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Causes of High Divorce Rates for Generation Y

Domestic violence is one of the factors that lead to high divorce rates in Generation Y marriages. Moreover, domestic violence is not an uncommon occurrence in Generation Y marriages. Domestic violence is any form of attack imposed on a family member by another, and this assault causes physical or emotional harm. In an article in South Wales Echo, Paula Hardy, the Chief Executive of Welsh Women’s Aid explains that many people limit domestic violence to the physical component, and they forget that emotional harm is also a form of domestic violence (Alford). This limitation is the main reason why many marriages affected by domestic violence do not last long. Domestic violence occurs in Generation Y marriages mainly when the victim has children out of marriage, the abuser falsely accuses a spouse of unfaithfulness, or when the abuser is under the influence of alcohol or other illegal drugs. Generally, women are the most vulnerable to domestic violence. Many Women tolerate domestic violence for a long time either because they are not aware that they are victims of domestic violence or because of fear that their action will result into more problems in their marriage. These women forget that there is a higher possibility that their husbands will assault them again, and they are willing to remain in their already failing marriages. After a long period of tolerating domestic abuse, these women give up on trying to protect their marriages and then file for divorce, or they are forced to file for divorce by their abusers.

Lack of maturity is the main cause of increasing divorce rates among the Net-Generation marriages. The number of young marriages is on the rise currently. Most young people get married without any knowledge about how to maintain a functional family. Divorce is not one of the challenges that strike Generation Y couples’ minds before they get married. Tara S. Pellegrino, a student lawyer, states, “The large majority of young couples enter this [marriage] with a sense of perceived invincibility, an ‘it can’t happen to us’ mentality that blinds them to the reality that divorce, not death, is the more probable end to the fairy tale.” Many Generation Y teenagers are used to having their parents give them all they need, so they do not think that getting married comes with some responsibilities. At adolescence, many teenagers are usually rebellious and unwilling to listen to their parents’ advice, so when they decide to get married no one has control over their decisions. In their marriages, young couples often face challenges like child rearing, financial insufficiencies, and inability to tolerate their partners’ behaviors. These challenges are the realities about marriage, which most Generation Y couples only realize after getting married. Mary Myrick, a National Health Marriage Resource Center Project Director, says, “There is often a disconnect between attitudes about marriage and the reality of getting or being married” (qtd. in “Young Adults”). Young couples accept the truth about marriage when they are finally married and experience the challenges in marriage. When many young married couples finally find out that marriage involves more than just happiness, they start thinking over the decisions they made, and decide to get divorced because they are too young to think of other problem-solving techniques.

When asked why they decided to end their marriage, most of Generation Y divorced couples, either directly or indirectly, give domestic violence or lack of maturity as the reason. Divorce is not a good trend in a society that is focusing on moving forward. According to Professor Andrew Cherlin of Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, the impacts of divorce are usually evident in a marriage even before the actual breakup, and the children are harmed during their parents’ “conflict” (McGourt). Many children with divorced parents do not get good parenting because of their parents’ differences. Consequently, lack of good parenting increases the children’s vulnerability to peer pressure, and they may end up abusing drugs, being violent, or following through their parents’ footsteps. If this trend persists, there will be no more role models for the coming generations. Therefore, it is important that everybody works towards decreasing the already high divorce rates among Generation Y married couples.

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No Fault Divorce is it Good for New York

The state of New York has become the last state in the union to sign no fault divorce into law; this now allows couples to get divorced without having to prove any wrongdoing or abuse. Before the passing of this law couples would need to be separated for a year and one side had to be at fault, causing many people to make up stories of wrongdoing or abuse. Now with this law being passed a couple can get a divorce without having to find fault in either party. Of course as with any change comes controversy, is making divorce easier fair to women, will it increase divorce rates, will any good come out of it?

