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You Only Have a 50% Chance of Succeeding in Marriage.

Divorce is the scourge of modern Western society. Dealing with broken marriages has become the norm for many of our modern-day children, leading to a seemingly unbreakable cycle of break-ups and divorce that carry over from generation to generation.

According to the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri, the divorce rates in America are as follows: 50% for first marriages, 67% for second marriages, 74% for third marriages.

What is the national divorce rate in the United States? Based on many sources and surveys, it ranges between 40% to 50%. That figure is indeed a shocking one. Only half of all marriages in the United States succeed.

The children are the hardest hit by today’s society of break-ups: approximately one out of two kids will have to deal with the painful, shattering loss of a happily-married mother and father.

Marriage nowadays, at least in the United States, is basically a coin toss: either you will end up on the right side of the coin, or on the wrong side.

The Divorce Society Has Created an Entire New Industry for Psychologists

Our society of break-ups has led to the creation of a wealth of opportunity for psychologists and counselors who have made a killing out of simply listening to a couple’s troubles, and offering advice. Marriage counseling is the default solution many resort to in order to save the marriage.

Has counseling helped stem the tide of divorce? If we simply look at the empirical data, the answer is simply NO. Divorce rates continue at high rates, with no signs of slowing down.

There is a Better Way.

What then is the solution to this problem of divorce?

The key is something very basic, something often ignored, something branded as “unfashionable” by modern media: prayer.

Instead of spending hours with a marriage counselor – and spending hundreds of dollars in the process – why not just spend time in the chapel, soaking in the peace and silence offered by Christ? Why not just unload your difficulties and challenges in life to the best possible counselor?

Marriage, after all, is not just a simple contract between two people. It is a sacrament. It is a sacred vow undertaken by two people, together with God.

Marriage is a partnership with God. We must never forget that while reciting our wedding vows, we are not just professing our love for each other: we are inviting God to be at the center of our lives as a couple.

Keeping God at the center of our relationships is the best insurance we can get to ensure a happy marriage. God is the best counselor, the best psychologist any couple can possibly get. The added bonus? It’s free!

What is the Catholic solution?

The rosary is next only to the Catholic Mass in terms of power and efficacy. To keep families together, it is imperative to spend time together every day: not just in family dinners, but more importantly, in family time spent praying the rosary.

It will take strong determination and discipline on the part of the father and the mother to instill this as a daily family habit. But if achieved, it will be well worth the effort.

Our Lord Himself has promised us: “Ask and you shall receive.” If we ask Jesus to give us the gift of a happy family, He will grant it! But we ourselves must ask for it, every day, all together as a family.

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Statistics of Divorce

Divorce has become a common occurrence both in the United States and around the world. According to divorce statistics, it is estimated that between 40 percent and 50 percent of first marriages end in divorce in the United States. In some countries, divorce rates for first marriages exceed 50 percent. Second and third marriages in the United States have even higher divorce rates. According to statistics, second marriages fail at a rate of 60-67 percent, and third marriages fail at a rate of 73-74 percent.

Divorce statistics show that there are number of reasons why marriages fail. According to divorced couples, the number one reason that marriage fails is due to either a lack of communication or poor communication. The second most cited reason for divorce is martial conflicts and arguments. Thirdly, many divorced couples say infidelity led to divorce. While these are the primary reasons cited for divorce, statistics show that there are several underlying factors that contribute to these trends. These factors include, but are not limited to: age, education, income, religion, and cohabitation.


Statistics show that those who get married in their mid to late-twenties are less likely to get divorced that those who marry at a younger age, and that this age group tends to be more satisfied in marriage than those couple who marry later in life. For divorced couples under the age of 20, the women are more likely to initiate the divorce; whereas for divorced couples over the age of 20, the men are more likely to initiate the divorce.

Education and Income

Education and income both play a role in divorce statistics. Data shows that a married couple with a higher education and a higher income is less likely to divorce than a couple with lower education and lower income.


While several religious denominations show a slightly lower divorce rate of 21-34 percent, other data suggests that those with no religious affiliation have a lower divorce rate than those with reported religious affiliations. It has also been suggested that pastors of local congregations, for various reasons, may not be aware of how many divorced couples are actually in, or have been part of, their congregations.


Reports suggest that between 40 percent and 85 percent of couples who lived together before getting married had the marriage end in divorce.

