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Tips on how to ask a Girl out

Whether you are a guy or a girl; asking someone out is intimidating, nerve wracking, and often scary. That is usually because of a little thing we like to call fear of rejection. Fear of rejection is a fear that you create in your mind that; others will not accept you for who you are, what you stand for, what you believe in and how you act. Fear of rejection causes many people to miss out on things they desire or want to do. It is behind many problems in and out of relationships.

The first step in asking a girl out is to overcome that fear of rejection. Here is a great article from on how to handle fear of rejection. Getting over this takes time and some soul searching. In the world of dating you may have already met someone you want to ask out but your fear of rejection is holding you back. Try some positive affirmation to help you get over that fear long enough to pop the, can I take you out to coffee question. Things you should remind yourself are:

I am a great person. I am a catch any girl would be happy to have me. If she doesn’t say yes it isn’t always because of me. (if you are a girl asking a girl out) she may not have the same sexual preference.

Use some of these phrases to help you get over that irrational fear that is holding you back. Generally there are two different scenarios that you will have in asking a girl out; on the spot (you just met and she is leaving never to be heard of again) or you know her from work (things to consider before dating a co -worker), through a mutual friend, or even online and you have time to get to know her.

On the spot:

Be confident and brave. Remember if she says no you really haven’t lost anything, but if she says yes you may have gained a doorway into a new relationship. Take that chance and see what happens. Be charming, considerate of her needs, and chivalrous. Women love being treated like princesses even when they deny it. There is something in us that draws us like moths to the flame when it comes to being treated like a princess. Make an excuse to get her alone. Flattery is helpful. But make sure the flattery is real. I once told someone I liked their shirt it was a good color for their eyes. While she became a friend we still laugh at how stupid I sounded. Don’t him and haw around what you want to say. Come out and ask the question. It can be disheartening when a person wants to ask someone but they can’t get the words out. Now is not the time to show you are not confident. Again remember, it doesn’t matter if she says no or yes. What matters is that you put it out there and let crumbs fall where they may. Be casual in your approach, don’t come on to intense. This can be a major turn off and also make the girl feel threatened.

You have time:

Email her and get to know her. Let her get to know you. Don’t give up but don’t stalk either. If the girl is not showing interest moving down a dating road with you, it might be better to become friends. Perhaps you might lose interest as well and enjoy the friendship. Remember there is a danger in being friends too long so make sure you let your intentions be known early on. Otherwise you may never get out of that friend category. Be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone you think she will like. Women can generally see right through that and are not impressed. Also when you do finally ask her out make sure you are familiar with the tips in the first scenario as they can be beneficial as well.

The biggest thing is to not let your fear of rejection keep you from doing what you want to do. That fear can rob you of having something that is right in front of you. So many times you hear stories of people that knew each other for a long time but were afraid to ask. Sometimes fate brought them together and sometimes it doesn’t. You need to put yourself out there once in a while to truly enjoy the dating world and all the wonderful things it has to offer.

The Real Meaning Of Commitment – Marriage Or Dating

When you are committed to your marriage, it can only mean two things. The first one is lower than the second one and the second one has a more meaningful and deeper meaning and aspect of what commitment truly means in any relationship.

No one is perfect in relationships, but the two have the choice of working together and doing what it takes to make the relationship successful. Yea, anyone can be committed when it’s good and dandy, but what happens when the pit falls and it’s dark in the relationship? Are you that committed to working through it every way possible and stand firm?

Let’s say for instance, you and your spouse got into a terrible fight over the bills, and the fact is that the bills have been sky high for the last couple of months. When the argument evolves and escalades, in the middle of the night, will you wake up and feed the baby when it’s crying? Or will you get up at 6 in the morning just to put the trash outside for the trash man to get it at 7 am? These are the types of question you should be asking yourself? These are the types of thoughts should run through your mind whenever you are going through rough times with your partner and they just so happen to react a certain way. If you are your spouse is doing anything to despite the other, than I’m sorry, your relationship will not last and will eventually end with a breakup, therefore the relationship is not committed.

Two Things That Make Up Commitment

Benjamin Karney is a professor of psychology and co-director of the Relationship Institute at UCLA. He says that commitment can either be, (1) I want to continue this because I totally love this relationship or (2) it’s not going very well, but I’m committed. I will do whatever it takes to resolve these problems so that we can move forward.

What Do You Do When the Relationship is Vulnerable?

Communication is the single key to working toward a successful marriage and relationship. Without compromise, life with your partner will die and end up in divorce. It’s not about who is right or wrong, but rather what can “we” do to fix this?

Divorce couples may say they were very committed, but certain circumstance didn’t make it work, and once again, communication is the very reason why it didn’t work with both parties willingly wanting to make the best out of the situation.

