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How Parents can Ease Childrens Psychological Burdens from Divorce

Children are more often than not affected by the divorce of their parents; however, the negative effects can be reduced by having divorcing parents follow these tips.

~ Talk to your child communication is the key when big changes are taking place. Changing a routine that has been ingrained in your child’s life from the moment they were born can often leave them feeling insecure about themselves, their futures, and the features of their family. Make sure you both sit down and talk to your child both individually and together and reassure them the decision to divorce was not based on anything they did.

Explaining to children the complicated nature of relationships can seem like an overwhelming, if not awkward, task, but honesty is always the best policy in situations like this. Immature and emotionally underdeveloped children often cling to the most ridiculous reasons in order to explain an unexplained divorce, often blaming themselves, so be sure you are straightforward and offer concrete reasons why your marriage has not worked, is not salvageable, and will benefit from divorce. Explain the consequences of divorce and try to elaborate on the beneficial and positive aspects, such as “Mommy is going to be so happy that she can finally do this” etcetera.

~ Make a new routine A huge change such as the divorce of parents can often lead to circumstances, which leave kids lost or confused, searching for a new routine in order to give them the sense of security that they have now lost. Right away establish a new routine. With younger children, the security of a routine will certainly take the focus away from negative aspects of divorce, and they may not even notice that anything has changed until they grow older. With older kids, it’s probably better if they are involved in the decision-making over new routines. When and where they will be with which parents should be discussed together as a family. Simply, because your marriage has dissolved, does not mean that you no longer have a role or responsibility in the family (this applies to all members) and thus the establishment of a new routine should certainly remain a family activity as well.

~ Do not fight in front of the kids. No matter how ugly or nasty it gets between the divorcing parties; it is essential  that adults take the responsibility of not arguing in front of their children. Children need to learn how to solve problems without bickering and all out emotional fighting, and the stress of being in a situation where parents are pitted against each other is enough to cause long-lasting psychological damage. Be cautious of how you refer to each other when discussing your divorcing partner. It is essential that you reassure children that you are the adults and have things under control.

Fighting with your soon to be former spouse only creates tension between “family” members and instills in children the idea that verbal abuse or unhealthy expressions of anger are “okay” which they simply are not. You do not want to end up in a situation where your children are constantly putting you and your former spouse together in battle over the most trivial of all circumstances. Children are smart, and they will play you against each other, so nip it in the bud and remind them that you are teammates as parents, if not husband and wife, so you will be making decisions together regardless of marital status.

~ Get them help – Even in the best situations, there are some more sensitive children who may benefit from talking to a professional about the events surrounding and leading to your divorce. Do not hesitate to make an appointment with a family counselor who will most likely talk to you and your child both together and alone.

Divorce is never easy, but its effects certainly do not have to be negative if parents take the proper measures to ensure that their children are aware of the reasons behind their separation and that their children have realistic expectations of their futures and the future of their families.

 

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Dating

Dating traditionally is a term to describe two people participating in activities together in order to get to know each other and determine suitability for a more intimate relationship or marriage.

Increasingly, however, it is more of a term that people use to describe a relationship (often but not always involving sexual relations) as having no emotional attachment. A person can be ‘dating’ several people at once.

In this article, we’re going to look at some of the more common terms used to describe dating.

One term that used to be pretty much synonymous with it is courtship – an older (although still practiced in some cultures) version of dating, in which there are usually chaperones, and the meeting itself is typically arranged by a third party (relatives of the couple, generally).

Third parties (although not necessarily family, it’s often through a dating service or friends) can set up ‘blind dates’ in which the two people involved do not previously know each other.

Another activity is ‘speed dating’ in which a group of people come together, and, through a fairly structured method, are systematically paired with each other for a short period of time in order to see if any of the participants make a connection.

Another term widely used is ‘online dating.’ This is where people meet typically through signing up at a third party website and answering a series of questions designed to match people that will be hopefully compatible. This is becoming more and more popular, and the screening methods are becoming more advanced as well.

Something becoming increasingly popular is ‘virtual dating’ in which people spend time on a virtual world interacting with each other via ‘avatars’ (their in-game personas) and perhaps at some point actually start dating in the real world.

There’s also a tendency in recent years towards ‘hook-up’ sites, where people can find others who are just interested in one-night stands or sexual relationships with no emotional ties or commitments.