Divorce statistics indicate that about one-fourth of adults in the United States have been divorced at least once in their lifetime. Characteristics of individuals that have a higher probability of divorce include:

o younger age at time of marriage

o lower education

o has children from a previous relationship

o cohabitation prior to marriage

o sexual activity prior to marriage

According to divorce statistics, it does not appear that only one factor contributes to a couple’s decision to divorce. Although three primary reasons have been identified by divorced couples as the leading causes of divorce, it seems that underlying factors may contribute to these issues as well.

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Women, Marriage, Love Letters, and Child Marriage

Reason for the post:

In response to: Conversations for a Better World, Facebook: “When will society evolve past the laws and beliefs that prompt women to spend $2,ooo on hymen restoration surgery? A woman should not fear for her life or livelihood because she’s had sex before marriage. It’s simple.”

• Original Conversation Link: Conversations for a Better World, Facebook.

« Reason for comment: “BBC News-The virginity industry”.

Agree or Disagree with Hymen Reconstruction?

Although I disagree with a restructuring of the hymen in most cases, I can understand a need in certain situations.

An “Outcast” to Society:

Sadly, many children’s virginity is affected by factors that are not related to “casual sex” with another, and this is true for boys and girls. In these cases the children’s “status” has been affected by another, and a surgical procedure could be quite “beneficial” when considering the possibility of becoming an “outcast” to society.

Marriage Age-Gap, Arranged Marriages, Child Marriages, and Divorce:

Also, some believe “arranged” marriages are wrong as well, and “child marriages” often lead to a greater likelihood of divorce, and studies show a possible correlation between “age gap” and divorce rates for some countries. I wonder if arranged marriages lead to increased divorce rates and affairs. If so, affairs often lead to divorce, which can cause some women to be ostracized. In addition, if a “husband” discovers his new “wife” is not a virgin, he may demand a return on his bride-price, which could significantly affect the female’s future standing in society since her family may not have the money to repay the cost of the “bride-price”. At times, these women have to rely upon commercial sex to make a living, which increases STD’s(1).

• A link to some information on the age gap:

« Age Gap, in context (2).

A Means to Reduce the Possibility of a Horrific End:

If “reconstruction” of the hymen will save the “child”, adolescent, or woman from the above fates, then I have to agree with the practice until their society, on average, can agree that children, under 18 years, should not marry and spousal choice is more appropriate for marriage survival in most cases.

A Special Congrats to Women and Men who have Succeeded:

Personally, I am new to this area of research, but I have read quite a bit while researching Child Marriage, Domestic Violence, coerced sex, etc. During the research, I learned how education will foster a child’s writing and increases “love letter” activity in school, which can lead to choice of mate (2), which is supported by Article 16 of the UN Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (3). By the way, I read some of the featured success stories and was impressed, but I know we have a long way to go for all children, women, and, in some cases, men as well.

• Article 16 (b); “The same right freely to choose a spouse and to enter into marriage only with their free and full consent;”

A Comparison of Two Different Marriage Processes:

Although the original Facebook post was about reconstruction of the hymen, I would like to provide the following videos for your entertainment and evaluation. Why? I believe the videos provide a good analogy between the “developed” world’s education and “means” of communication versus a “developing” worlds means of communication. As we know, “writing letters is a lost art” to many elders and I must agree! In contrast, this form of communication is an excellent picture of how we may be “thinking”! Sometimes, we search and search for an answer and don’t seem to find it, but, in fact, it was there all along!

Love Letters – An Animated Proposal – v2.0:

World Divorce Rates and Trends

Divorce is rising all around the world. There are, however, some places where it is still fairly rare. Generally divorce has become more acceptable but there are trends as to which countries it is more common in. Some geographical areas seem to have higher divorce rates than others while different lifestyles seem to have their impact as well.

India and Sri Lanka are the two countries that have the lowest divorce rates, around one and one and a half per cent respectively. In this part of Asia divorce is still very rare, although it is more common in South East Asia. In India, for example, arranged marriage is still fairly prominent although not as common as it once was. Divorce is not deemed as acceptable as it is in other cultures and therefore many either make a concerted effort to work through relationship problem or remain in unhappy marriages. This is much less common in parts of Europe and North America. There are two ways of looking at this. It might be considered a positive that people do not get divorced as soon as any problems occur in a marriage, something that is considered by many to be a negative of the American family law system, where it can be very easy to obtain a divorce should you wish to. However it could also be considered a negative if people remain in unhappy marriages just because they feel that it is wrong to divorce.