Last Thoughts on The Subject

Commitment is not mandatory, it’s a choice. Make the best out of your choice to improve your relationship so that it will last longer than the others. Stand your ground and stand up for love and commitment in your marriage.

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Natural Home Remedies for Hives

Hives are an itchy, scaly skin rash. They vary greatly in size, shape, and area of break out. They can be round with rings, or welt like in nature. One person suffering from hives might have a completely different looking rash from another person. The medical name for hives is urticaria and breakouts occur more commonly in women than men.

There is no known reason for someone to come down with hives. What is technically happening is your histamine levels are out of whack, for whatever reason, and that causes fluid to leak from blood vessels, which in turn causes the skin to swell. The irritation can disappear within a few hours only to reappear a few hours after that. Or you can have a flare up that will last twenty-four hours.

People who suffer from hive breakouts, understandably, want to know what is causing their breakouts. Often this is not an easy thing to discover. Changing soap, detergent, food intake, and so forth rarely do any good in stopping the breakouts and might not work as for remedies for hives.

How to become the Worlds best Husband

Most women dream of having Prince Charming sweep them off their feet. To have a man who will treat them with love and respect, who will be gallant and charismatic, and make their dreams come true. Unfortunately most men don’t realize that it takes a lot more to be a great husband than just to say ‘I do’.

Compliments aren’t just for the first few dates or months that you are getting to know each other. A great husband is one who notices a new top or a new hairstyles and compliments his wife on it. A simple, ‘you look hot tonight’, or ‘I really like you in that dress’ can work wonders for a woman’s self esteem and in the back of her head she will be thinking what a lovely husband I have.

Flowers are also extremely important. If you want to become the world’s best husband remember the art of purchasing flowers. Every woman loves receiving flowers, whether it’s an enormous bouquet of two dozen roses (recommended at least once a year) or bunch of tulips or hand picked from the field, they will make a woman’s heart beat faster and make her day. Flowers should be purchased on all those important occasions like Birthdays, Valentines and Woman’s Day, but also at irregular intervals throughout the year just to show that you care.

If you want to become the world’s best husband you also have to learn to listen. Listening is a skill that not all men possess, and many simply don’t understand the meaning. Women don’t always want a solution to a problem, they just want you to lend an ear. Also, if she talks about something that she’s always wanted to do or buy, do it for her and surprise her a few days or weeks later. She will love you even more for it and in her eyes you will start looking like the best husband in the world.

Help her around the house. Nowadays it’s becoming the norm for house chores to be shared among spouses. However, some people still continue to think that it’s the women who should be doing all the cooking, cleaning and looking after the children. Surprise her by doing the dishes after dinner, or cook her a three course meal. Pay for her to get a massage and in the meantime clean up the entire house. Or send her shopping and give her a foot massage at the end of the day without having to be asked.

Being the world’s best husband isn’t difficult. All it takes is a bit thought, some flowers and effort to make your wife feel like the luckiest women in the world.

I Need Some Advice On How To Stop My Divorce

Your wife is asking for a divorce. She wants to leave and walk away. You feel like your world is coming to an end. You’re thinking, “I need some advice on how to stop my divorce and I need it fast.” You don’t even have a clue where to begin. You didn’t even know you were doing anything wrong. How can she just decide she wants to walk away like that? Doesn’t she know how much you love her? You KNOW she still loves you and you don’t think she’s trying to hurt you. So, how could she do this to you? How could she do this to your marriage? What can you do to stop your divorce?

This is the story that so many marriages are going through these days. There is no good guy or bad guy in the picture. It’s just a matter of one person giving up. It’s up to you, if you want to save your marriage, to pick up the slack and do a little double duty until you convince her to consider give your marriage a second chance. But the hard part is getting her attention and getting her to really hear what you have to say so you can stop your divorce.

How do you get her attention when your marriage is on the line and it seems like she’s already made up her mind? She might be thinking it’s over but she can’t turn off her feelings for you just like that. You have a lot of history on your side to help convince her to give your marriage another chance. Now is the time to use that history in your favor. You know what makes her smile. You know the things to say to make her eyes sparkle. You know the way to stop your divorce and how to save your marriage for the long haul. You just have to figure out a winning strategy for when and where to say these things to your wife.

• Start by letting her see the attentive and loving man she fell in love with. Now is the perfect time to let her see the best in you. You want to be your most attentive and complimentary right now. Let her see just how much you really do love her and how well you can show her that love. • Forgive your wife and yourself for not living up to your expectations of what marriage would be. When you do this, you’re allowing you both the opportunity to heal from old wounds that have been rehashed throughout the course of your marriage. It’s time to change your expectations of marriage and make them something where you can both win rather than feeling like losers and resenting that feeling all the time. • Learn to be happy where you are but make plans for an even happier future together. Both of you need to pitch in when it comes to the plan making process but when you do this you’ll both have a voice in what happens in your marriage and something to look forward to as your marriage gets stronger and better over time.