There are a lot of other dating terms, but these are currently some of the more common ones being used. By exploring this category today you can find out a lot more about the various forms dating can take, and all the different nuances and subtopics that can be involved.

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Ways to Stop Divorce

There are many ways to stop divorce. Divorce is one thing that is feared by most couples. No matter the age of a marriage, they will try as far as possible to avoid the divorce. Do not make the divorce as a major option when facing a problem in marriage without trying to fix it first.

In marriage, we can not run away from a problem. However, not all couples can overcome the problems in their marriage. Just who worked hard to save the marriage will succeed. There are several ways to stop divorce. I hope this sharing can help you avoid divorce.

Communication

Communication is important element in creating a harmonious relationship. Lack of communication can cause small problems turn into worse. Being open in communication will prevent the hidden feelings in yourself and your partner.

Improve weaknesses

You and your partner should find the weaknesses inside both of you and try to improve it as much as possible. Do not make your partner’s weakness as an excuse to put all the blame on him. You have to use your strength to help improve the weaknesses of your partner.

Listen to your spouse

Another ways to stop divorce is try to listen to your spouse. Do not try to fight back, but give a chance to your partner to put the explanation so that you can understand what is really going on. Although there are things you do not agree, it is important to understand the feelings of your partner. Show your partner that you really ready to hear from him.

Give some space

When there is any conflict, each spouse must give space to their spouses to cool down. Let your partner do the favored either on vacation, hang out with friends or doing his or her favorite outdoor activities. When your partner is ready to talk, then you and your partner should try to find the solutions together.

Get help

Getting help is the last possible ways to stop divorce. You and your partner can get help either from your parents, close friends or marriage counselors. Getting help from a professional marriage counselor is the best when all your actions to improve the marriage failed. There is nothing wrong if seeking help from outsiders to save our marriage.

Although there are many ways to stop divorce, it all depends on your decision. Correct decision will cheerful you and your partner. You should remember, marriage is a partnership which requires the cooperation of both parties. Make the decisions agreed upon by you and your partner. If you need help in your efforts to save your marriage, please visit the blog quoted below.

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Soul Doctor's Guide to Divorce

Honesty folks. Honesty is always the best policy. Certainly it is often easier said than done and unusually tough to tell someone you care about something that might hurt them emotionally, but if you’ve concluded that divorce is the only available option, how to go about it is usually where we get stuck at. It is also where a simple matter of physical separation turns from one of communication into bitter litigation.

I read somewhere that pride comes before the fall, and whether or not this is true, pride is one of the reasons someone refuses to tell the truth. They don’t want to alter the opinion someone may have of them, or they don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings. But at the heart of the matter, they don’t want to deal with the guilt that hurting a person’s feelings usually causes.

Or they have a low self esteem and don’t want to put themselves first, which is essentially what you are doing when you decide to separate or divorce yourself from someone. You have determined that your feelings are more important to you than anyone else’s, at least on this particular point. So why not be honest about it?

First things first: Do you know why you want to divorce your spouse? If the answer to this question is an emphatic yes, then all you need to do is approach your spouse, sit them down and prepare them for your important statement. For instance, “John (or Jane), I have something I need to say, and I need for you to hear me. Not just listen, but hear me.”

This is a good beginning. You start by qualifing the statement you are about to make as something other than average conversation. You also give them time to mentally prepare for whatever it is you’re about to say that is so important you made them sit down. Even if it is only a few seconds of breathing room, it is better than nothing.

Tell the truth. Be honest. I cannot stress it enough. It makes no difference what you say to anyone if it is not the truth. When you walk away, you will know it was lies, and the same mistakes that plagued you in your previous relationship will be present in future ones until the refusal or inability to tell the truth is overcome. If we would instead take the time to explain to others how we felt, it would alleviate a lot of confusion and hurt feelings down the road.

Speaking the truth, interestingly enough, is the main reason why marriages fail. Experts will tell you ‘Communication is the key’, and in a sense this is true. Telling the truth is the purest form of communication. It is communication perfected. If you can speak the truth at all times, you will have established control over your environment, rather than letting your environment control you.