No European countries have anywhere near the same low divorce rates. The lowest divorce rates in Europe are Macedonia and Bosnia with five per cent, nearly five times more than India. Much of the rest of Europe have much higher rates than this. There is a similar trend in North America. Sweden and the United States have the highest divorce rates, both with nearly fifty-five per cent of marriages ending this way. Northern Europe, especially Scandinavia, have particularly high rates. As mentioned above Sweden has the worlds highest, with Finland, Denmark and Norway all at over forty per cent. Other European countries such a Luxembourg, Belgium, Russia, the United Kingdom, Germany and France also have a high rate of divorce.

Although many of the statistics in Europe are high the Mediterranean countries do not follow this trend, with Italy, Spain and Greece having less divorces than most of the continent. This could be due to their lifestyles. Much of their culture revolves around the family, with large families often spending a large amount of time together. Due the importance put of family values, divorce may not seem as much of an option to those in these countries.

Andrew Marshall ©

Divorce Lawyer London

Divorce Solicitors London

Innovative Study on Career and Divorce

Spending eight hours in an office, day after day, has the ability to slip into and influence every aspect of an employee’s life, and a marriage is no exception. Could a person’s career choice directly determine how likely they are to divorce?

Professor emeritus at Radford University Mike Aamodt, Ph.D., and one of his undergraduate students, Shawn McCoy, posed that very question in their pioneering study. The results showed that certain occupations have a higher rate of divorce than others.

The Washington Post reported that the study revealed dancers and choreographers had the highest divorce rates at 43.1 percent. This was followed by bartenders at a divorce rate of 38.4 percent and massage therapists at 38.2 percent. Other occupations with a high percentage of divorce were casino workers, telephone operators, nurses and home health aides.

The study also discusses the three occupations with the lowest divorce rates. It found that the jobs with the lowest divorce rates were optometrists at 4 percent, clergy at 5.6 percent, and podiatrists at 6.8 percent.

This study is causing people to question whether people are more likely to end their marriage because of the career they chose, or because specific personalities are prone to divorce and are drawn to those certain jobs.

The study isn’t trying to sway people from marrying dancers or massage therapists. This study was so innovative because it gives everyone a glimpse at the relationship between two common elements that are a part of many people’s lives: divorce and career; many hadn’t delved into this connection previously.

Aamodt and McCoy’s research for the study was quite unique to any research that had been done on the topic before; they collected data from the 2000 U.S. Census.

McCoy arduously requested the Census data from officials that the researchers could analyze to determine the divorce rates among Americans working in 449 jobs.

After seeing the results, Laura Schaefer discussed one of the reasons for this trend in her article. She explained that careers affect everything from a person’s taste and lifestyle to stress levels to how they handle their romantic relationships.

One of the leading causes of divorce is stress, whether it is emotional or financial. Those who work or are married to someone in a high-stress level industry could be more prone to end their marriage due to the stress of their job.

This revealing study is not meant to steer someone from marrying their love, solely because of their profession. Griffith, a child custody lawyer, believes this study can help couples with spouses in those fields with a higher divorce rate be more aware of the stress they may endure and, in the event of divorce, be more prepared to handle it.

Couples with high-stress jobs should consider developing a prenuptial agreement. Especially if one of the parties owns their own business or has celebrity status. A prenuptial agreement alleviates some of the complex financial stress that arises in a divorce.

While certain occupations such as entertainers may have a high divorce rate, a person’s profession is most likely not the only reason a couple chooses to end their marriage.

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The Real Reason Divorce Rates Are Up

At least once a month it seems as if we are reading another report about divorce rates, why we should or shouldn’t worry, what is or isn’t accurate, and of course, how society is falling apart at the seams.

I know I’m not worried. I, for one, see an improvement in society.

Why are there so many divorces these days? The answer seems simple to me; because people can actually choose to divorce, and the consequences aren’t devastating. Certainly not what they used to be; especially for women; we should all be breathing a sigh of relief! Think of the days gone by, when women were forced to marry as a means of survival as we weren’t permitted to have occupations outside of nannies and the like. Outside of that, think of the reputation of women who did not stay with their husbands; they were ruined for life. They could not find another mate nor were they acceptable members in society.