It isn’t nearly as hard to save your marriage or get your ex back as many people make it out to be. You just need to have a proper strategy in place to get your efforts off the ground.

How to Help Your Spouse Cope with Unemployment

During the twelve years my husband and I have been together, the two of us have been at both end of the unemployment stick. It can certainly add strain to a relationship, but there are ways in which one may help the other go through this difficult period. These are just some of the actions or factors I can recommend to support your partner.

Being unemployed is generally a difficult situation to be in. Feelings of anxiety and frustration can often overwhelm a person. In industrialized nations, there is a strong connection between identity and work, leading people to believe their job defines them. This can chip away at an unemployed person’s self esteem. So when someone we are married to, or committed to, might be undergoing any of these negative feelings or thoughts, there are certain factors and actions to keep in mind.

Do not blow him or her off.
Remember, even if your day consisted of board meetings and planning strategies with your team, when you get home, your spouse might have been home all day, alone, reading through job sites or posting virtual CVs. Let the person talk for a while, then you can say how tired you feel and that you can resume the conversation after a break. But never let the person feel like you don’t care.

Be supportive with job-hunting. Ask your spouse about the status of his/her applications, re-cap on the companies he/she has applied to. Try to contribute with suggestions of possible job sources like a company you know about in the same field, or a job-searching or job-posting website. Help your partner practice for interviews, reviewing possible questions and company’s profiles.

Encourage your spouse use their free time. Encourage your partner to take up exercise or an activity they might enjoy. Physical activity is not only beneficial to the body, it also helps release stress. Being active can also create feelings of self-satisfaction, helping your partner to boost his or her self-esteem.

Steer away from work during social gatherings. When your social circle is populated by the people you work with, ‘the job’ or ‘the office’ tends to be the topic people automatically navigate to. Try to introduce topics your spouse can contribute to. Your friends will most likely, also enjoy themselves more and unwind talking about the upcoming baseball season or the latest blockbusters at your gathering, rather than the problems with the last marketing campaign.

Be understanding and compassionate. Above all, show your loved one that you care, that you understand he or she is going thru a rough time, and you are there for him or her. Don’t be annoyed if you find him sulking on the sofa when you get home. Be optimistic, and show confidence in the talented, capable, precious person that is your life partner. He or she will feel your support and know that things will get better.

Born and raised in Costa Rica, lived and worked in Canada, Switzerland, Tanzania, and The Netherlands, currently working for Smile Bhutan  View profile

A Journey Through Infant Development: The Tenth Month

Curiosity is something that is developed very early in life and becomes very evident once a child starts to move. Although it can be very annoying to pull babies out of cupboards, dishwashers, refrigerators and toilets, curiosity is an extremely important foundation to a child’s neurotypical development. Curiosity allows discoveries – it offers children those “ah ha” moments in life. If a child doesn’t explore his/her environment ¬– in safe circumstances only of course – the opportunity to make discoveries is lost!

I can’t seem to get anything done while you are awake! Anytime I try to work in the kitchen, you are immediately into what I’m doing. I open the refrigerator, and there you are pulling something out of the door. I try to prepare food, and you empty every cupboard. I empty the dishwasher, and YIKES – you’re going for a sharp knife!

You’re not only into my stuff all the time, but your sisters’ as well. If they are doing a puzzle, you sit on it. If they are playing in their room, it isn’t long before I hear, “Mom!!!!” We all love you, but your sisters have appropriately changed your name from little brother to little bother.

Balls are so intriguing! If there is a ball or anything that resembles a ball, you crawl quickly to it. Once you pass it to me, you’ll look right at me and throw your arms in the air and scream. It’s so fun! If there isn’t anybody available to play, you’ll accept that and play catch with yourself. You’ll throw it; go and get it; and then throw it again. It keeps you busy for a long time! That lasted for about a week, and now you’re onto new things. You get bored easily.

Brushing teeth is a very interesting event as well. Dad will hold you while he brushes his teeth, and gives you a toothbrush as well. You’ll look at him so intently while he brushes, and then put your toothbrush in your mouth. You think you are so cool brushing your teeth like dad. The look of accomplishment on your face is priceless.

You are really getting into playing games, and find it so funny when the game changes. I handed you the top to a jar, and you handed it right back. I handed it to you, and you handed it right back (much like how we play ball). I then put it on your knee. You thought that was so funny, you grabbed it and handed it back. I put it on my knee, and the game continued. When I put it on my head, you got up, grabbed it, and tried to put it on your head – all while cracking up.