People tend to lie out of fear and fear is a personal, private emotion. Sure we all feel it at different times, and maybe some of us more than others. But fear is specific in its activities within each individual. As for lying, it is the fear of the consequences of telling the truth that usually causes a person to lie, because to tell the truth means we have to endure the gamut of emotions that we have hidden and submerged inside ourselves so we don’t have to deal with them. In effect, lying to ourselves about them.

You might be afraid of what might happen if those emotions got control of you. You might be afraid of how what you say might make others feel. You might be afraid of how what you say might cause others to act. But it is ok to be afraid. It is where we find strength to survive desperate situations and life or death struggles. Our ‘flight or fight’ instinct is founded in fear. Courage and bravery is grounded in fear, for one cannot be either courageous or brave without first dealing with one’s fears.

Now, moving back to divorce. If from the first you had been telling the truth to your spouse about your feelings, you would not be experiencing the problems you’re having. You always speak the truth when dealing with your spouse, you say? Oh really? How about when those fantasies over take you in the night, or when the dreams you have are drowned out by the imagined ridicule you’ll receive?

Well that’s not the kind of relationship you’re supposed to be in with your spouse. It is supposed to be a relationship of understanding and companionship. One in which the two halves are a whole of intent, process, and progress. Couples are supposed to work together, not work apart. They are supposed to be in lock step as they walk along the path of life, but this is not what most people are seeking.

Instead they are looking for an opportunity to ‘marry up’. In other words, many people marry for status or security reasons, and not at all for love. Some may claim to love their chosen mate, but that love is laden with conditions. Conditions that are completely arbitrary and not conducive to a healthy relationship. When you start out in the beginning with hidden conditions and preconceived notions, you are securing for yourself a guarantee for problems.

Which is why many of us are where we are now: on the shores of divorce, starting at what we perceive to be a sunrise, or is it a sunset? Sometimes it is hard to tell.

I myself have endured more than fourteen years of society’s conventional idea of marriage, and what I have learned has taught me quite a bit about relationships. Even though I’ve never been through a divorce before, I am not so ignorant of what transpires. Divorce is a selfish thing. It is that simple. But so are relationships, and since you are already being selfish about what your heart wants, why not use your head to get it, rather than lie about who you really are and what you are really after?

Speaking the truth cuts down on time needed to invest in dating someone, the heartache of incompatibilities to be discovered at a later date, and the rigamarole of ‘games’. Just be honest and up-front from the get go, and you’ll save yourself a lot of problems and, in the end, almost certainly emotional pain.

Don’t marry up for financial reasons or any reason other than for having someone to walk with you down the road of life. Someone who is going in the same direction you are. Someone with the same ideas and plans. That way when your journey comes to a difficult spot, your communication with each other will win out over whatever has caused the difficulty, and you cannot have this level of relational understanding with asking honest questions and receiving honest ansswers.

If you have never been the kind of person who is able to speak their mind, then try speaking with your heart. It is where the pain resides or the desire. If the emotional source is strong enough, you can use it to speak through your fear. Just remember what I told you earlier: Prepare the other for the import of your message. Try not to spring it on them After all this is about divorce.

You should also prepare yourself for what you are about to say. Is it what you really want? Or is there something else at the heart of the matter? Are you simply lonely and what to be the focus of someone’s attention for a while? This is usually where infidelity lurks. We humans are emotional creatures, whether we men want to admit it or not. We want to touch and be touched, feel and be felt. We want to interact with our mates on an emotional level, not just on a physical one.

We want to travel to the heights we have dreamed of and reside there, so why not be honest about it? Speaking the truth will resolve most of the problems we encounter in every aspect of our daily lives. Not being forthright is the very reason why we act and feel the way we do.

If you need to tell your husband that he sucks as a lover, then do it! Just be tackful and wise about it. Then tell him how you would like for him to love you, and give him time to put your information into practice.

Explain your feelings in the simplest terms possible, and specify that this is what you want, and that you want him to give it to you. If he’s willing to listen and understands, then it is a new beginning for your relationship and you should find the time to return the favor by asking him to reveal something he wants from you, and no matter what it is, try your best to give it to him. If it is something that you cannot tolerate, be up front about it. It may not be a good time, but it is never a good time to mislead someone with a lie when the truth would be much more effective.

