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Franco Harris Defends Joe Paterno, Again

Although running with the ball was once what Franco Harris did with excellence, playing defense for Joe Paterno was not his forte. Harris, the former Penn State star and NFL hall of fame running back just can’t keep his mouth closed about his ex-coach who was recently fired from Penn State.

Harris says that the sexual abuse scandal was good coincidence for the university to cut the 84-year old football coach, according to reports on USA Today.

“I don’t think the firing had anything to do with the scandal.”

The scandal he’s referring to is the alleged child rape of 8 or more boys by former defense assistant football coach Jerry Sandusky. Harris adamantly believes that Joe Paterno’s turning the other cheek to his friend’s alleged atrocities “isn’t the reason for his firing.” He believes that the Board of Trustees and Paterno had “feelings” toward each other.

Harris, in his apparent worshiping of Paterno, continues that Paterno “is distraught about this situation. The child abuse (allegation) makes him sick.”

Mr. Harris was recently fired as spokesperson for the Meadows Race Track and Casino earlier last week after his previous defense of Joe Paterno. He was also asked to leave as chairman of the Pittsburgh Promise, a local scholarship foundation by the mayor of Pittsburgh, Luke Ravensthal.

Harris tried to defend his coach when he said, “if people don’t know what Joe built here for 61 years, and they’re connecting him to supporting child abuse, that’s sickening in itself.” Well Mr. Harris, Joe Paterno built on the sand, and not on the rock. For not even Jesus associated with alleged child rapists.


A Circuit Civil – Family Law – Divorce Mediator serving throughout Florida: Daddy, Husband, Attorney with a Bachelor in Materials Engineering and a Juris Doctorate from University of Florida.

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Warning Signs Of Child Abuse

In the USA, over 900,000 children are victims of abuse & neglect every year. Child abuse is so common, yet shocking . Whether the abuse is physical, emotional, sexual, or neglect, the scars can be deep and long-lasting, often leading to future child abuse. Learning the signs and symptoms of child abuse can help break the cycle, finding out where to get help for the children and their caregivers.

Why would someone abuse an innocent child? Child abuse happens in all social groups and all ethnicities. Sadly, the abuse is overwhelmingly caused by those who are supposed to be protecting the child- the parents.

There are many forms of abuse, but the result is the same- serious physical or emotional harm. Physical or sexual abuse may be the most striking types of abuse, since they often unfortunately leave physical evidence behind. However, emotional abuse and neglect are serious types of child abuse that are often more subtle and difficult to spot. Child neglect is the most common type of child abuse.

Risk factors for child abuse include:

History of child abuse. Unfortunately, the patterns we learn in childhood are often what we use as parents. Without treatment and insight, sadly, the cycle of child abuse often continues.

Stress and lack of support. Parenting can be a very time intensive, difficult job. Parents caring for children without support from family, friends or the community can be under a lot of stress. Teen parents often struggle with the maturity and patience needed to be a parent. Caring for a child with a disability, special needs or difficult behaviors is also a challenge. Caregivers who are under financial or relationship stress are at risk as well.

Alcohol or drug abuse. Alcohol and drug abuse lead to serious lapses in judgment. They can interfere with impulse control making emotional and physical abuse more likely. Due to impairment caused by being intoxicated, alcohol and drug abuse frequently lead to child neglect Domestic violence. Witnessing domestic violence in the home, as well as the chaos and instability that is the result, is emotional abuse to a child. Frequently domestic violence will escalate to physical violence against the child as well.

All types of child abuse and neglect leave lasting scars. Some of these scars might be physical, but emotional scarring has long lasting effects throughout life, damaging a child’s sense of self and ability to have healthy relationships.

Physical child abuse: Warning signs and how to help

Many physically abusive parents and caregivers insist that their actions are simply forms of discipline, ways to make children learn to behave. But there’s a big difference between giving an unmanageable child a swat on the backside and twisting the child’s arm until it breaks. Physical abuse can include striking a child with the hand, fist, or foot or with an object, burning, shaking, pushing, or throwing a child; pinching or biting the child, pulling a child by the hair or cutting off a child’s air. Another form of child abuse involving babies is shaken baby syndrome, in which a frustrated caregiver shakes a baby roughly to make the baby stop crying, causing brain damage that often leads to severe neurological problems and even death.