Many women groups have expressed a great deal of concern over the new law changes claiming that it would be harmful to most women. The reason for this is the no fault option would leave many women who are not the main bread winner in their household without any bargaining power during the process. These concerns that the more moneyed spouse would hide assets and income prior to divorce proceedings and then rush through the divorce leaving the other party without the money its due and while this may have been true decades ago in this day and age of two income families it is not as cut and dry. Money issues aside there have been many studies that have found some good news for women. In research done in states that have adopted similar laws to that of New York have found that domestic violence has decreased after adopting these laws, it was also found that women were less likely to commit suicide when they were able to leave their marriages unilaterally.

There have been many opponents of the no fault divorce that claim an almost certain increase in divorce rates and being that it generally ranks among the lowest so that fear of increase could be very real. Massachusetts which has the lowest divorce rate in the United States has had a no fault divorce law passed since 1975. This is attributed to a couple of reasons, first is it has a high population of highly educated people who tend to not marry young which is a major contributor to divorce. Second it also has a high population of catholic people who despite changes in society still do not divorce at the rate of the rest of society. New York state has both of these they have a high population of highly educated people and a high population of Catholics. So after the most likely initial surge in divorce, it should settle down and continue to be among the lowest divorce rate in America.

With so much publicity given the no fault divorce law passing in New York and the upheaval that it might cause we must remember that it was passed in all the other states and they still manage to move on. What needs to be concentrated on is the issues that lead to divorce and educate people so that they understand the consequences of their actions.


Noteworthy UK Divorce Trends and Developments

Divorce trends and statistics are always a popular topic of discussion for those who are interested in the state of society and relationships. Each year the figures for marriage and divorce in England and the UK in general are eagerly dissected to see if trends can be discerned and predictions can be made about the future. The latest statistics, produced by the Office for National Statistics (ONS), estimate that 42% of marriages in England and Wales will end in divorce and that the average marriage will last 32 years. Looking in more detail the ONS has calculated that 34% of marriages will end in divorce by the 20th wedding anniversary and 16% will reach the 60th wedding anniversary. The total number of divorces each year has continued in a downward trend since 2004. In 2010 there were 119,589 divorces in England and Wales and in 2011 there were 117,558 (as an interesting point of reference, in 1901 there were 512 divorces). So, what trends and patterns have different researchers and experts put forward after examining the divorce statistics?

One of the key trends in divorce in England and Wales is that the first ten years of marriage are the most turbulent. According to the ONS the greatest proportion of divorces occur among couples that are in their first decade of marriage. The probability of getting divorced by the next wedding anniversary increases rapidly in the first 5 years of marriage and the chance of divorce is greatest between the 4th and 8th wedding anniversaries. These findings do lend some weight to the idea of the ‘seven year itch’.

The first decade of marriage has the greatest chance of divorce but also sees the most change. Divorce rates and trends are very consistent and predictable after the first ten years. If there is a change in the overall divorce rate it is usually due to fluctuations in the divorce habits of those in their first decade of marriage. Many experts have pointed out that the divorce rates for those who have passed their 10th wedding anniversary have remained much the same since the 1960s. The risk of divorce tails off with 1 in 5 divorces taking place after 20 years and 1/100 after 40 years – and has remained almost unchanged.

Much has been made of the rise of the ‘silver-splitters’ in recent years. This term describes the rise in the number of couples over 60 years old who are getting divorced. In 2001 4.6% of males getting divorced and 2.6% of females were aged 60 and over. In just ten years that proportion has almost doubled with 8% of males and 5% of females who are 60 and over getting divorced.

There are many underlying factors that arguably contribute to this ‘phenomenon’ The average age of people getting married has increased, meaning that it is possible many people in their 60s have only been married for around 25 years, and therefore have a higher risk of divorce than if they had been married for 40 years. Others have suggested that there is a greater life expectancy and ‘lust for life’ among people in this age group than ever before – retirement brings the opportunity to evaluate how they want to live their lives. Relationships can also falter when ‘empty nest syndrome’ occurs – children have grown up and left home and retirement is looming – and strain is put on the marriage.

