family Love Teacher. Due to its exceptional value, the market place has priced this rare workbook at $200.00. However, it is cheaper online at $49.95.

The Family Love Teacher builds joyful families. He teaches about Lifetime Love, i.e., how to know it, how to find it, and how to keep it successfully. He is also the author of Success Mindsets for the Winning Couple. More info about the Family Love Teacher is available at


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Facing Fears After Divorce

It is common for women to experience fear after divorce. Note, however, that fear is simply False Evidence Appearing Real. The evidence in your mind is truly and utterly false because it does not exist at this moment. Just like last night’s dream was not real, your visions of future doom are not real either.

As a divorced woman, your life has shifted in a major way along with your plans for it. You now must recreate your life, reset your goals and major decisions are yours alone to make. As terrifying as this all can seem, fear should be used to serve as an awesome motivator and an invaluable strength-building mechanism. Facing fears head on must be seen as a challenge that you are anxious to embrace.

Even While You Fear – Take Action!

Consider your fears as a unique set of tests especially designed for your growth and strengthening, and then take action! Don’t worry too much about eliminating your fears, which can take a lifetime to do, simply take action even as still afraid. Like jumping from a cliff into an inviting body of water, it is likely that you will always be afraid to do so as long as you are thinking about it. In fact, the longer you entertain your fears, the more likely you are to talk yourself out of the plunge and walk away from the cliff’s edge instead. But at some point, in order to enjoy the water’s refreshing coolness, you have to take your fears with you and jump anyway. Afterward, you will find your strength and your confidence enhanced by the knowledge that you are stronger than your fears and you are capable of action even while afraid.

What is it that you are afraid of now? Perhaps it is a return to school for an advanced degree. Perhaps you are afraid of taking a new position, changing careers, moving to a new location or just of being the sole caretaker of your children. Whatever your fears are, use them as a challenge. Make overcoming them your mission as you forge ahead.

The following action steps are designed to help you face your fears after a divorce:

1. Plan to succeed. Do not allow yourself to be burdened with what ifs. Instead, target your goals and clearly define the steps that you will need to take to achieve them.

2. Do what you can today to place yourself in a better position tomorrow. Each day, take action toward your goals in order to inch yourself closer to them. Even baby steps are fine as long as you are taking them in the right direction.

3. Take time to encourage yourself daily. Talk to yourself as you would a dear friend or your children. Remind yourself that you are strong, that you are capable and remind yourself of all that you have already overcome.

Millions of women have been where you are now. They have faced insurmountable odds, they have been terrified out of their wits and they have refused to let either stop them. You can and you must do the same. You are powerful, competent, able-bodied and free to pursue every one of your dreams. You may make mistakes along the way, but they will be counted as worthwhile lessons, which will sharpen your skills. Know this and, even as you are afraid, proceed anyway.

Vanaja Ghose ( is a Professional Life Coach helping women who chose to leave their marriage or long term relationship and now want to powerfully recreate their lives. Download your FREE mp3 audio on “Nine Steps to Building a New Life After Divorce” and contact Vanaja for a free 30-minute strategy session at

Nuances of Drafting a Plaint

                                                   Nuances of Drafting a Plaint

The civil proceedings of a suit commences with the filing of a plaint. Hence a lawyer drafts the plaint, edits, approves and then types it into a format as requisitioned by the provisions of the Civil Procedure Code. The facts contained in a plaint are known as pleadings. Such pleadings contain nothing but facts of the case as narrated by the client or plaintiff.

It requires a professional approach in drafting a plaint. However, a lawyer cannot straightaway embark upon into the process of drafting a plaint. Since the pleadings of the plaint contain essential facts of the case or suit, a lawyer or a paralegal person is drafting the plaint with the facts of the case. Therefore, before drafting a plaint, a lawyer should get complete details of the case from the plaintiff, besides getting instructions as to the reliefs that he seeks.In the process, the plaintiff should also be informed about the requisite court-fee that he has to pay under the existing provisions of law and other connected expenses involved in filing the suit. Needless to say, that the lawyer should also fix his legal fee as per his standing and as per the legal practitioner’s fee rules.

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