Warning signs of physical abuse

Physical signs. Sometimes physical abuse has clear warning signs, such as unexplained bruises, welts, or cuts. While all children will take a tumble now and then, look for age-inappropriate injuries, injuries that appear to have a pattern such as marks from a hand or belt, or a pattern of severe injuries.

Behavioral signs. Other times, signs of physical abuse may be more subtle. The child may be fearful, shy away from touch or appear to be afraid to go home. A child’s clothing may be inappropriate for the weather, such as heavy, long sleeved pants and shirts on hot days.

Caregiver signs. Physically abusive caregivers may display anger management issues and excessive need for control. Their explanation of the injury might not ring true, or may be different from an older child’s description of the injury.

Emotional child abuse

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”. This old saying could not be farther from the truth. Emotional child abuse may seem invisible. However, because emotional child abuse involves behavior that interferes with a child’s mental health or social development, the effects can be extremely damaging and may even leave deeper lifelong psychological scars than physical abuse.

Words. Examples of how words can hurt include constant belittling, shaming, and humiliating a child, calling names and making negative comparisons to others, or constantly telling a child he or she is “no good”, “worthless,” “bad,” or “a mistake.” How the words are spoken can be terrifying to a child as well, such as yelling, threatening, or bullying.

Actions. Basic food and shelter may be provided, but withholding love and affection can have devastating effects on a child. Examples include ignoring or rejecting a child, giving him or her the silent treatment. Another strong component of emotional abuse is exposing the child to inappropriate situations or behavior. Especially damaging is witnessing acts that cause a feeling of helplessness and horror, such as in domestic violence or watching another sibling or pet be abused.

Signs of emotional child abuse

Behavioral signs. Since emotional child abuse does not leave concrete marks, the effects may be harder to detect. Is the child excessively shy, fearful or afraid of doing something wrong?

Caregiver signs. Does a caregiver seem unusually harsh and critical of a child, belittling and shaming him or her in front of others? Has the caregiver shown anger or issues with control in other areas? A caregiver may also seem strangely unconcerned with a child’s welfare or performance. Keep in mind that there might not be immediate caregiver signs. Tragically, many emotionally abusive caregivers can present a kind outside face to the world, making the abuse of the child all the more confusing and scary.

Sexual child abuse

Sexual abuse, defined as any sexual act between an adult and a child, has components of both physical and emotional abuse. Sexual abuse can be physical, such as inappropriate fondling, touching and actual sexual penetration. It can also be emotionally abusive, as in cases where a child is forced to undress or exposing a child to adult sexuality. Aside from the physical damage that sexual abuse can cause, the emotional component is powerful and far reaching. The layer of shame that accompanies sexual abuse makes the behavior doubly traumatizing. While news stories of sexual predators are scary, what is even more frightening is that the adult who sexually abuses a child or adolescent is usually someone the child knows and is supposed to trust: a relative, childcare provider, family friend, neighbor, teacher, coach, or clergy member. Children may worry that others won’t believe them and will be angry with them if they tell. They may believe that the abuse is their fault, and the shame is devastating and can cause lifelong effects.

Signs of sexual child abuse

Behavioral signs. Does the child display knowledge or interest in sexual acts inappropriate to his or her age, or even seductive behavior? A child might appear to avoid another person, or display unusual behavior- either being very aggressive or very passive. Older children might resort to destructive behaviors to take away the pain, such as alcohol or drug abuse, self-mutilation, or suicide attempts.

Physical signs. A child may have trouble sitting or standing, or have stained, bloody or torn underclothes. Swelling, bruises, or bleeding in the genital area is a red flag. An STD or pregnancy, especially under the age of 14, is a strong cause of concern.

Caregiver signs. The caregiver may seem to be unusually controlling and protective of the child, limiting contact with other children and adults. Again, as with other types of abuse, sometimes the caregiver does not give outward signs of concern. This does not mean the child is lying or exaggerating.

Child neglect

Child neglect is the most frequent form of child abuse. Neglect is a pattern of failing to provide for a child’s basic needs, endangering a child’s physical and psychological well-being. Child neglect is not always deliberate. Sometimes, a caregiver becomes physically or mentally unable to care for a child, such as in untreated depression or anxiety. Other times, alcohol or drug abuse may seriously impair judgment and the ability to keep a child safe. The end result, however, is a child who is not getting their physical and/or emotional needs met.

Warning signs of child neglect

Physical signs. A child may consistently be dressed inappropriately for the weather, or have ill-fitting, dirty clothes and shoes. They might appear to have consistently bad hygiene, like appearing very dirty, matted and unwashed hair, or noticeable body odor. Another warning sign is untreated illnesses and physical injuries.