In days gone by, people were more religious, and held on to a fear of their “God.” They lived by rigid standards and seldom divorced no matter what misery they lived in. The word of the day was sacrifice, to ad nauseam; so often people remained in their cages and watched their life pass them by while they tried to deny their regret. And why? Because they always did what they were told they should do; getting married and “settling down” was at the top of the list.

So often I hear people sigh and say they long for the fifties and the sixties; ah, those simpler times, slow paced, family morals…my mother does this. And I say, “Boy I’m glad I wasn’t around then!” Women were still considered property! What choice would I have had then? Settle down to be a housewife? And have no say in the matter? Or go to college to take classes in etiquette and household management, before settling down as a housewife?

I, personally, don’t even believe in marriage – the legally contracted marriage, anyway (I’m very pro-relationship). We’ll delve into that further in another piece, but for those who do choose to do it often rush into it too young. They suffer from the illusion that they have to marry to prove they’ve “grown up.” Age, in studies, has proven to be a determining factor in the demise of a relationship. Anytime I’m told that someone under at least 25 is getting married, I find myself inhaling a sharp breath before I fake my smile and congratulations. Rarely someone under 25 is well-acquainted enough with themselves and stable enough in their own life to consider marriage. It is critical to get to know yourself and life your own life a bit before you decide to attach it to another.

People also blame the loss of religion in the matter of divorce. I have to admit that I smiled when I read a recent study in the matter of divorce; the truth of the matter is the HIGHEST divorce rates are in the states where MOST conservative Christians live! The three states that banned gay marriage with such venom – Kentucky, Arkansas and Mississippi – had the highest divorce rates in 2003, and the state in which gay marriage is legal, and is home to many popular liberal politicians – Massachusetts – had the lowest divorce rate!

Now, many Christians might like to argue that it’s because so many couples in Massachusetts cohabitate other than marry, (not a bad choice) but the study shows that has nothing to do with it, the statistic would remain. And why? They are more educated; they have the highest rate of high school and college graduation both. They also wait later to settle after they have established their self, both mentally and financially.

Here’s another kicker – divorce rates are HIGH among those who hold off on sex until marriage. Let’s just say it kinds of skews the judgment of those people and they aren’t looking at the situation and prospective partnership objectively. Hormones might be taking the reins, I think, rushing unprepared people into marriage for the…rewards. Thus again it is shown that cohabitation outside of marriage has real value.

But, I regress; the point is simply this – when people feel free to do what they should in accordance with their own personal matters, that is good, and that is progress. Why complain that someone has the freedom to do what they choose? Think of the past when people wanted to divorce but couldn’t or wouldn’t due to unreasonable demands imposed by society.

We are always growing and changing. When two people become attached young, and share the same goals and ideas then, they cannot possibly know whether or not that will change. They cannot predict growth in the same direction; at some point, they may become incompatible. Not to the fault of either, per se, sometimes it is inevitable and if they decide that they should no longer be together, and that in doing so they would inhibit each other’s progression, who’s to say they should stay married for the sake of staying married? I, personally, think this is sad, and most shameful. I know I wouldn’t want to hold someone to me that ought not to be with me, even if it was good once. And I’d feel serious resentment towards a person who would attempt to impose that upon me. I would think that a terrible strike against one’s character. The notion of a lifelong promise to another person (’til death do us part) is far from reasonable. How can anyone promise that, or be held to it? The only permanent commitment one can make it to oneself or to one’s child. Really, it’s human nature.

People complain that divorces happen willy-nilly. That the first time someone runs into trouble, they divorce. Let me pose this question – so what if it is true? I say, if someone realizes early on that they made a bad decision and decide to get out right away, I commend them. Good for them, I say, to not force themselves to endure years of agony. Why stick around and see if you can make it tolerable, if you’ve already recognized that it isn’t right for you? And who can make the right decision for a person, outside of that person? And what value does a life long marriage really have in the life of this person, or to society as a whole?

Another reason that divorce rates are so high is that people aren’t going about relationships the right way, there is still the poisonous mindset of put someone else first and sacrifice you. That is what causes the problem! (Read my article about why selflessness is not a virtue.) You cannot be good to another person unless you do put yourself first. When you know what you value and your own personal happiness is on the very top of your list, only then will you attract someone with whom you can share true harmony.

The world that I want to live in is the world that, should I make a mistake, and choose to correct it and set my life on the course of MY choosing, does not interfere. So I scoff at divorce statistics. Big deal. Show me some statistics of how people feel happier and more freedom. That would be some statistics of value.