If the idea is so repugnant to you that you can no longer remain in the relationship, then you should also reveal that side of yourself and the reasons for your feelings, if you are able to. Be always be kind and considerate, it is the same treatment you would want for your own feelings, but be firm.

Ok so maybe you don’t want to stop in the middle of sex and communicate feelings that could possibly end your relationship, but the point I am trying to make here is that honesty is always the best policy. Even if it isn’t convenient. If you are more honest with your friends and your family, you will find that your relationships will be more fulfilling and wholesome. You will be able to say things and get them off your chest once and for all, without harboring a grudge, or letting a minor incident bubble over into a mess that could have been avoided if only honesty had been adhered to.

The key to this, as I said before, is to prepare the listener for the import of your statement. Once that is done, you are free to speak freely. Not condescendingly, not hatefully, not angrily.

Calmly, tactfully, considerately. But also have someone to back you up if there is a physical fear of your spouse, just to be on the safe side. Even the tiniest of women can throw dishes.

Otherwise remember the golden rule: Do unto others as you would have done unto you. That is the sort of relationship you are looking for, isn’t it?

The Doctor is out.

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What Can I Do To Stop My Divorce?

Your wife has just asked for a divorce. More than anything in the world you want to make sure that doesn’t happen. You love your wife and you know that she still loves you. You believe you just need to sit down together and work things out. You know you’ve hurt her in the past and are willing to change. But you don’t know how to even get her to listen to what you have to say. What can you do to stop your divorce? You can’t accept that your marriage is over or that it’s too late for the two of you. What should your next move be?

It isn’t enough to just stop your divorce though. You need to take action to save your marriage too. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen. More importantly you need to convince your wife that you’re willing to do that as well. If you can’t make her believe that you’re going to go the extra mile to make your marriage work then there is little you can do to stop your divorce because she’s not going to be feeling it.

Once you make the decision that you want to pull things together and stop your divorce once and for all there are things you can do that will put you on more even footing with your wife. In fact, they may even get your wife to listen to you when she may not have been willing to before. The first thing you need to do is let your wife know how much you appreciate her. Tell her all the things you see now that she does for you to make your life easier and how empty and lonely your life will be without her in it. This alone may not be enough to save your marriage but it can at least get her to think about the possibility of making it work between the two of you.

The next step you need to take is to let your wife know how much you NEED her in your life. This goes beyond your appreciation of the things she does for you and digs deep into the fact that you believe you’re a better man with her than you could ever be on your own. This will get her attention in a big way because more than anything in this world, your wife wants to feel like she’s needed. She needs to be needed by you.

It’s not a major personality overhaul. You don’t have to sacrifice who you are or even really swallow your pride to get your wife’s attention. But if you wait too long to do these things you’ll be trying to get your ex back after the fact instead of trying to stop your divorce.

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Tips For Men Getting Over Divorce

There are some common mistakes which men getting over divorce often make. It can be helpful for you to keep a few important tipsin mind so that the transition can be much easier for you!

If you just read the last part of that sentence, this is the key point– it is a transition. However long or brief your divorce took from start to finish, and whether it was by mutual agreement or not, you are in the position of making the transition from married to single. While it may be painful to some degree, it does not need to be nearly as difficult as you may think.

Men getting over divorce often make the mistake of doing either of two things. Either they want to rush directly into a new relationship, or they firmly tell themselves that they will never become seriously involved with anyone ever again! If you do not make these mistakes, getting over divorce will be much smoother for you.

If you wish to make the transition successfully, you must begin by letting go of the marriage which is now over, and your former spouse. You must gain a clear perspective that they are in the past. While this can be hard if you have children to consider, even interacting with your ex for the sake of your children does not need to mean that she, personally, is still a part of your own life.

Men who are getting over divorce can do this most successfully by focusing on their own lives. If you are like most adults, there are probably many aspects of your life which can benefit from your attention– and you will benefit, also. Whether it includes a job or career, hobbies, or other personal interests, this is the best time to put all of those things first on your priority list. You can also develop some new interests which you did not have time for before now.

Although opinions on this differ, men getting over divorce should remain free of new relationships. In addition to it being essential that you have left your prior marriage in the past, your time is best spent if it is spent on yourself. If you do not grant yourself a sufficient amount of time, you could make the common mistake of becoming involved too quickly with someone else– and unconsciously expecting this new person to make up for the absence of your ex.