Behavioral signs. Does the child seem to be unsupervised? School children may be frequently late or tardy. The child might show troublesome, disruptive behavior or be withdrawn and passive.

Caregiver signs. Does the caregiver have problems with drugs or alcohol? While most of us have a little clutter in the home, is the caregivers home filthy and unsanitary? Is there adequate food in the house? A caregiver might also show reckless disregard for the child’s safety, letting older children play unsupervised or leaving a baby unattended. A caregiver might refuse or delay necessary health care for the child.

What to do if a child reports abuse

You may feel overwhelmed and confused if a child begins talking to you about abuse. It is a difficult subject and hard to accept, and you might not know what to say. The best help you can provide is calm, unconditional support and reassurance. Let your actions speak for you if you are having trouble finding the words. Remember that it is a tremendous act of courage for children to come forward about abuse. They might have been told specifically not to tell, and may even feel that the abuse is normal. They might feel they are to blame for the abuse. The child is looking to you to provide support and help- don’t let him or her down.

Avoid denial and remain calm. A common reaction to news as unpleasant and shocking as child abuse is denial. However, if you display denial to a child, or show shock or disgust at what they are saying, the child may be afraid to continue and will shut down. As hard as it may be, remain as calm and reassuring as you can.

Don’t interrogate. Let the child explain to you in his/her own words what happened, but don’t interrogate the child or ask leading questions. This may confuse and fluster the child and make it harder for them to continue their story.

Reassure the child that they did nothing wrong. It takes a lot for a child to come forward about abuse. Reassure him or her that you take what is said seriously, and that it is not the child’s fault.

Reporting child abuse and neglect

Reporting child abuse seems so official. Many people are reluctant to get involved in other families lives. However, by reporting, you can make a tremendous difference in the life of a child and the child’s family, especially if you help stop the abuse early. Early identification and treatment can help mitigate the long-term effects of abuse. If the abuse is stopped and the child receives competent treatment, the abused child can begin to regain a sense of self-confidence and trust. Some parents may also benefit from support, parent training and anger management.

Reporting child abuse: Myths and Facts

I don’t want to interfere in some one else’s family. The effects of child abuse are lifelong, affecting future relationships, self esteem, and sadly putting even more children at risk of abuse as the cycle continues. Help break the cycle of child abuse.

What if I break up someone’s home? The priority in child protective services is keeping children in the home. A child abuse report does not mean a child is automatically removed from the home – unless the child is clearly in danger. Support such as parenting classes, anger management or other resources may be offered first to parents if safe for the child.

They will know it was me who called. Reporting is anonymous. In most states, you do not have to give your name when you report child abuse. The child abuser cannot find out who made the report of child abuse.

It won’t make a difference what I have to say. If you have a gut feeling that something is wrong, it is better to be safe than sorry. Even if you don’t see the whole picture, others may have noticed as well, and a pattern can help identify child abuse that might have otherwise slipped through the cracks.

Child Abuse Hotlines: Where to call to get help or report abuse

If you suspect a child is in immediate danger contact law enforcement as soon as possible.

To get help in the U.S., call:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) – Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline

To get help for child sexual abuse, call:

1-888-PREVENT (1-888-773-8368) – Stop It Now

1-800-656-HOPE Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)

Child abuse prevention

Reducing the incidence of child abuse is a matter of intervention and education.


In some cases, as in cases of extreme cruelty, sexual abuse, and severe alcohol and drug abuse, children are safer away from the caregiver. Not all abusive parents intend harm to their children, however. Some parents need help to realize that they are hurting their children, and can work on their problems. Some examples include:

Domestic violence. A mother might be trying to do her best to protect her children from an abusive husband, not realizing that the children are being emotionally abused even if they are not physically abused. Helping a mother leave an abusive relationship and getting supportive counseling can help stop these children from being abused.

Alcohol and drug abuse. Alcohol and drug abusers may be so focused on their addiction that they are hurting their children without realizing it. Getting appropriate help and support for alcohol and drug abuse can help parents focus back on their children.

Untreated mental illness. A depressed mother might not be able to respond to her own needs much less her children’s. A caregiver suffering from emotional trauma may be distant and withdrawn from her children, or quick to anger without understanding why. Treatment for the caregiver means better care for the children.