Source: “To Avoid Divorce, Move to Massachusetts,” By Pam Belluck, New York Times, 11-14-04

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Co – Parenting Tips During Your Divorce

Putting your children first during a divorce

These days, the divorce rate in America is at an all-time high. Commonly, it is said that nearly 50% of marriages end in divorce yet this is not true. The 50% number is only based on projections that account for the growing trend in divorce rates and is not the actual percentage. Though it is still under half, one cannot deny the fact that divorce rates are rising and will continue to do so in the future. Currently, between 25% and 35% of all marriages that occur in a person’s 20s will end in divorce and that number is continuing to rise.

There are many hardships that come along with divorce. Divorce can take a significant emotional toll on both parties as well as create financial difficulties and most of all, problems with that couple’s children. Emotional and financial difficulties can be overcome; however conflicts with children can create a long-lasting effect on their developing minds. For this reason, and putting your children first during a divorce is the most significant and important issue to deal with during this time.

When you are in this situation, in order to create the best possible alignment for children, the first thing you should do is maintain constant communication with your ex spouse so that you can work together in helping your children through this difficult process.

It is important that both parties do not attempt to get their children to side with one another as this will create more issues with the adults and create confusion and possibly anger with the children. You should make it clear that they are not responsible in any way for the divorce so that they do not fault themselves for this.

Sometimes the parents will place their children in the role of informants asking them for information about the other as it pertains to them. Never ask your child what your ex-spouse said or thinks about yourself as this will likely snowball into greater issues as each party tries to one up the other. If at any time you have a desire to find out information about the other, the only way this should be done is through direct communication with that person.

Keeping with this theme, another common thing that the parents will do is explain to their children that they would like to get back together yet the other does not. This should be avoided as well as it creates a good guy bad guy scenario in the child’s mind which will negatively impact both the child’s relationship with that parent and the parent’s relationship with the other.

To sum up the last few points, the most important thing when dealing with your children through a divorce is to keep them informed but as neutral as possible as they are children of both parents equally. Continuing your previous parenting tactics as closely as possible is often the best way to ensure that your child is affected as little as possible through a divorce.

Even though the parents split up, the children of course have to live somewhere. Therefore, it is important to establish a custody agreement between the two parents and stick to that as closely as possible. Normally the children will continue living with the mother while the father maintains weekly and near equally custody over the children.

The divorce couples will agree that the children will stay in the mother’s home during the week while the father will take them during the weekends. This will allow the children to maintain some sense of stability as this schedule works well with the American school systems set up. It is important to note that telling a parent that they are only allowed to see their children on certain days of the week is a very delicate subject. Therefore, both parties should continue to respect the agreement that was established initially to avoid further aggravating the situation.

Every year, thousands of families break up via divorce which is directly linked to emotional issues that children can develop. Many of these issues are tough to fix later on in life so it is imperative that the ex-couples do as much as possible in order to minimize any affect that the divorce can create. When faced with this difficult situation, you should never lose track of the fact that your first priority should be putting your children first during a divorce.

Divorce rates increase in GCC countries.

Summary: JEDDAH: Traditions, a change in lifestyle and an emphasis on material life along with varying levels of liberalism and conservatism are all contributing factors to the rise in the number of divorces in Saudi Arabia and other Gulf states. According to 2008 figures, the divorce rate in the Kingdom was 20 percent.


A recent study of divorce rates in Gulf Cooperation Council (GCC) countries shows that divorces have risen and are continuing to increase.

Recent statistics show that the total divorce rate as a percentage of all marriages in Gulf countries has also reached 24 percent in Bahrain as of 2007, 25.6 percent in the UAE (2008), 34.8 percent in Qatar (2009) and 37.1 percent in Kuwait (2007).

The study, however, did not include Oman because of a lack of new statistics and cooperation, said Mona Al-Munajjed, who conducted the study.

The study, entitled “Divorce in Gulf Cooperation Council Countries: Risks and Implications,” stated that divorce rates are almost equal to marriage rates among those aged 20 to 29, suggesting that young couples are more likely to divorce in the initial years of marriage.

Al-Munajjed, a sociologist and senior adviser at Booz & Company, a management consulting firm, said they relied on official national and international divorce statistics as well as interviews with experts in the region and divorced women.