When looking at divorce trends many people are looking at wider factors that may be affecting the divorce rates. Some experts have looked at the effect of cohabitation on divorce. It has previously been suggested that couples who live together before they get married are more likely to get divorced, but this may not be true. Cohabitation, i.e. living with a partner without being married to them, used to be frowned upon and was seen as unacceptable. As times have changed attitudes towards cohabitation have also evolved and increasing numbers of people are choosing to cohabit.

The amount of people cohabiting in the UK was 5.9 million in 2012 (double the amount in 1996). It has been put forward that, instead of ‘competing’ with marriage, cohabitation can be seen as promoting marriage. The fall in the divorce rate in those still in the first decade of marriage could be attributed to the prominence of cohabitation. It has been suggested that cohabitation can cause more unstable and fragile relationships to break down before the couple marry, meaning that the couples that do go on to marry after cohabiting are less likely to divorce.

In terms of slightly less serious research, the Marriage Foundation, a think-tank that focuses on family and relationships, has found that celebrities are twice as likely to get divorced than the rest of the UK population. The Marriage Foundation tracked 572 celebrity couples who have got married since 2000. The findings showed that after ten years of marriage, the divorce rate for celebrities is 40% while the rate for the rest of the UK population is half that, at 20%. The Marriage Foundation has also looked at whether having a pet is the sign of a long lasting marriage. According to the think-tank, couples choosing to take on a pet shows a more active sign of commitment and therefore a potentially reduced risk of divorce. Taking on a dog or cat can be seen as a ‘dedication commitment’ while having a child, in some cases, can be seen as a ‘constraint commitment’ – the former being more conducive to a successful relationship.

© Izzy Evans 2013

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The Cause and Effect of Divorce

From the past to present, people all over the world have determined to “get marriage”. Nevertheless, some couples are unable to maintain their relationship so they choose to divorce, which is one of the solutions to cope with problems between a husband and wife. Most people claim to think carefully before they get married, but the divorce rates continue to increase. There are three main causes of divorce: the changing of a man and a woman’s role, stress in modern living and the lack of communication between the married couple.

The first significant cause of recent rise in the rates of divorce is that women completely change in roles. In the past, men had to earn the money to afford the expense of family, whereas the woman would do housework. Because of these situations, it is too difficult for most women to separate from their husbands. However, these situations are entirely different today. The equality between men and women in roles are very clear, women can work outside the home to earn money, while men share the household tasks such as cooking, cleaning, washing as well as caring for children. Women are more independent today when it comes to earning money and supporting their cost of living. As a result, the divorce rates seem to have risen with the exchanging of these roles.

Another cause to confirm the recent increase in divorce rates is stress in modern living. Many people, who live in other countries, have considerable pressures to earn money. For instance, in Thailand, students generally want to go celebrated universities mostly because it holds a good opportunity to find a job or earn a lot of money. This circumstance not only happens in Thailand, but also occurs in many countries. Some people are on unemployment; consequently, this causes a stress to occur in their family, which may lead to divorce. Some families can earn money, but inadequate for covering their expenses, therefore it is easy to think about divorce. Nevertheless, the rates of unemployment continually increase and as a result, the divorce rates rise. It is no doubt that the stress in modern living may lead to recently increasing divorce rates.

The final cause of recent increasing divorce is lack of communication. Due to financial responsibilities in each family, many people are busy. For this reason, they have inadequate time to talk to the problems with their partners, which produces the likelihood of divorce. Some couples are often quiet when they have problems with each other, consequently little problems can expand to huge problems, resulting in divorce. It is quite clear that the more communications that is used, the more the divorce rates reduces.