In some cases, you might be able to provide support for parents/caregivers who need help yourself. What if a parent or caregiver comes to you? The key is not to be self-righteous or judgmental, which can alienate caregivers, but offer support and concrete offers of help, such as helping them connect with community resources. If you feel that your safety or the safety of the child would be threatened if you try to intervene, leave it to the professionals. You may be able to provide more support later after the initial professional intervention.

For caregivers

Do you see yourself in some of these descriptions, painful as it may be? Do you feel angry and frustrated and don’t know where to turn? Caring for children can be very difficult. Don’t go it alone. Ask for help if you need it. If you don’t have a friend or family to turn to, call the child abuse hotline, 1-800-4-A-CHILD, yourself. The hotline is also designed to get you support and find resources in the community that can help you.

Single Mother Income Authority is a help site for battered women also.

Open Letter To Congress Dealing With Gay Marriage and Gay Adoption.

This is a letter I intend to send out to the members of both the House of Representatives and the members of the Senate.  I decided to dig a little into these issues, and find statistics, as well as Biblical verses to use the same information that they do when they try to repress individual freedoms.  Any comments are greatly appreciated.


To Whom It May Concern,


I am writing this letter to you to inform you that your attacks on the gay community have not gone without notice.  It is actually quiet disheartening that you would do this to American citizens; however, I am not shocked at all.  Our history has taught us that people with little understanding of diversity do get into power, and then attempt to oppress anyone with a different viewpoint or way of life than they have.  It is truly a superiority complex.  “Thou shall neither vex a stranger nor oppress him; for ye were strangers in the land of Egypt.”  Exodus 22:21.  “Thou shall not avenge nor bare any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself; I am the Lord.”  Leviticus 19:18.

I just wanted to inform you that your viewpoints are fine for you to make.  I do believe in freedom of speech.  The issue that I have though is the fact that you would attempt to turn discrimination into law, and foster your hatred within the Constitution of the United States of America.  While you claim that you are trying to protect your religious freedoms, I myself, am trying to exercise my freedom from religion.  I do not have the same views as you, and do not share your faith-based values at all, and that is ok.  See, here in America that is more than fine.  We do not have to adhere to one religious sect or another, our founding fathers made sure of that.  I think that is becoming lost in the translation these days.

I hear your arguments against gay marriage, saying that gay couples are not able to be monogamous, and that it will destroy marriage.  Two points.  First, I, myself, am in a committed relationship, and actually, am engaged to a wonderful man.  I, nor he, has ever cheated, and we have many friends that are the same in that endeavor.  Cheating is not something that is limited to the gay community, and that is obvious.  It is frightening that you are placing a stigma on us, which your community possesses as well.  The second point is the fact that gay marriage is not ruining anything.  We have not had that ability, and yet divorce rates are higher than ever before, sitting at 50%. In 2000, over 2,355,005 couples married, while 957,200 divorced.  That is an alarming statistic, don’t you think?  Gay couples had nothing to do with that.  Domestic Violence is on the rise as well.  35% of all women and 22% of all men who are admitted into the Emergency Room of a hospital have been victims of Domestic Violence.  It is also proven that 4 million women are abused by their male domestic partners each year.  That is also a statistic that has no bearing on the gay community.  The claims against our fidelity are also not plausible.  Out of the divorce rates, 68% of couples have reported infidelity as the reason for the divorce.  In addition, 1 in 3 married men take their wedding rings off if they leave their home without their wives.  These are not very numbers at all.  “Thou shall not commit adultery,” Exodus 20:14.   I guess the problem being is that there are enough issues with the “sacred institution” of marriage already, and all of the hang-ups are being thrown onto the gay community.  We have not caused these problems or statistics, and should not be blamed for them. 

In the issue of gay adoption, according to many conservatives, gay couples should not be allowed to adopt due to child abuse.  First off, there are many different forms of abuse.  According to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, the perpetrators of child abuse related fatalities are the biological parents, male and female.  Over 79% of all fatality cases include both of the parents.  In addition, as far as maltreatment is concerned, over 80% of those children abuse were do to neglect, 18.9% due to physical violence, and 9.9% were due to sexual abuse.  In addition, 83.9% of victims were abused by their biological parents.  In the cases of foster care and adoption, the rate of abuse is 0.57%.  Seems that most foster parents and adoptive parents are actually, well, good parents.  And, gay couples, fall under that case.  Most gay couples do adopt, and in fact, research actually points out the holes in the argument.  In 1992, after years of research, the magazine, Childhood Development, published the study which concluded, “Despite dire predictions about children based on well-known theories of psychosocial development, and despite the accumulation of substantial body of research investigating these issues, not a single study has found children of gay or lesbian parents to be disadvantages in any significant respect relative to children of heterosexual parents.” 