Although confirming that GCC countries share the same traditions, she said they now vary in terms of liberalism and conservatism, which affects the relationship between men and women and thus affects how couples meet or divorce.

“Unfortunately there is a lack of statistics, not only when it comes to divorce but also with regard to women’s work and education,” she added.

In this context she called on establishing a statistics database for GCC countries to help researchers distinguish between divorce rates among different social groups, including young girls, educated women and other groups.

The study emphasized the need to understand why the rate of divorce is increasing in GCC countries to help policymakers identify new patterns that may affect the future social development of GCC countries and find ways to curb the increasing number of marriages breaking down.

The study claimed that divorces have a damaging impact on children’s emotional and mental development and even their health. Women suffer physical and psychological abuse at the hands of ex-husbands who refuse to pay alimony or allow them custody of their children.

Others may face social and economic discrimination. Many others suffer from the social stigma of being a single mother.

The study also clarified that changes in lifestyle and consumer behavior drove some couples into falling in dept, which can also result in divorce.

The Gulf’s patriarchal societies are also contributing to the rise in divorce as social roles evolve.

“Young people are still not able to choose their partners freely and the family, especially the father, remains the authority in determining the marital choice of sons, and even more so of daughters.”

A lack of communications skills is another challenge that new couples face because of “strictly gender-segregated (societies).”

The study also suggested that as women in the GCC countries enjoy greater social, financial and psychological independence, they might also have higher expectations of what they want in marriage. This in turn might lead to divorce if the woman is not satisfied with her married life.

In Kuwait, official data from 2007 shows that whereas 46 percent of divorces occur between couples that both work, this percentage increases to 54 percent when the husband works and the wife is jobless.

In Saudi Arabia, research shows that most men prefer a wife who works, especially if she holds a secure job as a teacher or in the government.

The study also highlighted that women in the GCC countries are still subject to discrimination due to the lack of legal enforcement mechanisms for ensuring the implementation of their legal rights.

The study recommended that more should be done, not just by governments, but also by other members of society.

The research stressed the need for a better understanding of the issue.

Governments should increase research into divorce rates, and the establishment of statistical databases on different social groups, as well as surveys of judges, divorced men and women, schoolteachers, mental health professionals, and social workers.

Other possible tools include courses on family relationships and social bonds, and government and non-governmental organization (NGOs) awareness campaigns.

The study also called for the establishment of advisory centers for couples to seek counseling before and after marriage and divorce.

These centers would encourage family dialogue and organize pre-marriage training sessions for couples to make them aware of women’s legal rights and the mutual requirements and responsibilities of married life.

When divorce has already occurred or cannot be prevented, other steps are needed to make sure that families do not suffer. One solution may be to strengthen legal protection for women and children.

Policymakers could also improve women’s access to legal assistance by encouraging women to join the legal profession and by appointing female lawyers to judicial positions, the study said.

Copyright: Arab News 2009 All rights reserved.

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Reason For High Divorce Rates

There has been much talk of the increase in divorce rates. The last half century has seen the number of divorcing couples multiply dramatically. But why are divorce rates so much higher now? There are many reasons for this generally trend, some of which this article will explore.

One of the reasons is that it is much easier to get divorced these days. Changes in family law has made it much simpler. The most significant change in the law is that a couple can now get divorced in a ‘no fault divorce’. This means that neither party is said to be specifically to blame for the breakdown of the relationship. This means that there doesn’t need to be a specific reason, such as unreasonable behaviour by one person.

It is not just a change in family law that make divorce easier these days, it is a change is society’s attitude towards divorce. There used to be a stigma attached to divorce, whereby it was looked down upon by many people. These days (partly due to the number of divorces) it is not a big deal, and you are not made to feel like a failure if you have been in an unsuccessful marriage. People will not hold it against you the way they may have done in the past.

The role of men and women within a marriage has evolved over the years. In the past the man was generally considered the breadwinner who went out to work while his wife stayed at home and looked after the children. This has changed a lot over time and there are no longer specific roles in this way. When someone entered a marriage they used to almost fall into these roles. Now different people have different expectation of a marriage. These expectations may vary for the man and woman and this may cause conflict.

People (and especially women) are generally more independent now days. A married couple may have separate lives in some ways, such as work and their social lives. Therefore their lifestyles may vary, and the less they have in common the more they are likely to drift apart. They are also more likely to meet someone else.