Men getting over divorce should allow themselves adequate time before even considering a new involvement. While it would be very unfair to a new person if you were still struggling with the after-effects of your divorce, there is yet another equally-relevant reason for putting some time into your own interests. Getting over divorce is almost never easy, but if you keep your focus on your own life before you think about having someone else in it, this can help you to gain a newfound strength, peace, and hope for your future. And when you think about it, you will surely agree that you do deserve it!

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The Lack of Communication and Divorce

When people get married, they think that they are the perfect couple until they find themselves to be getting a divorce. There are many reasons for a divorce, but communication seems to be a big one. When a couple has poor communications between them, they can be suddenly wondering who the other person is. When there are no lines of communication in a relationship there, is little doubt that the relationship will eventually end in divorce. People have more free resources and the ability to make a marriage stronger. There are several different ways to learn how effectively to communicate with each other.

The rate of divorce yet still seems to increase due to the lack of communication between the partners. Divorce has become something that in the past was not acceptable, yet it is now an everyday occurrence. When there is a lack of communication relationships seem to fall apart. The partners in a healthy marriage seem to have a more open way of talking with each other than others do. They discuss everything to be sure that they are on the same page, so to speak. Divorce is commonly done because of this lack of being able to talk openly to each other, and express their feelings and emotions.

Some areas that a good communication between the couple include:

* What their personal interests are

* What they expect from each other

* Future goals and someplace they want to be in a certain period

* Children to have them or not

* Pets

* Buying or renting a house

* Careers or jobs

* Being a homemaker or not

These are only some things that should be talked about openly to help make sure that both partners know what the other feels and thinks. These topics can have an extremely large impact on how day to day live with each other can be. If they do not agree on some simple things, they may not agree later on much bigger areas of their lives or changes that occur over time. This can result in a communication difference and can feel stuck in a relationship that is no longer what they want.

Knowing and talking about how they want their lives to be is only one part of whether a marriage will make it or end in a divorce. Having children can sometimes bring a couple that might be on the verge of splitting up, back together. If a marriage, is unplanned or based on a teen pregnancy, or pregnancy at all that might not be planned could cause resentment with the couple. There can be times that the lack of communication will tear what seems to be a strong couple apart.

Having a decent communication from the beginning and working on it could very well save a marriage, yet if there is none it can end in divorce. The lack of understanding how each other feels and what they are concerned with will only produce a wedge between any couple. Divorce because of this has become extremely common in the past.

The Lack of Communication and Divorce” is an article of StateDivorce, a database of Irvine vicinity lawyers.

5 Deadly Things that can Kill your Relationship

No marriage is perfect. Even the ones that have lasted for decades have ups-and-downs. While some work towards enduring it, many fall to one of the many reasons for divorce. However, separation does not take place by accident. The seed of estrangement builds up slowly when people tend to avoid things that matter most. Studies reveal that divorce rate has increased tremendously around the world. But why relationships are falling apart? Let us find out the tops reasons that are causing divorce globally.

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Communication breakdown


Lack of proper communication creates gaps among couples and leads to misunderstandings. Often women expect that their husbands will figure out what they really want, but the bitter truth is that men are no face readers. If you have a problem, discuss! Do not assume things; if in doubt, clarify. And guys please – if you love her, show it! Communication is not just about talking; it is about expressing and understanding. In many cases, marriages break down only because couples talk but do not communicate.

Infidelity


Adultery is one of the most common reasons of divorce. Even after years, the world has not forgotten the illicit affair of Prince Charles with Camilla that wrecked Princess Diana’s marriage with him. There are many such men and women who indulge in infidelity and wreck their own marriages. When partners become unfaithful to one another, divorce becomes the only solution.

Money matters


Money either can make your life better or can make it worse. There is no middle ground when it comes to money. Disagreements over financial responsibilities or monetary investments can cause much stress in a relationship often leading it to divorce. Though it may not be a primary cause of separation, it is certainly a significant contributor. It is recommended that you manage your funds with mutual understanding, fairness, and a tiny dose of compromise.

Sexual incompatibility


Satisfactory intimate relationship plays an important role in a successful marriage. Physical compatibility is essential to build a strong emotional bond. Sexual dissatisfaction or reproductive incapability often causes frustration leading to divorce. In case your sexual drives do not synchronize, it is better to seek medical help than calling it a quit.

