Domestic violence is one of the factors that lead to high divorce rates in Generation Y marriages. Moreover, domestic violence is not an uncommon occurrence in Generation Y marriages. Domestic violence is any form of attack imposed on a family member by another, and this assault causes physical or emotional harm. In an article in South Wales Echo, Paula Hardy, the Chief Executive of Welsh Women’s Aid explains that many people limit domestic violence to the physical component, and they forget that emotional harm is also a form of domestic violence (Alford). This limitation is the main reason why many marriages affected by domestic violence do not last long. Domestic violence occurs in Generation Y marriages mainly when the victim has children out of marriage, the abuser falsely accuses a spouse of unfaithfulness, or when the abuser is under the influence of alcohol or other illegal drugs. Generally, women are the most vulnerable to domestic violence. Many Women tolerate domestic violence for a long time either because they are not aware that they are victims of domestic violence or because of fear that their action will result into more problems in their marriage. These women forget that there is a higher possibility that their husbands will assault them again, and they are willing to remain in their already failing marriages. After a long period of tolerating domestic abuse, these women give up on trying to protect their marriages and then file for divorce, or they are forced to file for divorce by their abusers.
Lack of maturity is the main cause of increasing divorce rates among the Net-Generation marriages. The number of young marriages is on the rise currently. Most young people get married without any knowledge about how to maintain a functional family. Divorce is not one of the challenges that strike Generation Y couples’ minds before they get married. Tara S. Pellegrino, a student lawyer, states, “The large majority of young couples enter this [marriage] with a sense of perceived invincibility, an ‘it can’t happen to us’ mentality that blinds them to the reality that divorce, not death, is the more probable end to the fairy tale.” Many Generation Y teenagers are used to having their parents give them all they need, so they do not think that getting married comes with some responsibilities. At adolescence, many teenagers are usually rebellious and unwilling to listen to their parents’ advice, so when they decide to get married no one has control over their decisions. In their marriages, young couples often face challenges like child rearing, financial insufficiencies, and inability to tolerate their partners’ behaviors. These challenges are the realities about marriage, which most Generation Y couples only realize after getting married. Mary Myrick, a National Health Marriage Resource Center Project Director, says, “There is often a disconnect between attitudes about marriage and the reality of getting or being married” (qtd. in “Young Adults”). Young couples accept the truth about marriage when they are finally married and experience the challenges in marriage. When many young married couples finally find out that marriage involves more than just happiness, they start thinking over the decisions they made, and decide to get divorced because they are too young to think of other problem-solving techniques.
When asked why they decided to end their marriage, most of Generation Y divorced couples, either directly or indirectly, give domestic violence or lack of maturity as the reason. Divorce is not a good trend in a society that is focusing on moving forward. According to Professor Andrew Cherlin of Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore, the impacts of divorce are usually evident in a marriage even before the actual breakup, and the children are harmed during their parents’ “conflict” (McGourt). Many children with divorced parents do not get good parenting because of their parents’ differences. Consequently, lack of good parenting increases the children’s vulnerability to peer pressure, and they may end up abusing drugs, being violent, or following through their parents’ footsteps. If this trend persists, there will be no more role models for the coming generations. Therefore, it is important that everybody works towards decreasing the already high divorce rates among Generation Y married couples.
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