Although, these three causes of the recent rise in divorce rates expressed above, there are also two effects of the recent increase of divorce rates: negative effects and positive effects. For example, the effects of recent enlargement in divorce rates are negative effects. Most couples normally have children when they get married and divorce can have a direct effect on children. Children living in single parent families are more likely to get pregnant as teenagers, drop out of high school, abuse drugs and have aggressively emotional and behavioral problems, which lead to social problems. Some children decide to leave their home when their parents separate from each other, and subsequently they become homeless children. Due to shortage of education, jobs are to land and crime may likely be the result.

On the other hand, another effect of the rise in divorce rates is positive. People, who divorce by consent from their partners, want to have better quality of life, since they are unhappy with their spouses. In view of that, with the separation they can work more efficiently. Often their mental condition improves because they are free from their spouses’ murmurs. They not only have more free time to do many things, but also divorce can free a family from the violence of a quarrel between a husband and a wife. In which everyone in family may have better physical and mental health, particularly children.

In conclusion, a family is one of the important parts of society, thus many people are aware of the significance of relationship in family. At present, divorce has become the substantial problem because of changing women’s roles, stress in modern living and lack of communication. Nevertheless, there are also the two different ways in effects, which are negative and positive effects. Some couples, which have no children, divorce by consent, therefore divorce should be good solution for couples to deal with this problem. On the other hand, some couples having children in their family should think before they end their marriage in divorce; otherwise innocent children probably become victims for this situation. Although people tend to think carefully before they get into a marriage, the rates of divorce are continuously on the rise.

Reasons for high divorce rates in America

Divorce rates in America are nearing 50% in 2011.  Some couples state that they simply “fell out of love” with each other.  Others are looking for their soul mates and remarry.  Sadly, second marriages have an even higher risk for divorce than first marriages.  First marriages end in divorce about 40% of the time as opposed to 60% divorce rates with second marriages.  The statistics speak for themselves; perhaps working on your first relationship will yield better results than starting a new one?  75% of all third marriages are headed for divorce.  So it seems that where marriage is concerned, practice doesn’t necessarily make perfect.

Divorce rates started falling after World War II.  Currently, the U.S. has divorce rates that are higher than those of any other country.  Why are divorce rates in America so high?  One field of thought is that Americans incorporate their liberties and freedoms as an American into their marital relationships.  When a person feels that their liberty is being taken away or that their freedom is being lessened, they sometimes opt for divorce. 

Another idea is that in America women have more options for financial success in the workplace than they do in other countries.  This makes American women confidant in their ability to provide for themselves and their children.  In America, a woman who is in an unhappy marriage is more apt to not let financial reasons hinder her decision to initiate a divorce.

Sex before marriage and cohabitation (living together) are two factors that may have an effect on the high divorce rates in American marriages.  People can feel that they are not obligated through marriage when they live with a significant other.  They may feel that they can easily leave because they aren’t married.  In not reserving the sexual bond for marriage, the marital bond is somehow diminished. 

Celebrities, athletes, politicians and other people in the public eye in American society have a higher rate of divorce.  United States police officers have the highest rate of divorce of any group today.  It also seems as if more people today are having children out of wedlock and having children with multiple partners.  Americans are not viewing marital commitment as something sacred and lasting.  Lack of religious faith can have an affect on how a person views the vows they make in front of God.  If they do not believe in God or in any kind of faith or religion, then the vows of marriage may not hold much meaning for them. 

Modern society in America seems to be taking a turn for the worse when it comes to divorce rates.  There are a variety of reasons that have impacted this downward trend.  It seems the most important thing Americans can do to reduce their chance of divorce is to take their marital vows more seriously.  It might seem old-fashioned not to live together before getting married; but, if that’s what it takes to decrease your risk of divorce, it’s worth a try.  If you haven’t been to church in awhile, maybe now is the time to go back.  Even if you live in the U.S. your marriage doesn’t have to become part of the divorce statistics.  Understanding the true meaning and power of a martial union between two people will give your marriage the best chance for a lifetime of wedded bliss. 

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