Addiction


Marriage, family, and drug addiction certainly do not blend well. Addiction may include over use of drugs, alcohol, or gambling. It can be worse when combined with emotional, physical, or physiological abuse. Addiction is one of the most draining reasons for divorce or separation and should be given immediate professional attention.

Divorce is an emotional and a painful scar that can be avoided with some patience and understanding. If you ever see a seed of doubt sprouting in your marital life, consider visiting a marriage counsellor.

 

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Only Child Can Play Nice, Too

My daughter is close to two years old and I’m starting to get questioned about when we will have another child. People are concerned that my daughter is missing out as an only child, and they’re threatening me with things like: "She’s going to be spoiled," and "You’re going to have to work so much harder to entertain one kid." The one comment that actually kind of scared me a bit was, "It’s going to be hard for her to learn to get along with others. Don’t be surprised if she doesn’t have any friends."

Fortunately, I had purchased the book, NurtureShock by Po Bronson and Ashley Merryman a few months ago, and I recently rediscovered it in my collection. The book’s subtitle is, "New Thinking About Children", and it really is. In a chapter titled, "The Sibling Effect", the authors share that a child with siblings is just as likely to have trouble getting along with other children as an only child. Whew! I guess I dodged that one, huh?

Even though statistics say my daughter will probably be fine, I still have to deal with the naysayers who are certain that my child will suffer socially. Haven’t I noticed how she starts to cry when she doesn’t get her way? Since my daughter isn’t even two years old, yet, it’s hard for me to tell if she is exhibiting "only child" traits. Aren’t all toddlers shy and/or selfish at one point or another? Don’t they all get upset when they don’t get their way? Aren’t most adults easily manipulated by their child’s super adorableness? It’s not an only child thing. It’s an every child thing.

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Children And Your New Relationship After Divorce

Kids are resilient but they are not dumb.   If you are worried about what to tell your children about your new relationship after divorce, you should be. You need  to handle this like the delicate situation that it is.

They may not like to hear what you have to say and they surely will not want to be friendly to your new love interest.

There are a couple of factors to take into consideration:

1. The children’s ages at the time of the divorce.

2. The length of time between the divorce and finding your new love interest.

For a long time after parents divorce, the children may think that the two of you will always get back together,  especially if they are younger in age. We all know, as adults, that this is not the case except in special circumstances.

If you have waited some time after the divorce to find someone new they may even be happy for you that you are  getting on with your life.

I do not think there are any hard and fast rules on how to introduce your children and your new relationship after  divorce, so my advice is to just play it by ear and make the introductions as you see fit.

Make sure that you do not end up “asking for permission” from your children. Your love life really is none of their  business until and unless you decide to remarry. Then they just need to respect your decision and not cause any  problems.

Most children just need to feel that they are loved and cared for.    In a divorce situation these feelings may only be tenuous at best. They may feel detached and lonely not to mention  a little lost. They find they have to look to themselves for some of their own care and, depending on their ages, may not be  equipped to handle how they are feeling fully.

The parents who are divorcing need to make sure that the children are taken care of and know that they are still  loved and that the divorce is not their fault in the least. Children have a tendency to blame themselves when their  parents break up.

Be prepared to give a lot of reassurance to your kids and let them know that even though you will not be able to see them on a daily basis any more that you still care about and love them just like you did before and you will see  them as often as you can.

If the kids are older and some time has passed since you divorced then just be honest with them about what you are  doing and who you are seeing. Give them some time to get used to the idea before you make any introductions and  be there to answer any questions they may have.

Children and your new relationship after divorce can learn to like each other but things have to have a chance to  develop naturally, never try to force your kids or your new love into anything.   If you have a special relationship with your ex … and cannot seem to get past the divorce .. perhaps you need some  help in another direction.. in fixing your old realtionship. If so… you can get that help ..  How To Fix Your Broken Relationship n

Jo James has been through life’s romantic experiences from top to bottom and back again.  He relates to most all breakup pain and get-back-together hopes that there can be and has found out through that same life’s experiences that there is always hope … even after all the pain.  How To Fix Your Broken Relationship has supported hope in many many heartbreaking situations.  Perhaps it can for you too.