Education and employment can have a big effect on a marriage. Statistics show that women with a high quality education are more likely to get divorced. This is likely to be due to the employment opportunities that this leads to. Work brings stress, and if both halves of a marriage are working then there may be more stress within the home. It also means that each person is financially independent, so finance may not be as much of an issue if the couple were to divorce. This means they are less likely to stay together just because they can’t afford not to. More working women are thought to be why the divorce rates have increased so dramatically in China and India recently.

Religion may also be a reason for divorce rates increasing, or at least lack of religion. Within many religions divorce is deemed wrong. And these days less people have the strong religious beliefs that may prevent them from getting divorced.

So there are many reasons that may have contributed towards the large increase in divorce rates in recent times. This by no means covers all reason for divorce, but they are some of the changes in society that have taken place over the last half century that may have contributed.

Andrew Marshall ©

Family Law London

Divorce Lawyer London

Rate of Divorce in Marriage

It is believed that more than 50% of the marriages in the United States will end up in divorce. The divorce rates in many of the developed countries are as much as high as in the U.S. It looks like we are living in a society that believes in toss out marriages.

It beats my hollow that in spite of the traditional marriage vows people take during marriage ceremonies, most of which include statement like, “For better for worst, until death do us part,” marriage has become essentially a casual relationship in many parts of the world.

Above all, the people who are in public eyes, such as renowned entertainers, television and movie stars, and professional athletes, are reputed to have extremely high divorce rates. Could money be the problem here?

To make matters worse, policemen in the U.S., have one of the highest rates of divorce of any profession. The reasons are simple: the police is a dangerous profession, the gun, badge, uniform, and the accompanying authority attract the opposite sex like a magnet, and of course dealing with the negative side of human nature makes a policeman/ policewoman distrustful.

More than 50% of first marriages in the U.S. end in up in a divorce court and the statistics are nearly as high in the UK, Russia, Canada, France, Denmark, Australia and New Zealand. And almost two out of three of second marriages end up in divorce, at the same time almost three out of four third marriages hit the rocks before you know it.

The question is what has happened to all the marriage vows taken in the Churches and marriage ceremonies and the sanctity of marriage? Why are folks choosing to divorce instead of resolving their differences? Is our society degenerating to moral decadence?

One of the main reasons is the lack of importance people place on marriage nowadays. This is supported by the number of couples who prefer not to marry, but rather chooses to live together in “civil unions,” at the same time still choosing to have kids

Another reason is the apparent breakdown of the family unit as the center of domestic life. In a society where you have a high rate of dysfunctional homes, the products of such homes are more often than not children with half baked family values.

Many believe that the movement away from religious faith and the lack of honor or respect in a deity is a core factor why people no longer have any meaningful regards for marriage vows. This can be buttressed by comparing the statistics of divorce in the past era when our parents and grandparents where very close to God.

The good news is that divorce rate between couples with kids is about 40% less than that between couples with no children. Even with that little number, what kind of message does it send to the kids of these broken and dysfunctional marriages that it is okay to break up and end in divorce? That’s a wrong message! A further question is what kind of commitment do we expect from the kids of divorced parents?

Over one in three of children come from dysfunctional homes and the average age for a first divorce is around thirty years old, the median age when most folks choose to have kids. Consequently, many kids are raised in single parent-households in the course of their formative years- a period when they need both parental guidance and influences.

The rate of divorce and the evident lack of regard for marriage vows is a very unfortunate commentary on the state of our modern society. If the union between two consenting adults is no longer a sacred act between two people who ought to make a lifelong loyalty and commitment, then why getting marry at all?

The whole society could return back to a crude and primitive societal structure like the one amongst gorillas and chimpanzees, where nonchalant male and female relationships are the standard and promiscuity is acceptable. Females in heat randomly mate with any male who displays his desire for them, normally all the adult males.

This causes the fatherhood of these babies to be questionable that all the males act like all the young ones are their offspring. But at least the male chimps show some responsibility, unlike their human cousins.

Here’s one telltale statistic that is revealing: Amongst couples with strong religious beliefs and practices, the respect for marriage vows is much higher and divorce is much less common. A respect for their faith gives greater meaning to the promise they made in the eyes of their God.

It is always better to work out any differences in a marriage, couples should always choose to talk it out and if the need arises, you can seek professional counseling. For more insight on marriage relationship, please see: Relationship Cheating >

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