I can no longer leave the room without you getting upset. It seems as though separation anxiety has kicked in. It’s very apparent that your awareness of your surroundings has gotten much better!

You are beginning to cruise around now. Your crawling has gotten faster, and you can pull yourself up to stand with ease. It allows you to feed your curiosity about what’s going on in the rest of the world, and you love it! Now that you can do that much, let’s just get to walking.

If your child is always fixated on one thing when entering an environment, s/he is being robbed of making daily discoveries: How does my mom greet people? Do I greet grandma the same way I greet a cashier? How am I supposed to act in a gym as opposed to church? These sorts of skills are often taught if a child lacks it; but when not discovered in a natural environment, these skills can look very awkward or be inappropriate in different settings! Even in a gym, the expectation of how we’d behave changes according to what is happening in the gym. We are constantly appraising our surroundings to determine the appropriate way to act. Through the use of RDI strategies, these discoveries can be made for a child who wouldn’t otherwise make them on his/her own. Give us a call if you want to know how!

Autism specialist Michelle VanderHeide, of the Horizons Developmental Remediation Center, provides practical information and advice for families living with autism and other developmental disabilities. If you are ready to reduce your stress level, enrich your child’s development, and improve your family’s quality of life, get your FREE reports now>

How to Write a Notable Research Paper or Essay

Writing a research paper or essay doesn’t have to be a dreaded chore. Knowing the proper steps when preparing to write a paper is essential for success. Here are a few tips and techniques to make the process less frustrating, and set you on your way to creating a notable paper.

Things You Will Need


Index Cards

MLA, APA or other reference guide

College Dictionary

Step 1

Decide on a topic to write about and develope a thesis statement (i.e. a question you are trying to answer about the topic). It is always more productive to write about something you are interested in, rather than attempting to write about something you could care less about. Example: If you enjoy Charles Dickens’ works, write a paper on an aspect of his work, such as Christmas traditions mentioned in his popular story, “A Christmas Carol.”

Step 2

This is one of the most crucial steps in the writing process. In order to write a persuasive, argumentative, or any type of paper, good research techniques are required. Academic journals are excellent research tools to use for quotations, and general information about the topic. Many of these journals can be accessed online through campus libraries or on your home computer for free. Visiting your local library is also a good way to find sources for your research topic. Most instructors prefer academic works to be used for sources rather than non-academic resources.

How to Stop Divorce: Find Out Exactly What To Do

Before you find out what you need to do to try to stop divorce, you must understand that in just about every state, you cannot stop a divorce by yourself if your spouse is determined to get one.

In addition, here are three strategies that you need to avoid if you want to stop divorce:

1. Giving reassurance, such as “I’ve changed. I won’t have another affair. I won’t lie to you anymore.” This strategy never works.

2. Telling him/her repeatedly, “I love you.” This strategy also does not work.

3. Arguing and trying to talk him/her into feeling different. This strategy does not work as well.

So what you can do to stop divorce?

The biggest secret is that you need to work at your relationship. You must persistently work at having pleasant relationship. By no means should you take your relationship for granted.

Many outside factors (job, finances, illness or inattention) have huge influence on relationships. You goal should be to deal with these factors.

Here are three steps to stop divorce.

1. Husband and wife should come to an understanding that an outside factor is the most important cause.

2. Husband and wife should create a reasonable plan for solving the problem. A thorough plan must engage both of spouses.

3. Make the plan happen. Engage the whole family if needed.

Here are some tips that will help you have a good relationship.

– Communicate with your spouse. Talk about things that bother you, using the word “we” a lot.

– Spend more time together doing things you each like to do.

– Think twice before you say something.

– Do not shout a hard criticism.

Alex Fir shares a wealth of information on his website Divorce Help Center. If you want to learn more about separation and divorce go to

My girls

I once lived in a house of endless laughter

Where giggles would tumble like blocks

Dresses would twirl and ponytails fly

Smiles on their faces would give me a high


But that is all water now under a bridge

For I am alone now where only silence lives

Bouncing from wall to wall, nothingness exists

I look at the empty room and ball up my fists


Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday rolls by

A blur of endless work hours to make the time fly

Then finally, it is Thursday, and the time is near

The silence from the walls I can no longer hear


It is my day to shine, when the girls will come

Work to school then finally home

Time ceases to exist as the giggling tumbles again

They will leave me soon, but I’m content until then


Thursday to Sunday every other week

All other moments, nothing but bleak

I live for the days when they brighten my walls

Killing the silence, breaking my falls


I can see in their faces

When they think I’m not looking

The tears in their eyes

For the dad they are missing