One last point I would like to broach is the fact that there have been many scandals involving members of our government, from lobbying to lying.  As far as lying is concerned, “Ye shall not steal, neither deal falsely, neither lie to one another.”  Leviticus 19:11.  The issue of lobbying is covered in Exodus 23:08, “For thou shall take no gift, for the gift blindeth the wise and perverteth the words of the righteous.”  It is pretty clear what the Bible has to say on so many of these issues, and since so many in Congress and the White House choose to quote the book, I felt it necessary to make everyone familiar with some of its rules.  

Please feel free to respond to this letter via email at:  Thank you for your time in this matter, and I look forward from hearing from you on these important issues.


Jonathan Schussler

Child Abuse Awareness Month

Did you know that the month of April is Child Abuse Awareness Month? Seems to me that every month should be Child Abuse Awareness Month, however, I suppose having a dedicated month to bring forward this topic works in this society. Let’s not wait for a particular month to know the tell tale signs of child abuse. The following information should be helpful in pointing out the signs of child abuse and perhaps even spur you into action if you see these signs.

There are roughly four categories of child abuse:

1. Physical Abuse

2. Neglect

3. Sexual Abuse

4. Emotional Maltreatment


It is likely that child victims of physical abuse will suffer from several of the following:

1. They bear signs of injury, like bruises, welts, contusions, cuts, burns, fractures, lacerations, strap marks, swellings, lost teeth. The list of possibilities is long and not very pleasant. While internal injuries are seldom detachable without a hospital workup, anyone in close contact with children should be alert to multiple injuries, a history of repeated injury, new injuries added to old, and untreated injuries.

2. The older child may attribute the injury to an improbable cause, lying for fear of parental retaliation. The younger child on the other hand, may be unaware that severe beating is unacceptable and may admit to having been abused.

3. They have behavior problems. Among adolescents, chronic and unexplainable misbehavior should be investigated as possible evidence of abuse. Some children come to expect abusive behavior as the only kind of attention they can get, so they may act in a way that invites the physical abuse. Some may even break the law to come under the jurisdiction of the courts just to get protection from their abuser.

4. Their parents provide the necessities for their child such as food and clean clothes, but they anger quickly, have unrealistic expectations of their child, use inappropriate discipline and are overly critical and rejecting of their child. Alcohol and drug abuse are increasingly blamed for abuse.


Physically neglected children will likely suffer from several of the following symptoms:

1. They are often hungry. They may go without breakfast, and have neither food nor money for lunch. Some turn into bullies and take the lunch money or food of other children and hoard whatever they get.

2. They show signs of malnutrition, paleness, low weight relative to height, lack of body tone, fatigue, inability to participate in physical activities, and lack of normal strength and endurance. They are also usually irritable.

3. They are unclean and unkempt; their clothes are torn and dirty; and they are often un-bathed. They may lack proper clothing for weather conditions, and their school attendance may be irregular. In addition, these children may frequently be ill and may exhibit a generally repressed personality, inattentiveness and withdrawal.

4. They are in obvious need of medical attention for such correctable conditions as poor eyesight, dental care, and immunizations. They may also lack parental supervision at home.

5. Their parents are either unable or unwilling to provide appropriate care. Some neglecting parents are mentally deficient; most lack knowledge of parenting skills and tend to be discouraged, depressed, and frustrated with their role as parents. Alcohol and drug abuse may be involved.

It should be noted that physical neglect can be a result of poverty and/or ignorance and not be intentional. There have been countless stories of mothers brining their crying baby to the clinic for help because they could not stand the crying anymore, only to find the baby was malnourished, because the mother did not know that the baby needed to be fed several times a day, everyday.


Children who are victims of sexual abuse may show the following signs:

1. The child may have torn, stained or bloody underclothing. They may experience pain or itching, bruises or bleeding in the genital area. They may have a venereal disease, or if the child is older, may be pregnant.

2. The child may appear withdrawn or engages in fantasy or infantile behavior. They may have poor peer relationships and may be unwilling to participate in physical activities. They my even engage in delinquent acts or run away.

3. Their parent may be extremely protective or jealous of the child. They may have been victims of sexual abuse themselves and are frequently absent form the home. Misuses of alcohol and drugs are common.


Emotional abuse and neglect are as serious as physical abuse and neglect, although this condition is far more difficult to describe or identify. Emotional maltreatment often involves a parent’s lack of love or failure to give direction or encourage the child’s development. The parents may demand far too much from the child in the area of academic, social or athletic activity or, on the other hand, may withhold physical or verbal contact indication no concern for the child’s successes and failures, and give no guidance or praise.

The effect of such emotional abuse and neglect can often be far more serious and lasting than those of physical abuse and neglect. The emotionally abused or neglected child is often extremely aggressive, disruptive and demanding in an attempt to gain attention and love. They rarely are able to achieve the success in school that tests indicate them capable of.

Emotional maltreatment can be hard to determine. Is the child’s abnormal behavior the result of maltreatment on the part of the parents or is it a result of inborn or internal factors? Possible behaviors associated with emotional abuse are as varied as head banging and rocking, phobias, hypochondria, antisocial behavior, developmental lags, drops in school performance, and attempted suicide.


While it is impossible to determine whether or not child abuse will occur in a given family situation, a family may be “at risk,” if the parents:

1. Is a loner, feels isolated, with no family to depend on and no real friends.

2. Has no understanding of the stages of child development and does not know what the expect of a child at a given age.

3. Has a poor self-image, feels worthless, with a nagging sense of failure.

4. Feels unloved, unappreciated, unwanted, with a fear of rejection.

5. Has severe personal problems such as ill health, alcoholism, or drug dependency.

6. Feels that violence can often be the solution to life’s problems or has not learned to “blow off steam,” in a socially acceptable manner.

7. Is experiencing a time of severe stress, sudden unemployment, painful divorce, for example, without having any coping mechanism.

8. Was abused or neglected as a child.

 Or the child:

1. Is “different,” is smaller than average, sicklier, disabled, is considered unattractive, or was premature.

2. Resembles or reminds the parent of someone the parent hates, “takes after,” a disappointing spouse or former loved one.

3. Is more demanding or otherwise has more problems than other children in the family do.

4. Is unwanted– seen as a “mistake,” or burden, having “ruined things,” for the parent.

So remember, although April is National Child Abuse Awareness Month, we should keep these tell tale signs in the back of our heads for the eleven other months of the year.

Physical Child Abuse

I wrote an article on how this month was Child Abuse Month. I as well made a calendar to ask all to follow to help with awareness of Child Abuse.  If you haven’t seen it please look here.


Physical abuse is non-accidental injury.  10.8% of Child Abuse Victims  are physically abused. Indications that a child may be a victim of physical abuse is…

  • bite marks
  • unusual bruises
  • lacerations
  • burns
  • high incidence of accidents or frequent injuries
  • fractures in unusual places
  • injuries, swellings to face and extremities
  • discoloration of skin

The effects vary in children and depends on six factors

  • Severity
  • Frequency
  • Age physical abuse began
  • Relationship to abuser
  • Available support persons
  • Child’s ability to cope

When a child is physically abused  the effects may be…

  • Don’t trust
  • Afraid of physical contact
  • Startle easily
  • Aggressive
  • Withdrawn
  • Profound sadness
  • School difficulties
  • Hard time concentrating
  • Lie
  • Steal
  • Low self-esteem
  • Psychosomatic illness

When a youth is physically abused the effects may be…

  • Don’t trust
  • Developmental lags
  • Never cry
  • Always cry
  • Aggressive
  • Extreme passivity
  • Rage
  • Thrill-seeking behavior
  • Manipulative
  • Self-harm
  • Harm others
  • Fail in school
  • Sets up negative reactions with others
  • Inability to control emotions
  • Lashes out physically
  • Short Attention span
  • Substance abuse
  • Runs away
  • Breaks law
  • Suicidal

The abuser may show indications of…

  • Excessive punishment
  • Highly moralistic
  • Substance abuse
  • Upsets easily
  • Suspicious or fearful of others
  • Social isolation
  • Sees the child as bad
  • No interest, or little, of child’s well-being
  • Don’t respond as should to child’s pain
  • Injury explanation inconsistent
  • Blames the child for injuries
  • Criticizes child
  • Takes the child to different hospitals and physicians for each injury

If you suspect Child Abuse call your local CPS/DCFS.  If you witness the abuse call police immediately!!!

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